i have a 2 year old and one on the way in January, need help on potty training my 2 year old before he comes. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Karyn - posted on 12/15/2008 ( 69 moms have responded )

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My daughter is fighting us every step of the way with potty training. short of bribing with candies and stickers, she won't go. she will sit on the potty, but not do anything and then 2 minutes she will pee or poo in her pullups!!! Any ideas at all would be awesome!!!

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Rebecca - posted on 03/25/2011

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This is a time of major change for her. don't push it but reward he greatly when she does the right thing. Spend lots of time doing the things she enjoys and every time you go to the bathroom make it a group thing. Enjoy a treat after and a bit of cuddle time. If she doesn't want to sit don't make her. It needs to be a positive experience. Any negativity can set you way back and traumatize.

Diana - posted on 01/14/2009

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When my husband and I started potty training our 2 year old it took us less then a month! The big girl panty really help as well as a homemade potty chart for stickers. Before the pottychart we had tried rewarding with stickers and mini m&m's but it didn't work. I decided to try the potty chart to show Natalie that she had something to work towards! She really enjoyed putting the sticker on the chart herself and I think she really liked it when Mommy and Daddy jumped up and down enthusiastically. She also wanted to flush the potty herself and wipe her own pee pee from the start. I found that gettting upset or frustrated when she first started only upset her and she would fight the training then. If you havent tried the potty chart, I HIGHLY recommend it....I can honestly say that if we hadn't tried it then she would probably still be wearing diapers. Good Luck!

Adrienne - posted on 01/14/2009

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At a luncheon I attended one of the guys there said they used 3 day potty training and it worked for them. I figured, hey why not. It did cost $25 to get the info and you do have to commit to 3 days of being at home and with your child the entire time - but it worked for me!!! I used labor day weekend since I had Monday off and by Sunday (we started on Saturday) he had it! That was back in September and he is still doing great! My sister in law and a friend have also used it and it worked for them. If you are wanting to get her potty trained and quickly - I would recommend this!!!!

Adrienne - posted on 01/14/2009

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At a luncheon I attended one of the guys there said they used 3 day potty training and it worked for them. I figured, hey why not. It did cost $25 to get the info and you do have to commit to 3 days of being at home and with your child the entire time - but it worked for me!!! I used labor day weekend since I had Monday off and by Sunday (we started on Saturday) he had it! That was back in September and he is still doing great! My sister in law and a friend have also used it and it worked for them. If you are wanting to get her potty trained and quickly - I would recommend this!!!!

Lesly - posted on 01/14/2009

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We had the same issue. Our daughter was 15 months when our son was born. Our first son was potty trained at about a year old. He saw daddy one day using the potty and he wanted to do it too and it stuck. Our daughter started showing interest at 18 months but she was afraid of the potty and would hold it causing constipation. She's 2 now and potty trained. What worked for us was using the cloth panties. We'd put the potty in the living room and made up a pee pee in the potty song to sing while she sat there. We made it a HUGE deal. It helped alot. She'd run to the potty and we'd drop everything. We used stickers and candies. Huggies also has a free DVD on their website. That helped alot too. Good Luck!!

User - posted on 01/13/2009

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after raising ten kids, I have found that waiting for the new baby is the best, and also, that she might just not be ready. If she is asking to even sit on the potty i would put them in cotton undies that have plastic pants over them to save your floors and furniture, and it is really yucky for them. I found with this last one, he wants to always sit on the potty, but it's the initial peeing in the potty that freaks them out...once they do it the first time, they are not quite so afraid. good luck

Mmmmmmmmmmmm - posted on 01/13/2009

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Don't force the issue...wait until the baby is born....trust me as a mother of 6, all 2 years apart...... I'ts much easier when they are a little older and have the "want" to do it themselves.  The "light " will start to come on when they see the new baby wearing diapers and themselves being so much bigger than the baby and being Mom's helper...

Kayleigh - posted on 12/20/2008

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ı had the same problem wıth my lıtle gırl she was 3 years old and would not go on the potteı or the toıletı was slowly gıveıng up when one day ı saıd thats ıt no more nappıes...

well she dıd not lıke that one bıt and she dıd ındeed wet her self a number of tımes and ı told her ıf you dont lıke wettıng yourself then go to the toılet and eventually she dıd go and we have no problems at all,just remeber to tell her shes a bıg gırl now and only babıes wear nappıes and you should get a good result.

