Deena - posted on 09/27/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
This is how my morning went today. My 5 year old daughter asked for some breakfast. Once I gave her some cereal, she asked if she can eat it in the lazy boy. I told her no, that cereal can spill easily and that she had to eat it at the kitchen table or I would let her sit on her stool and eat it on the coffee table. This caused her to go into a fit. She then told me that she was not going to eat the cereal and that every time I poured her some, she was going to throw it in the trash and that when we ran out of cereal, and I went to get more at the store, she would throw that away also. She continued to argue like this and I continued to talk to her in a calm voice and told her that she just would not get any cereal anymore. I also asked her why she was so angry. She refused to answer me and ignored me. She then asked if she could sit at the coffee table. I told her she could. She started arguing telling me that I am not going to let her sit at the coffee table. I told her again that she could and that I told her before that she could. She told me I didn't and that I am lying. At this point, I am starting to get frustrated, so I told her as calmly as possible that I was not going to argue with her. Then the conversation went like this:
Me: I said what?!
Bella: YOU ARE NOT ANSWERING ME!!!! (Yelling)
Me: I did answer you.
Bella: NO YOU DIDN'T
Me: What did you want to ask?
Me: What do you need?
Bella: WHY AREN'T YOU ANSWERING ME????
At this point I told her that I had to get ready for work. As I am getting ready for work she starts ripping up paper and throwing it across the room. I sent her to her room where she screamed and cried for at least 10 minutes. I told her when she was done being upset she could come out and talk. When she did come out of her room. She was calm and apologetic for being "bad".
This happens at least a few times a week. I have tried yelling, being calm, etc when these outbursts happen. I might add that my husband and I run a business and in addition to us working during the week, sometimes we have to work weekends. Sometimes I bring her with me and other times family members baby sit. I don't know if this behavior is to just get attention, or if there is some other underlying problem. Is anyone else going through this?