I have a 2 year old that doesn't speak much. Went to the doctor yesterday, and he says he is a whole year behind. Anyone else have a similar situation, and what was done about it?

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I strongly suggest talking to Early Intervention. Letting them pick it up on their own is all well and good, but if you know they are behind and there is help available, I'd rather help them along.



I have three boys. My oldest was holding full conversations at 18 months, and 90% of what he said was understood by everyone. He was WAY ahead of the game. His high verbal abilities and other things have him being watched and evaluated for possible Asperger's.



My second son is almost three. He was evaluated by Early Intervention and found to have a mild speech delay at 15 months...not enough to gain services. Then at 2 1/2, his speech had not improved over the period of about 6 months. I had him evaluated through CPSE and he was found to have a moderate speech delay (and moderate fine motor skill delay)...enough between the two to get services. He has a very large vocabulary, but his articulation is such that only about 20% of what he says is understood by anyone other than me (or his brothers). His speech delay and other things have him being watched and monitored for PDD-NOS.



My third son just turned two. He wasn't speaking at all until about 2 months ago. He was evaluated by EI and found to have a severe speech delay and his services began the following month. He's showing no other signs of any problems.



A speech delay doesn't mean anything is necessarily wrong. However, there is nothing wrong with having him evaluated...either you discover there is a need and you get some help for him or you discover he's not as far behind as first thought.

User - posted on 11/24/2008

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Don't listen to the doctor!!! every child grows at their own pace. my 4 year old was talking at 1 year and potty trained by 3, my 2 year old still doesn't speak much, but she was fully potty trained by 22 months!!!!!! just keep talking to your child and they will pick it up when they are ready to. trust me!!!!

Jamie - posted on 11/24/2008

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My son is 18 mo and we are getting his hearing checked and then seeing a speech therapist for an eval. His pediatrician feels he should be talkind or attempting to talk (anunciating -sp?) more than he is so we are starting there. Be prepared, I was told they are each an hour long, so I would try to plan around nap time if you want your toddler to even remotely cooperate for an hour! My daughter had tubes at 9 months, and my son has never had them, so maybe we will find it is his hearing. Or maybe we will find out he is fine and he will just deside to start talking on his own! We will have to wait and see!

Sara - posted on 11/20/2008

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when my son went to school he could barely say a sentence. he could not use his tonge properly. one of his biggest problems at school was spellings as he spelled words as he said them. he had speach therapy for just over a year and lots of help at school. he is now 9 and has caught up with all the other children being in the highest groups for spellings, maths and english. i would'nt worry to much as you have found out while he is quite young, two years earlier than my son. keep your chin up and good luck x

Jessica - posted on 11/20/2008

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My friend has a 2 yr old with the same issue, she's seeing a speech therapist and the difference is amazing. She also attends daycare to help prepare her for pre-k since she is kinda behind.

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Jenette - posted on 09/09/2010

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I think that 2 is kind of the magic age as far as speech is concerned. The professionals want to wait until then to see what your child can actually do and what is a delay. My daughter was able to get across what she wanted, but was behind compared to her peers. But, I waited and worried, thinking that she would correct herself and figure it out (after all, she is a smart girl). But, the longer I waited, the more behind she got. So, we got her tested (even though her doctor thought she was still in the acceptable range for speech) on our own. It was free and extremely helpful. They did a hearing screening (which turned out fine), a development screening (Brigance) and then the speech test. She did great on everything but the speech and so we started therapy soon after. I've learned a lot through this experience and so has my daughter. One thing, is that speech problems can run in families, which I didn't think applied to me until I started asking around and found out that a lot of my family members had speech therapy when younger.

I would suggest getting your child tested. There really is no harm no foul here. It's not an invasive process. If your child doesn't need speech help then they will let you know. If your child does, than the earlier the start, the better. I would caution you on putting it off, no matter how many great stories there are out there of children just speaking in complete sentences in one day. Those children probably wouldn't have needed services in the first place or would only have needed it for a short time. Maybe yours is like that, maybe yours is more like mine. My speech therapist said that usually by 2nd grade, a lot of the speech problems have been worked out with most kids. Good luck.