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I know that this may not be any consolation, but when she's ready she'll let you know. My son was the exact same and would 'hold on' to do #2 until we put his pull-ups at nightime. It was infuriating! When we stopped with the pull-ups, he started going more regularly to the potty. If you search on google for children's constipation, you'll find out that if we pressure our kids too soon to go to the potty, they will refrain from doing #2 and will become constipated ... then since it is painful to have a bowel movement, they'll develop a fear and will continue to hold on to it. Although this is more common for boys than girls, it is worth the research. Good luck and have lots and lots and lots of patience. Believe a mom from a little Tarzan that would rather 'pee' all over the house to mark his spot than to go to the potty.

Shannon - posted on 12/19/2008

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My daughters are 25 months apart in age. When her sister was born I told my eldest that the store doesn't make her size diapers anymore. She was trained in three days. I just wouldn't give up on giving her underwear.

Tahra - posted on 12/19/2008

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I have a 2 1/2yr old girl and a 5 week old baby boy.This may sound a little stressful, but my daughter is in the end process of potty training. I started sitting her on the potty when she was only 12months old and now at 26 months she has just started using the potty more consistantly. What she responded to was wearing "big girl panties like mommy". The first couple times she had an accident, she felt it running down her leg and she knew she couldn't hide it verses when she had an accident in her pull-up and she thought I couldn't tell. (LOL) Once she knew she couldn't hide it when she was wearing panties, it was easier to get her to go on the potty cause she wanted to keep her big girl panties dry. So maybe you can try to take two days out of the weekend and stay in the house with her and use panties instead of pull-ups, of course she will have a few accidents( that's why you plan to stay indoors) but see how she reponds. Also get her to concentrate more on keeping her panties "dry" verses not getting them "wet."

Kim - posted on 12/19/2008

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All I can say is that he will potty train when he is ready. My oldest took to change very poorly and didn't potty train until nearly 4 years old. My youngest went to preschool for the first time and came home potty trained. They will work at their own pace, all you can do is offer encouragement and remind them what to do.

Jennifer - posted on 12/19/2008

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I started potty training my 2 year old daughter and it was very difficult, so I started giving her treats when she did her business on the potty. That worked for a little bit. I decided I needed to try something different. Everytime I had to go potty I would have her go in the bathroom with me and then after I was done I had her sit on the toilet. In the begining it didn't work so well and as soon as we were out she was wetting herself. After a few times though she got the hang of it and yes sometimes it was a pain that she always wanted to go when I went, but she caught on and then she started telling me that she needed to go. I agree with several of the other mothers, put her in undies and let her run around in just them. You might need to try several different approches and figure out which one is best for you and your daughter. Hang in there it will happen!

Heather - posted on 12/19/2008

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also everytime he had an accident i would put a baby diaper on him, which he totally hated! and that was another thing that helped him. His daycare told me that when a child can draw a complete circle thats when they are ready to start potty training, not sure how that has to do with the other... but once he was drawing circles he was on the potty!!! and tell her if she stops peeing in diapers, you can get her more toys, because you wont have to buy more diapers! he loved that! i could write a book on how many thing si tried, and didn't work, but these thing swere what worked the best! if you go to pullups.com you can order a free potty training DVD, and parent guides to getting her potty trained!

Heather - posted on 12/19/2008

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i have a son so it might not work for a girl, but since im able to stay home with him, i set a timer for 20 minutes, EVERY 20 minutes we would hear the timer go off and go sit on the potty unitll he went, we would read books, sing songs, i would turn the water on (just a drip) and try to help that way, also i took all the diapers and pullups away form him (except for bedtime) and even though i was cleaning up a mess here or there, he quickly realized he did not like making mommy upset, and he didnt like the wet underwear, I also showed him old pictures of him being a baby, and asked him if he wanted to be little baby again, and wear diapers. he was not into that! he was peeing on the potty in 2 weeks, and poop took a little longer, it took him a little longer to understand what having to go poop felt like. maybe getting her that doll that pees in the potty now will help (i dont know how that thing works) good luck!

Amy - posted on 12/19/2008

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Give it up for awhile, and don't pester her about it, 2 is pretty young and not a great idea if she's not ready, hopefully she'll let you know, esp after a few wet diapers again... let her be naked as much as you dare, that sometimes is a good prompt as it takes away their safety net

Tanya - posted on 12/19/2008

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I let my kids pick out stickers and made a calender like chart. I let them pick out a toy or something to work for. every time they went potty, they got a sticker and once the chart was full they got the toy. Using a noisy toy with buttons worked well cause, I'd let them push the button once after they went potty and they would get excited for it and want to go again. I never put pull-ups on them so they didn't like being dirty or wet. also I let them pick out special underwear and if they pooped in them I made them take them off and throw them in the garbage. The each pooped in their underwear ONCE. (Luckily since I really didn't want to buy new underwear often.) Every kid is different so I don't know if this would work for everyone but it did work for my Three boys. Good luck

Andrea - posted on 12/19/2008

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That is exactly what my two year old was doing. Then all of a sudden she just told me that I want to start going to the potty. I think they just have to be ready and sometimes it isn't on our schedules!

