I have a 4 year old daughter and need help finding more assistant programs. Any suggestions??

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Her father is said to be either in jail or on the run, He has no ties to her nor does she know him. Is there any way besides assistance (already on fd stmps) that can help me pay for the things she needs? She is also starting school next year and I have no idea how I am going to make things work. My boyfriend helps out as much as he can and she looks at him as her father, but I feel horrible that he does so much to help me when he can. I work and am trying to finish school, any ideas?! PLEASE! I have been told to try SSI considering her father was on it when he was growing up. I read it and it states if the other parent is disabled/dead but the only thing I have found out from his family so far is he has been sent to 5 asylums so far as well as prison. I am hearing from people all over whom I have never met as well as old friends that he is also on the run as of right now. (personally dont know what i was thinking when i was younger) I dont know if any of that information helps. I just need more help now that she is getting older and is about to start school. I have posted this question once before but somehow could not get into my profile. Someone did answer back and to their question, he himself has a 4 year old son and is battling for custody with his ex wife. The problem with that being she refuses to let him see as well as talk to his son so all his money is going into that as of right now, and before anything gets said, she cheated on him while he was in Iraq and when he came back abandoned the family as well as the child and went to GA to be with another man. Once she became prego with that mans baby and saw that her son looked at me as mom that is when she became irate and decided SHE was going to take the child without his fathers knowledge and flee to GA and is now trying to take us for everything we have. He has given her just under 10,000 since she left 2-3 years ago and spends it on this new man but swears she cant afford anything. So to the person who asked the question as to why im having trouble paying for my child that is why. I have also tried looking into help for school/daycare however where I live I am being told I can not receive any of it at this time. I also have to re apply for med for her as well myself, because the people at the assistance office refuse to call back. I have left many messages as well as showing up and nobody will help. I only know about assistance and SSI because of my mother but if there are any other programs that can assist PLEASE let me know!


*I also wanted to thank anyone who has the time to read and reply back. Thank you for caring enough to answer.

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Firebird - posted on 01/10/2013

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It'll also help if you can cut back on some unnecessary expenses. I myself haven't had cable tv for about 9 years. I don't miss it either.lol Look into the things you're paying for and determine what you don't need.

Holly - posted on 01/10/2013

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I held a full time job and school part time, might have taken longer to get done, but i was able to support my kids on my own. Like my mom said, when it comes to putting food in your kid's mouths its up to you, my grandmother and grandfather had 2 jobs and at one point my grandfather had 3 jobs just to keep clothes on the kids' backs and food in their mouths. you may not be able to smoke cigarettes or go out partying, or even get your nail or hair done, but you HAVE to sacrifice for your kids.

Firebird - posted on 01/10/2013

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She clearly states Holly, that she does work, and is trying to finish school. Brittani, if your job is only part time, you may have to look into a full time job, won't be easy to finish school that way but if you're willing to work hard, you can make it through.

Holly - posted on 01/09/2013

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well instead of getting govt assistance you need to get a job, don't worry about being a stay at home mom, thats only fot the rich... being a good mom is also about earning enough money to support your family

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