Eileen - posted on 11/24/2008

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I know you have heard a lot of responses and it is difficult to determine the best path to take. I work in Early Intervention and it is a parent driven program. In my opinion the best path is to get the evaluation and then if they even have concerns you can decide whether or not to pursue therapy. I would be willing to talk to you about the process (at least what I know about Illinois' program)

Wendy - posted on 11/24/2008

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I agree that Early Intervention is a wonderful thing! You might be able to get testing done through your insurance as well, some places do "out patient" theraphy, but EI is usually more local & either free or low cost. My son was slow to talk, had him tested at about 16 months but then waited (he'll talk when he's ready right?) but then called EI when he turned 2. Took almost a year to get him to expand his vocabulary and now at almost 4 you wouldn't believe the difference.

Martha - posted on 11/20/2008

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Every single state has an early intervention service that will address speech issues, among other developmental issues. The first phase goes from birth to 3 years and is available to every child who shows at least a 25% developmental delay in a specific area. These services are provided in your home and are completly free and they don't mean that there is something "wrong" with your child. They are an EXCELLENT resource and the focus is to give the parents the tools to help their child develop their language. Typically children innately learn on their own and then at a certain point need to be taught, which is when they enter school, however some children need that assitance earlier. Early intevention is the most important tool a parent has in helping their child reach their potential when there are delays. I can understand, that some parent's did "wait & see" and their child did catch up by themselves but if your child will eventually need some assistance in their language development it is better to have it happen sooner than later, The goal of early intervention is that children that do have these difficulties will have them addressed before school begins and that they then can then prosper in their educational environment like their peers. Your pediatrician can let you know the name of the early intervention program in your state but you do not need a doctor's referral to get in the program. It is your child's right as long as you ask for it and you show the need, By law your child will be evaluated within 30 days of inquiring and services by law will start within 30 days of qualifying. My child entered early intervention at 18 months with no real words or consonant sounds, & today at 2 1/2 she is a vibrant chatty girl with hundereds of words. I also recommend talking to your doctor about adding in an omega three fish oil supplement to your son's diet, this really works for some kids with speech issues - for my daughter it was when her language really expoloded. I can not speak highly enough of early intevention! Also, there is a language program called Hannen that teaches parents to effectively communicate with their children who have lanuguage delays or disorders. Most early intervention programs can offer this course or you can purchase the materials independantly - The book "It takes two to talk" will offer enormous insight (available on amazon) to a parent facing a speech delay. Hope this info helps :)

Angel - posted on 11/20/2008

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Both of my children have a speech delay. They both went to see a speech language pathologist. My daughters delay was more severe (she had had some problems at birth) so she went to a special preschool that helps with language. she is now 5 and talks very well. i am very happy i got her checked out early, now she will start school on equal footing with her peers

Fontea - posted on 11/19/2008

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my 5 children have grown up now but the eldest boy had 2 older sisters who did all the talking for him until we stopped that at a very early stage.i always talked to my children and not at them .My grandson is 9 its amazing how many people say you can tell he is with adults alot.Good luck

Aleesha - posted on 11/19/2008

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How can he be a whole year behind if he's only two. My daughter is 16 months and doesn't say much at all. I always get very worried about autism because of the vaccines, has he been tested for that? Also, I just would reccommend talking to him like a big boy, like you would an adult and always tell him what your doing... just constant verbilizing! He'll catch on. Don't worry too much about what other kids are doing, he will on his own time, your the mommy and you know what's best!!

Georgina - posted on 11/19/2008

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hi all, it isnt untill you read pages like this that you realise how common slow speach has become. my son will be four tm and it has taken the doctors that long to realise he has some sort of problem with his ears (although they havnt decided what). i thing the comments and help put on here is great and i will be taking alot of the advice and using it!!!!