Ashley - posted on 12/19/2008

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We did the 3 day potty training with our son, who refused to potty train. It worked like a charm. It was three days of intense concentration on it, but he got it by the third day. Check it out on the web, I forget who the author is, but if you follow it to a "t" your child should be potty trained within 3 days!

User - posted on 12/19/2008

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3 Words: Bare Bottom Weekend! My son resisted everything, so I decided to take the advice of our pediatrician and we stayed home (Friday, Sat and Sun) where he was wearing just a shirt and socks...I put him on the potty every hour and by Monday he was out of diapers! Hope this helps!

Michele - posted on 12/19/2008

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I really wanted to try to get my 2 year old trained before his brother was born but with working full-time and being so tired it was the last thing I wanted to think about. There was so much pressure from my Mom and even some from my husband so I consulted my pediatrician who said not to try anything new just before or just after the birth of the 2nd child. I decided to take his advice and felt such relief. Other than the cost of diapers having 2 in diapers at the same time is not that bad. My son just turned 3 (,u youngest is 11 months now) and I am planning on potty training after the holidays. Most of my friends said they waited until 3 and it was very easy.

User - posted on 12/18/2008

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My daughter was about 18 mnths when our new baby came in Feb '08, & was about completely potty trained,(only wearing pampers at night ). It was a huge change when baby sister came though....she totally regressed back to the beginning stages of potty training....some things that have helped of course; praise them ,we do a big poopy in the potty song and clap our hands ; reward with fruit snacks/other treats ; & the most recent which seems to be having the most impact on her is letting her have her nails painted because it's only for "big girls "

Heidi - posted on 12/18/2008

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I agree with everyone who said "don't waste your time'. That is so true. My oldest is 3 and my middle is 19 months. The oldest we had pretty much trained before the middle arrived. As soon as we brought him home he reverted back to diapers. He was almost 3 before he was trained and that is because he was more ready to be trained. Once we stopped pushing it on him, he started doing it on his own. My youngest is 7 weeks old and my middle child is starting to show a little bit of interest in potty training. He is telling me when he is wet/dirty and will point to the toilet but yet no interest in sitting on it. That is ok, as now I know not to worry about it. He will train when he is really ready to train. No one can stay in diapers forever:). Relax and enjoy your new baby a little bit. Good Luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 12/17/2008

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been there done that a couple of times.i have four all about 2 1/2 years apart.dont waste your time. it's too late to get it done before the baby comes. even if you can get her to, she will go back to her old ways. i only got one kid finished with potty training before the next one came and thats only because she wanted to and she started at 18 months.give it up untill she shows more interest.trust me it will make it easy for everyone if you wait untill she wants too.

Shae - posted on 12/17/2008

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I wouldn't worry about training before your baby is born. My 3 yr old boy was almost ready to potty train about the time i was having my 3rd baby, and i decided that i would wait until after sge was born to try and potty train. About a month after (he was 3yr. 4 mo.), he potty trained in a day, and only had 2 accidents in the first two weeks of training, and he hhas done very well since! My advice would be to wait.

Stephany - posted on 12/17/2008

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My middle son who is 4 just recently became fully potty trained. My oldest was trained by 2 1/2. My youngest is almost a year. Pee training was easy it was the pooping we had issues with. We tried everything. Rewards, M&M's, special treats you name it. (also during this time my mother was very ill) Finally what work was buying him a new game and he only got to play it when he pooped on the potty. He has not had an accident for a long time now. Be patient and try anything and everything. Good luck.

User - posted on 12/17/2008

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Training is all about motivation .... there's nothing wrong with bribes! We found that hot wheels cars were a much bigger motivator than jelly beans. So for each big step, he got hot wheels cars every time for several days. Then of course, you have to re-negotiate... so your kid has to have reasoning skills! We're potty-training our third child, second boy right now -- he's pooped in the potty 3 days straight! And mostly dry all day. So he still gets a little treat every time he pees in the potty (jelly bean or small cookie), and a new hot wheel out of a big 20-pack up on the shelf every time he poops in the potty. And, he can't watch tv each day until after he's pooped in the potty, and on the days that he poops in the potty he gets to choose his own book at bedtime (he's still quite suggestible....)

