I have a 19 year old daughter with a one year old son. My daughter was very spoiled, I had her late in life. When I look back, I see the mistakes I and her father made in raising her. She has two old siblings, 14 and 18 years older. We all spoiled her, I rescued her every time she had an issue, with a teacher, coworker, coach,etc. She never had to fight her own battles. Every time she got herself In a situation, she would put the blame on the other party, it was never her doing, etc. She is a kind, good hearted, loving individual, however, she desires attention, and praise greatly. She also creates drama, by lying, being jealous, etc. Her patterns of behavior show that if she doesn't get the attention she desires, then drama starts, she loses her job, relationships end, strife with family occurs. She resides with the father of the child and his mother. They have broke up twice and reconciled. He is a very good father and provider. His work is hard and requires lots of hours, thus he does not pay the amount of attention that she desires. I think being a mother at a young age has been somewhat overwhelming and boring for her. At this time, she is not speaking to myself and any of her family. She has portrayed us in a very bad light. When she told us she was reconciling for the second time with the father of the baby, we were upset, not because of the reconciliation, but because of her behavior and decision choices. When this happened she was in a relationship with an old ex beau from school, then out of the blue, she begged the father to take her back, which he did readily, for he does love her and his son very much. What upset us so much was that we told her to take it slow, the baby had gotten settled and his routine was regular and did not need to be disrupted. That she put the baby as her first priority, not her need for attention. So needless to say, she and the child left, and are now estranged from us. I have contacted her on several occasions to come and see us with the baby, she says yes, and never shows up. I have accepted and have come to terms with this, however I worry about her because of her immaturity, her unceasing need for attention, the lying, drama etc. And wonder what the future will hold for her.
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