Mollie - posted on 11/19/2008

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One of ours had speech delays. We went through all the hoopse trying to improve this and no therapists were very helpful. When he was four I started teaching him letters and their sounds. When we sat and focussed on each sound and isolated them he was able to practice and work it out without even realizing that it was for speech. He also learned to read early as a result. Now he still has some odd sounds in his speech, but it hasn't been a social issue for him at all. Also, we made up signs for things when he was 2 so that he could still communicate without being so frustrating about saying the same thing over and over again. Keep an eye out for other sibs. The older kids are the role model for their younger sibs. We discovered that our younger son started talking just like our older one even though when we isolated sounds he could make them clearly. In that case just repeat it right and they seem to get on the right track pretty fast.

Michel - posted on 11/19/2008

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I have a 22 month old and she has started speech therepy and special instruction since she was 19 months old, she has made a little progress but she will contunue to get the therpy, I suggeset early intervention if possible.

Kitty - posted on 11/19/2008

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depending on what state you are in you can get free help.. in Pa we have the Intermediate unit. You should call your local health office and they can direct you. I had my son evaluated and he was a bit behind too but will get re-evaluated to see if he needs therapy. Its great and early intervention is the key. Just keep your head up and keep him socialized with kids his age so he can hear them speak too. Good luck

Abby - posted on 11/19/2008

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Hi. I have a BS in speech-language pathology and audiology. My first child did not speak until he was 2 1/2. However, I did have him evaluated. It's important to find out what your child doesn't have. I hope that makes sense. There is a free program out there called Babies Can't Wait. You call them and arrange an evaluation. This is not a panick situation. A lot of children talk late but it's better to know what you are dealing with early on so if there is a serious situation, it can be taken care of. The earlier the better when it comes to language. I hope this helped even a little. Good luck.

Meg - posted on 11/19/2008

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Do not wait to get an evaluation by Early Intervention or by a private speech therapist. Taking the "he will talk when he's ready" stance is never a good idea. I don't see any drawbacks in having an evaluation done. Best case senario - the specialist tells you everything is fine & gives you some pointers to encourage speech development. Worst case senario - they refer to you regular speech sessions or another specialist. Either way, you will feel relieved to know that you are doing everything in your power to help your son.



Also, regarding sign language. Check the internet or your local library. My son (who has a speech disorder diagnosed at 27 months) loves the "Signing Times" series with Alex & Lea!! It has taught our whole family how to sign.

Stephanie - posted on 11/19/2008

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I have a 5 year old that has had a severe speech delay since she was 2 years old. We have had her in speech therapy since this time. Finally this year she has picked up more then she ever did before. It is very frustrating for you and your child I know! We used a lot of sign language at first and that seemed to help a lot! Good luck!

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My son just turned 3 and I had to face the fact that I am the only one who can understand what he is saying. He seemed to begin speaking on time, but that doesn't always mean there aren't issues. Hearing and mouth deformities have all been ruled out as factors. He's a bit of a perfectionist and for the longest time I would get "NO" in response to asking him to repeat words after me. Now he's a bit more agreeable and we've been paired with a speech pathologist whose services are free of charge because she works for the school district. We live in Kansas, so there may be different options available where you live. And I do second the response from Kelly. There are many other measures of communication and understanding than simply speaking at this age. Seek out infant/toddler developmental screenings and/ or contact your local school district to see about getting in contact with professionals that can evaluate and start working with you and your son or put your mind at rest that he may be within normal for this.