Wendy - posted on 12/17/2008

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I would not recommend forcing potty training. It will only lead to problems, frustration, etc. Work on it after the baby is born and when your daughter is ready. Always offer for her to sit on the potty, but don't press the issue. She do it in her own time. I guarantee that by the time she graduates high school, she will be potty trained! ;-)

Kristy - posted on 12/17/2008

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I would suggest, not to forse her too much. She will when she is ready, my son was potty trained at 2. Then he reverted, cause he wasn't ready. Now he is 7 and wets the bed most nights.

Taffy - posted on 12/17/2008

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I wouldn't worry too much, unfortunately they will go when they are good and ready, as much as we would like to make them go we cannot.

Spring - posted on 12/17/2008

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congrats on #2! when i potty trained my son at 26 months it was bob the builder underwear that did the trick to get him out of diapers - he was so excited about his new underwear! we would take him to the potty every hour for a "bathroom break" so he could try and we would read books until he went. he did really well for a few weeks with no accidents and then one day when he didn't want to go to school, he told me he wouldn't use the potty at school - and he didn't! After that we had some accidents here and there but we worked through it. I would get new books (he loves reading) and even did a prize box for a little while. the accidents stopped when we changed schools. good luck!

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I used motivational charts etc from potty training.com. There is a chart on the toilet wall she got a tick when took off pants, washed hands etc, and then a sticker chart when all done. Mine is motivated by rewards and was toilet training in no time at all

Melissa - posted on 12/16/2008

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i have a 3yr old i recently potty trained n im due w. my second in january. when they show interset it a great time to encourage them w/ tons of positive re-enforcment. we tried everything from a big boy seat, stool, stickers, candy, ice cream, videos, toys to a poo poo party. he loved to pee standing up from about 18 months put going #2 took along time. delayed due to a digestive allergy. once we got past that iexpained everyone in the house goes in the potty thats what a big boy does. many hrs in the bathroom reading booksn using encouraging words.once he went we once n got his poopoo party w/ cake n ice cream. no more diapers. only once he went to sleep n now not even when he sleeps. once ur child makes that break through dont give up. consistency from then on. good luck!!!

Kathleen - posted on 12/16/2008

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Hi Karyn, We had this same problem with our now 3 year old. All she wanted was a Dora the explorer computer toy. And this started about 6 months before her birthday. So we told her that only big girls could have a computer and that if she went on the potty every time then she might get one for her birthday. It worked a treat. Good luck

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My older son was just three when we had our second child. He had fought us hard on potty training up to that point. One night while putting him to bed we were talking about the new baby and what woudl change. I wanted him to be prepared. He was so interested in what his new role woudl be i thought it was the perfect time. I told him straight forward that with more peopel in teh house to take care of, if he neded a diaper change i may not be able to do it for him immedicately and he woudl fell yucky until i could. I also told him that the better way to deal with it was to make sure he got to the potty in time and then he wouldn't have to worry about sitting in it. I never woudl have let him sit around soiled, but it did motivate him to practice good potty habits. Still not sure if he did it for himself or to help me out.

Pauline - posted on 12/16/2008

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The no diaper pull ups makes a big difference too..use big girl/boy underwear..they don't like the feel of being soaked..:)

Pauline - posted on 12/16/2008

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Hi, I have good luck potty training kids buy, getting a favorite book and just kinda hanging out reading and run water a little bit. maybe even a small cup of water too..We go about every 15 mins just to get the idea..then definitely a happy potty dance when we are done. Good luck hope this helps..

User - posted on 12/16/2008

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I'd just be patient and let it come when she's ready. She'll probably regress some when the new baby comes, so don't force it, it'll happen sooner or later! She won't go to kindergarten in pullups! :)

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I would just relax on her because if she was trained before she would most likely regress when the baby comes. When we had our second, the 1st had just turned three. She was completely potty trained, but when #2 arrived she regressed for a couple months. Then she decide she didn't like changing her own pull-up anymore. Our 2nd is 2 1/2 now, and when I first started working with her, she did exactly what you are describing. So, I gave her a break and stopped trying to get her to do it on my timetable. I think she felt the pressure. Now, she is using the bathroom most of the time. When my mom was stressing out about me not pushing her, I went on a potty training info site done by some local urologists, and they said the average child really actually is not physically ready to be fully potty trained until 3 years old, but that some do it earlier. So, don't stress yourself out too much, you already have plenty on your plate.

