I have a 3 year old boy and im having a hard time potty training him advice please

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Kim - posted on 05/03/2013

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I kept a potty in the living room, used it as a stool, chair to watch tv and everything. Then we would have nakked time after a bath. I only started nakked time when he was really showing interest in the potty. We had a couple accidents but I never got upset or mad. Then he just started using it. He was so proud!! Lots of praise and hugs and genuine excitement every time he used it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/01/2013

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Wholly shit. Yeah Dove is spot on. Forget the potty training, and just work on loving each other and getting to know one another. He needs time to adjust, and potty training can be stressful on everyone. I would let him relax. Once he is comfortable, he will be easier to train.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/01/2013

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You are welcome. Just know that you are not alone. Potty training is so hard. My daughter is trained during the daytime (just of recent) and she turned 3 last month. BUT she will NOT poop on the potty. My son was MUCH easier than her. And usually girls are suppose to be the easy ones. Yeah right.

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Michelle - posted on 05/03/2013

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Karla! I have a hard time with tantrums too..I just havent properly disciplined my almost 2 yr old ( have a newborn premie too) ever, so he thinks he is in control all of the time! And then we have a problem when mommy says so. Now, not trying to pull the age card as an excuse but I had him at 17, and at 6 months old I moved out with my baby and left the father .. he went to court and CAS and tried tearing my baby from me the sneaky legal way..anyways that only lasted 2 weeks and I got custody back bc I proved to the judge that my child belonged with me and never should be away from mama unwillingly. So, I believe both of our little ones had a rocky start for such a young life and maybe that makes us too soft on them? About the potty training, my mom always said put cherio in the toilet and encourage him to score in the circle! Ill be using the back yard nudity this summer to help him learn. Plus the cherios to aim at in the toilet. I just started putting his poos in the toilet and he says bye and flushes! Every little piece of praise matters though, I can tell he is seeking my approval, so he is currently covered in Lightning McQueen tattoos for letting me know he has made a stinky!

Julie - posted on 05/03/2013

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This sounds a bit distasteful but Try to follow me. i potty trained 2 boys @ 2.5 with deadline for preschool by 3. The trick was being bare bottomed most the day. "Play potty" out in plain view (not bathroom) mixed with other toys even. They had assess to play with, sit on and off, put stuffed animals or whatever, wed even read on iy. This was at there leisure so theyd feel in control and able to mimic @ own pace). The other odd thing that helped with bare bottom boys was access to there "hands on" penis which turns out my husband said was need to figure out " how it works" (duh). So, of course they would pee in the yard (again distasteful) but it was summer and not on a regular basis, just functionally natural soon we'd see it start and run them to toilet and say"do that here!" Same with #2, when they'd disappear and hide or squat in a corner..quick pick and place on commode. Then praise for "making it"

Karla - posted on 05/01/2013

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he was reunified with me two months before his 2nd birthday ... while i was going through the case plan i had parenting classes .

Dove - posted on 05/01/2013

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So you were separated when he was one and reunited when he was 2? It is possible he's having some issues from that... or it could just be him being a normal 3 year old. Since you said you were trying to figure out his likes I just 'assumed' he hadn't been back with you very long at all.

HAVE you been in counseling or parenting classes or something? That still might be a good place to start.

Karla - posted on 05/01/2013

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I got him back last year in February in the beginning he would listen and behave months passed by and he just started to act out and not listen then in my mind i was thinking while he was gone for a whole year and month and a half where he was at they spoiled him everything he wanted they gave it to him there have been times where ive felt like a bad mom because i didnt know how to handle his tantrums.

Dove - posted on 05/01/2013

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You just got your son back from the state? Potty training should be the least on your list of issues right now. How long were you two separated and how long have you been back together? He is probably going through some major adjusting right now and counseling for both of you might be a good idea to help things along. You should know though.... 3 year old kids are naturally VERY difficult creatures... even without all the emotional upheaval that your son is probably dealing with right now. Time, consistency, and patience will be your best friends right now. Ignoring the tantrums... or holding him on your lap (if he will let you) are my two 'favorite' ways to deal with tantrums. And then talking about his feelings... what caused the tantrum, why you said no (if that was the cause), etc... and teaching him that throwing a fit is never the way to get what you want.

Karla - posted on 05/01/2013

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Thank you ever since i got my son back from the state ive been trying to figure out what are his likes and dislikes sometimes he throws his tantrums that sometimes i dont know how to deal with them time out doesn't work .

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/01/2013

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Then stop for a while and go back to it in a month or so. Also get some potty training story books for him. That really helped with my son. I read them to him constantly.

Karla - posted on 05/01/2013

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Ive tried everything every time i put him near the toilet he cries i dont want to force him unless hes ready.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/01/2013

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Bribes. Stickers, m&m's do whatever it takes. Potty training sucks.

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