Tonya - posted on 11/19/2008

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Hello all! Do I have a story for you. My son JUST started talking about 6 months ago which put him at 2 years and 9 months. He had terrible ear infections for the first year of his life and had tubes put in at a little over a year old. That was 02/07. We kept waiting for him to start talking but nothing. We took him to Bright Start (which in GA is the early intervention program - that yes, is free and worth it) and they also agreed taht he was developmentally behind. They started him in speech therapy. He had that for six months and he never spoke a word. You could see the frustration in him not being able to communicate and it was terrible. The entire year we spent going to the neurologist, getting him two MRIs, tested for autism (which we were told he was), started him in occupational therapy too, etc. I can;t tell you how much time and energy we spent trying to figure out what was wrong with him. Well we went to a new ENT when he got another ear infection and the doct informed us he needed another set of tubes. Keep in mind that my son had been to the doctor no less than ten times in the year of 2007 and we were always told that his ears were fine, great, tubes looked good, etc. After his second tube surgery in April of 2008 we were informed that his ears were AWFUL, completey full of congeled fluid and his adenoids were removed because they were really inflammed. Within two months he was talking, within six he is saying three to four word sentences, he listens to me now, knows all his colors, shapes, his name, his age, how to spell, he sings constantly, etc. ALL because his ears were bad. We immediately quit the pediatrician we were seeing because they screwed up so badly. But before you start thinking there is something wrong have him checked out by an ENT. My son is NOT autistic and is very loving- he just couldn't hear to start learing how to talk and communicate. Good luck

Jennifer - posted on 11/19/2008

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all mom's get worried when their child doesn't talk. We as mom's hate the fact that other children may talk and ours doesn't..... just like everyone is different. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT....

If you are a first time mom, have you noticed when your son needs something you just give it to him? Or if you are getting cup do you say his name and ask him if he would like his cup? I had had this issue with my first born. She didn't say a lot and it hurt my feelings one day when a friend said "you really need to get her evaluated by early intervention... my son talks ll the time and she doesn't talk hardly at all! " I wanted to punch her in the face b/c he son was the 4th child for her.... this was my first.. he had much older siblings to hear things from all day and my daughter just had me 90% of the time b/c my husband is military and gone a lot.... But I soon thought maybe I should get her evaluated. So I did. my 2 year old was on a 5-6 year old level in developmental, and fine motor skills. She only needed Articulation for speech. .... it was't as bad as I thought. My daughter got her evaluation and was attending a 15 minute speech class twice a week at the school near our house. She was also attending a private school and they saw a huge difference in her speech b/c she finally wasn't "affraid " to talk b/c there wasn't a fear of correction. Kids are affraid to be wrong when they say words. so if he is constantly being corrected or asked what did you say.. he may not be speaking b/c he is unsure of himself.

A DR ONCE TOLD ME about my 1 year old...... Kind of the same thing this DR told you.. I had my son in a DR appointment.. and she looked at me and said how old is she... I said 1 why? She said I was going to refer you to go to a speach therapist b/c her words are horrible. ( she and my son are 15 months apart and about the same size.. people think they are twins! ) i looked at her and said I didn't think 1 year olds needed to be scholars at 1... and read books! and she didn't say another thing. Needless to say I never went back to that DR. Kids need to be evaluated by a speech therapist or pathologist... and there is a series of test they do. you will be amazed watching your child do some of the things....

1 thing you can do with him prior to going to make sure you talk to him like an aduly. Big kid/ people words.. no baby talk. Try and understand his words and repeat what you think he says other than just asking " what did you say, I don't understand"... exp:

What does "sam" want in his cup? Or ask him what would he like for lunch verses do you want chicken to eat today.... ( asking him what does he want for lunch gives him "thinking" time and time to tell you , Mom I would like to have a sandwich? those sorts of questions encourage talking) It's hard but it pays off...

I just recently had my son who will be 4 evaluated b/c I thought he was behind on the learning part and not so much on the speech and i found out he is actually "gifted" and I am the boring one... he doesn't listen to me b/c I am not interesting! HA HA... I am not being creative as they put it. I need to find ways to give him creative things to do.. he's bored so he is acting out...