Laurie - posted on 12/16/2008

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I tried everything and pushed my daughter and it never worked. When I had her wear her pretty new underwear - she got so used to that, that she had her accident cleaned it up and redressed herself without a word. I would say since your child clearly just does not want to do it then don't push it. Your child knows what it's all about and for some reason does not want to go yet and nothing you can do or say will make your child go right now. Having a couple of months with 2 in diapers will be worth the aggrevation you'll save yourself. When my daughter was just over 3 finally I told her that's it the doctor said you have to go and she did. Don't stress out especially with the new baby coming. Gentle reminders and letting her in with you will keep the idea of going potty in her mind but without as much frustration. Try again in a few months with a new reward system in place! Congrats on the new baby.

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This might sound weird and add a little more work for you but my daughter was the same way when I was trying to teach her. What finally worked was I let her run around the house w/out anything on. She wet the floor once, but at the same time she didn't like that pee got on her and she began to understand what was going on. I kept up with the candies and stickers and she got it! Good Luck

Amy - posted on 12/16/2008

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I had a similar situation with my kids...they are 18 months apart. My son was having none of the potty training stuff at all. We kept trying until he turned 3 and then he was finally ready. What ended up working was putting him in big boy undies and taking him to the potty every 20 minutes (time gets longer as pottying gets more consistent). I would set a timer and he knew when it went, he went to the toilet...this took away the argument. It only took a few weeks once we did this.

Georgia - posted on 12/16/2008

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Just don't rush it. Resign yourself to the fact you may have 2 in diapers for a while. My daughter was very smart, knew her alphabet before she was potty trained at almost 3. I just gave up (after a tortuous struggle that wasn't good for either of us) and when she was ready one day she told me she wanted to go to the potty. She never had another accident after that day.

April - posted on 12/16/2008

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My biggest recommendation is NEVER NEVER NEVER use pull ups. It is just like a diaper, and I have only seen more confusion and accidents then using the actual panties or underware.

April - posted on 12/16/2008

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What I did with my son was make it a big day. I wrapped his new big boy underware and then he opened them. From that day forward he was a big boy and needed to go in the big boy toliet, I praised him everytime he went whether it was pooping, peeing or both. (It gets tedious but it helps I sware!) And he is pretty much done potty training. He only has accidents every once in a while and occassionally at night.

Jenny - posted on 12/16/2008

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I think the biggest key in potty training is waiting until they're ready. I pushed and pushed (tried EVERYTHING) I bribed with candy, I kept a reward chart, I tried just letting her have accidents with no diaper (EWW) but the bottom line was she did it when she was ready. The good news is that since I had tried everything up until that point she wasn't afraid to go potty and knew exactly what to do when she was ready. If I had to do it over again I would wait.. I realized that the messes caused from potty training are worse than changing a diaper or a pull up. I think that pull ups are very good practice for kids though...

Kelly - posted on 12/16/2008

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I also have a 2 year old and one due in January. We started introducing him to his potty, but he's not really interested yet.

Jessica - posted on 12/16/2008

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You know what we did? We were also in your situation and we went out and got our son some underwear, we got him pumped about having big boy underwear. He had a few accidents at first but then he caught on and hasn't had an accident in over two months! Yay!

Cindy - posted on 12/16/2008

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Well, I've been in your shoes Karyn. With my boys. You can spend $24 for a book on 3 day potty training. It worked. I was at my wits end.

We waited for baby #2 and then started potty training August 1, 2008. I tried pull ups, being naked, everything I could think of. I ended up buying a bissle little green just so I could keep up to my little mans accidents. It was incredibly hard to potty train Cam and change babies daipers at the same time, and have the understanding of Dad, grandma etc.

The best thing to do is to buy the book, asap. If you are working still, take a day off work either a monday or friday. Send Hubby and siblings away for 3 days. Put the potty in a bathroom. She is now your only focus. Turn off your phone. Stop just putting her on the potty. Pay attention to her only. Play games together, watch her shows. Tell her how pretty she is, how good she is. Let her pick her panties to wear. tell her she has to keep the panties dry. If she starts to pee, pick her up and you take her to the potty. If she puts one drop in the potty, praise the dickens out of her. Tell her how big she is. Tell her she needs to be big so she can help you with the new baby. You will be shocked at the end of three days the difference in your child because you are taking the time to spend with her. If she "poops" in her potty you should have something very special for her. Do not let her leave your side no matter what, kids are sneaky.

But, buy the book. The author has even more advice/tricks etc. It worked for us.



www.3daypttytraining.com

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