So do not listen to just one DR... Do not let that one DR make you think your child isn't smart! I would get him checked ( call your local elementary school and ask them who you should call) and then when you get the resluts take them to that DR and let himknow he was wrong and he shouldn't discourage parents like that.

Good luck and if you need anything or help or ideas let me know...

( mom of now 4 and they are all different! )

take care!

Judy - posted on 11/19/2008

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It is important that you watch him and start teaching him sign language. That will relieve some frustrations and put his mind in the language mode. They have little DVD's at the library in Wauwatosa and many other library's that help with sign language. The Signing Time ones are wonderful. Then he may just start talking on his own but if he does not by about 2 1/2 or 3 you should start speach therapy. Most kids do wonderfully after speach. Both my grandsons had the problem. One is 5 now and we wish he would stop talking. The other is 14 and very smart. No sign language with the first but we learned how much better it was with the second when we taught the sign language. It was fun for the whole family, even grandparents to learn.



There are places you can get the therapy based on your income and the puplic schools offer it free after the age of three. The first thing they start with at speach therapy is the sign language.

Rosalina - posted on 11/19/2008

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My son is almost 2 and is getting speech he was behind but with all the interventions and suggestions he is slowly saying words and definalty communicating with us so much better, the free services usually last until their third birthday then the public schools take over, so if you can get him into a program ASAP they will continue to guide you as he gets older if he still needs the services, they come to you house so that is a plus. Good luck.

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My first didn't say much of anything untill he was 2 1/2 years old. My second starting speaking alot sooner and I think that it was because he had an older brother. My third is behind in his speech because for the first year of his life he was getting ear infections and his ears were plugged full of the infection. He had tubes put in at the age of one and has been fine ever since and his speech is coming along beautifully. Is your 2 year old your only child or do you have more? I think the more children are around other children the more they pick up, in saying this sometimes it's just their personality and they will speak when thay are good and ready. If your little one can comprehend everything just fine then I wouldn't worry about it.

Mikaela - posted on 11/19/2008

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Don't worry! I have a boy who didn't speak until he was 3 at all. He's now 5 and he speakes just as well as all his friends. Read and talk at lot to trigger the talking.

Mary - posted on 11/19/2008

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I have had a similar situation with my older son and I got him evulated by our local school district. And he qualified for special education preschool. In matter of months, he was talking and making sense! I never regretted sending him. I'm now looking into it for my other son.

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my daughter is coming up 19 months and says a few unclear words and most of the time just makes a noise to sound like a word. im gettting worried but shell do it in her own time whn she is ready!

Kenesha - posted on 11/19/2008

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I had that problem when my son was almost 2 years old but as soon as I put him in a structured daycare, he just started talking up a storm. Now a days, I can't get him to start talking. Does your child interact much with other kids?

Hollie - posted on 11/19/2008

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We started my son in speech therapy at about 2 years old, he was not saying any good words at all. Some people said it was too early but we thought it could really help. We also put him in daycare two days a week so he could be around more language. He was in the speech program for 2 years and it did wonders. The speech therapist I got in contact with through my doctor....it was free. It was located at my locaI hospital. I think all kids are different and they will learn at their own pace, but helping them along the way is always good. My son is now in sk and doing well, he was released from the program this past summer. My next child at the age of three has better grammer then I do.ha ha :) They are all so different. Good Luck.

Sabina - posted on 11/19/2008

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My son had fewer than 10 words at 2 years old. I had him checked out by Early Intervention people and they found him to be on the low end of the "normal" range. To qualify for EI services child has to be at least 25% behind in one of multiple areas they check and he was not. They look to see if he communicating - that is more important than how well he speaks. They also noted that he was very active and suspected that that was one of the reasons - he just does not have time to focus on language. He would not let me read him a book or anything. My son will be turning 3 in January and I still feel like his speech is about a year behind (compared to other kids his age - just now putting together words and learning new words every day) but I think he will be catching up soon. He has been talking up a storm and now enjoys books. I know how you feel so I would suggest you call Early Intervention (go to the county website and check under services) and have him checked out. If nothing else, it will give you a peace of mind. Our pediatrician is older and very experienced and told me from early on she suspected my son was the "engineering" type which typically talks later. My neighbor’s ped is telling her to call EI for her 18 month old due to her 5 word vocabulary. So, it really depends on your pediatrician as well.

Wendy - posted on 11/19/2008

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My daughter didn't say anything at two, and then suddenly began speaking in full sentences. She did have an older sibling who "spoke for her" much of the time, but it almost seemed as if she just didn't think it was necessary. Now she is in high school in all advanced placement classes with a 4.0 and the guidance counselor tells her she can basically choose her college. She was IQ tested in 4th grade for the gifted and talented program and the results were "genius". I wouldn't worry too much just yet, they all do things at their own pace, and if everything else seems to be on target with his development, I'm sure he'll just start talking up a storm someday! Good luck.

Danielle - posted on 11/19/2008

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I have a very personal, similiar experience. I didn't talk until I was 2! My mother thought something was wrong and brought me to the doctor who then sent me to a neurologist, and after nothing was found....a few months later....I began to talk....full sentances.....so I believe every child is on his/her own path and we all develop differently and at different rates, that's what makes the world so interesting, nothing is wrong.......your child will talk when he is ready.

User - posted on 11/19/2008

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We had a similar problem with my now 2.5 year old. At his 2-year old check up, the Doctor suggested a speech pathologist. She was very nice, but told me not to worry about it until he was 2.5 or 3. The funny thing is that he was talking and signing, just not putting words together. The week I went to the speech pathologist he started putting those words together. He is now 2.5 and says full sentences. He grammar is off and his pronunciation isn't the best, but to be honest both my husband and I went to speech class throughout elementary school so it really doesn't surprise me and I am about to finish my PhD in Accounting (in other words those speech problems didn't put me behind for the rest of my life). I guess what I am saying is that you should take it one step further and see a professional, but don't get too worried about it because you never know what is right around the corner. Check your school district, they may offer free speech pathology through your area elementary schools (my area starts these services at 2).

Tina - posted on 11/19/2008

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I have a 27 month old where the words are just coming--speech therepy is an awesome idea and gives u great ideas. When your kid says a word add another word for a two word sentance if he says 2 word sentance expand it by adding a third word and so on it does work, be repetitive also which works...flash cards are an awesome idea also, it comes so dont worry about it.

Sandy - posted on 11/19/2008

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Hi. I'm a grandmom who potty-trained my two children and one of my grandsons. I used Dr. John Rosemond's method called "The Naked and $75" method. Try googling it. Check it out. My 3YO grandson was peeing on the potty sometimes, but would never poop, before this method. It took only about 2-3 days to get him using the potty for all his potty needs. Good luck!

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My son, now 3 yrs, 4 mos. was quite vocal, but had not words (just lots of screaming) at 2 yrs. old. He had literally no words. We got his hearing tested, it was fine. We got him assessed by a speech therapist, and they agreed that he should have some words, and we were put on a waiting list for speech therapy. (I'm just outside of Toronto, but I have no idea what the situation is like where you are).



While on the waiting list we had about four visits (over a year or so) with a speech therapist where they gave us things we could do at home. They were pretty logical things, just emphasizing pronunciation, and encouraging him to speak. Don't assume what he's trying say or say the words for him, make him try to say it, and be really positive and encouraging. Don't try to do everything for him, before he wants it... for example, don't give him a drink automatically all the time, make him ask for it. IOr rather than just asking yes or no questions, encourage him to say that he wants "juice" or that he wants a spefic toy (not saying to him "do you want this"... give him a choice, so it encourages him to say the item). Do it in a fun way, just throughout your day point out the words for things, and make it fun. And read, read, read! Talk about the pictures, the colours and ask him questions about the book.



In our case it ended up just be a time thing. He's fine now. He did eventually did develop words, and he's basically age-appropriate now. He just needed to do it in his own time. But he was late... he didn't even say mommy or daddy til about 2 1/2. He now talks all the time. His challenges now are mainly letter combinations, such as "tr", "br", "str", etc. But that is normal.



He also did a lot switching syllables, and occasionally does that now. Such as he says "chepik" for "ketchup" or "mucis" for "music"... but that seems to be gettnig better too.



The therapy was helpful in identifying whether it was his understanding or just his ability to repeat the sounds. And what kind of sounds were the problem, i.e. was it a problem with entire syllables, or the soft sounds (like s and c) or the hard sounds (like t and d). I found the therapy didn't make a HUGE differenece, but it did help focus us a bit. But most of what they suggested came naturally to us anyway-- we just naturally incorporated playing with letters and sounds into our play and every day activities. And again, make it fun and really positive and encouraging.



But if possible, do get his hearing assessed, and see a speech therapist. It could be something more serious, but it can also be nothing more than he just wants to do it on his time (and boys do tend to be behind in things like speech -- it was ALL boys who I encountered while working with the therapists).



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take him to get checked out for speech therapy, my son didnt talk till 2 and a half, and if it werent for speech therapy i think he would have been delayed much longer.. good luck!

Eden - posted on 11/19/2008

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All of the suggestions were wonderful. Hearing test, early intervention. I used sign language for my daughter's everyday words. She didn't talk until about 18month. Her brother's talked at about 6 months. It lessened her frustration when i didn't know what she was trying to say. The american sign language website tells you and shows you how to do the signs. just speak the word when you do the sign. It will halp with communicating until the problem is solved.

Sarah - posted on 11/19/2008

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my 2/12 year old doesnt speak much either .he speaks when he is at home and places that we visit alot .he is also my third child and has two older simbilngs that speak for him . all of his other developmental milestone are normal or ahead so im not to worried he comes up with new words all the time and even says a few simple sentances .we have went to speach tereapy and it didnt help much being he is very shy .so i just work with him a little bit every day .i wish you the best of luck with this and try every thing you can to help him out

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I don't know sign language and have never used it, but one day when he was hungry he just used the sign for hungry or eat. He put his two fingers together and brought them to his lips. Seems like he was trying to communicate in a different way because for some reason he can't use words to do so.

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I think we have to remember that God has made each child unique, and in their own time they will communicate in the way that works for them. Some kids "study" a lot. My grandson turned two in late September, and up until that point, he wasn't talking much, and I was a little concerned. But since he turned two, he all of a sudden started mimicking and saying many more words--no sentences yet, but much more animated. I have also been working with him since early on with sign language, which he still likes to use sometimes. And I love to be expressive with him. What a joy he is! Now if we can only get him potty trained. :)

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Was he a premie? Did you use sign? Does your oldest speak for him? Do you think he is a year behind? My oldest was and is a thinker...I took Deaf Studies in college, my minor, and so I loved teaching him signs. On top of his "wheels turning" about many things he watched or saw, he used signs instead of being verbalizing...At around one I stopped signing and started just using words. He was already saying the usual words but with in a few months of stop using sign he started saying other words and now he wont stop talking :)

Have you had him tested by a Speech Theoropist? They might beable to help you find ways of getting him to verbalize too.

Terri - posted on 11/19/2008

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I know this sounds like a stupid simple question, but has he had his hearing checked? When my now 8 year old wasn't talking at 2 years old, we had his hearing checked. He had 80% hearing loss! This was due to several ear infections, and once he had tubes inserted in his ears he could hear and started talking. Something to look into. Good luck!

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My son was not talking at 2 either. At the time we were in the military and his general practioner referred us to a neurologist. Supposedly he was the best in North Carolina. The Neurologist evaluated him using several different strategies....stacking blocks, waving hands..etc. He pulled out a book on Autism. He said if a child shows 5 of the 6 signs in this book then he will be diagnosed with Autism. Our son displayed 4 of 6 signs! I was scared, needless to say. We ran all kinds of tests including an EEG. I hated seeing my child with tubes running from his scalp. It seemed all so sudden. One day we're at the doctor's for a well child appointment and the very next day we're at the neurologist and having tests run. Two months later he already had about 20 words and just continued to progress! I'm not saying there is no cause for alarm...your child may have some developmental issues, but that doesn't mean they will be hindered growing up! My son is 7 and in second grade. He is almost a full year younger than some of the kids in his class and he has all A's and B's. Mostly A's. He did start slow developing in a few different areas, including potty training, but he is a brilliant child today! Be cautious of course, but you know your child better than anyone. What is your heart telling you? Mine was telling me that nothing was "wrong" with my child...and nothing was. He just wanted to things when he wanted to do them! Good luck!

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Thank you to all that have replied!! It helps so much to hear about other situations similar to mine. MOMS RULE!!!

User - posted on 11/19/2008

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When my nephew wasn't talking at the age of 3 he was tested for autism because everyone kept scaring his mom, telling her he should be talking by now. She was able to communicate with him fine even though noone else could. Now he is in 8th grade and when he was about 5 decided it was time to communicate with everyone and is perfectly normal, intelligent, and active in social events. I think you should give him time if the two of you understand each other. Also, look for other development issues and any family issues that could be causing him to withdraw for now

Evelyn - posted on 11/19/2008

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Relax! It will come! After having 4 kids, I learnt that they all will talking WHEN THEY FEEL LIKE IT. If your son has developed normal in every other thing, this too will come along!

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I agree with getting help as soon as possible or at least tested from a qualified professional. Some insurance plans cover private visits to Speech if they do not qualify for IU

Roxanne - posted on 11/19/2008

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My daughter was not speaking really at all went to the doctors and talked to him and he told me who to call as I did that and set up an appoinment for them to come out which was 2 months later and she woke up one morning before the appoinment and just started talking and has never stopped. She was about 2 years and 2 months old when she said talking and the only thing we did was flash cards with her. Did that help I'm sure it did to a point but she now can say everything and sings to songs. So I really do believe that chidlren do things on their own but try the flash cards and anything that he can see the picture and the word or the letter it starts with. But have you checked on his hearing? Sometimes kids dont talk becuase they cant hear. That's what happen to me and they final found that out when I was three going on four and by that time I had alot to catch up on so if you have not checked into that I would soon. It might save him from being behind in school. Wish you the best of luck.

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Gee, nothing is worse than having a DOCTOR tell you that your child is or is going to be behind. My daughter Cora didn't talk much either until her sister was born (2 1/2). She almost NEVER talked around strangers too. Fortunately for me, one of the pediatricians at the clinic told me he (a doctor) had not said a single word until he was three years old. If the only reason the doctor thinks your son is behind is because he doesn't talk, your doctors an idiot. He also only saw your son for ten minutes or so, instead of living with him for a period of time. Check a couple of other "developement" mile stones. How does he do with finite motor skills? Can he scribble circles with a crayon? Does he stack objects? Does he get into stuff? You are with your son ALOT more than that doctor, and your day care provider (if you have one) is a good second check. A two year old who goes and gets a clean diaper for you when you ask, definately understands language, he just isn't choosing to say anything.

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Get a ref from your GP to see a speech and language therapist. I's working wonders for my little one.

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you need to get your child evaluated by early Intervention. Its a free service and so wonderful. My son was in it and it really helped his speech. I have many friends who used EI and they can't say enough good things about them. The doctor should give you a referrel for EI or you can look them up on the internet and call them directly. Don't wait a day because each day that passes is a day that you can be getting your child some progress.

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