I have a 6 month old and I am 4 months pregnant!

Adriana - posted on 03/15/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Being a first time mom is exciting, exhausting, and oh so gratifying, plan as you can and learn as you, go type of experience. And Just as I was settling into the concept that I am a mom and rolling up my sleeves for the journey of teething. Life gets much more interesting with the news of a second baby on the way. If dates, calculations, and the chinese predictor are correct our boys should be about 1 year apart! What is a newbie mom like me to do? I have been in denial, then as I try to transitioned on to acceptance I started to feel a sense of panic. So I did the next best thing... I joined COM in hopes of help. I have so many questions. And I'm in need of affirmation from experienced moms and not just my loving husband who takes everything in stride.

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Kara - posted on 03/15/2011

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Mine are 12 months and three weeks apart, two girls.
Take a deep breath. You will be fine.
Get a really good double stroller, set a routine, but be OK if things don't always go perfectly with your routine.
You will figure it all out. Just get creative. I put my older daughter on the floor of the shower, while I took my shower, and the newborn napped. I made sure to shower, every morning, and get dressed, and put on a little lip gloss and mascara, It made me feel much more put together.
I cried when I first found out we were expecting another, but now they are almost 6 and 7, and I couldn't imagine doing it any other way. Your baby items, and clothes can be passed from one to another, and with the gear, you don't have to worry that it is outdated...as you just used it! lol.
My daughters love one another very much. They fight, as all siblings do, but they always have a friend, wherever we go.
I know it feels overwhelming, but don't psyche yourself out. I promise you, that having the two close, will only be as difficult as you let it be. Keep the routine, with bedtimes, baths, and feedings, and it will be much easier. Keep them in separate rooms to sleep, too. As soon as the baby is sleeping long stretches, put him in his own room. They really do sleep better by themselves! Oh, and swaddle, for sleeping. They will start to sleep through the night, much faster.
Have your husband get up in the AM with the baby, before work, and give him a bottle while you sleep. If you nurse, pump, and keep breast milk on hand, so he can help feed.

I said it before, but I will reiterate it, you will be fine. I cannot imagine not having my two girls, and I love that they are so close in age. They play together, like the same things, and they help each other. My oldest is working on teaching her sister how to tie her shoes!
When I found out I was pregnant, again, I went out and splurged on a pair of designer maternity jeans. I know it sounds crazy, but it will feel like you have been pregnant for two years, so do something nice for yourself...nice outfit, manicure, cute haircut, whatever you choose, make sure you give yourself a nice treat.

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Christy - posted on 08/13/2011

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Also I just noticed this was originally posted in March, is your new baby here yet? Message me anytime and congrats!

Christy - posted on 08/13/2011

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Hold on for the ride of a lifetime! Rewarding and hard. I got preg again when my son was 6 months old, and she was a month early so they are 14 months apart. (will be one yr apart in school). They are now 3 and 4 and it's become a lot easier. My son has no reference point to ever not having his sister. They are best friends at times, and mortal enemies at others. I am done having kids now, but I wouldn't change their age gap for the world. All I can say is the first year or 2 is very hard (potty training, eating, sleeping, attention, etc). I kept telling myself it won't last forever, and they won't be little forever so I TRY to enjoy every moment I can! Good luck!

Emma - posted on 08/11/2011

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Don't stress My two are 14 months apart and apart from the odd day at the beginning where i thought OMG what have i done this is insanity.
Im actually really glad mine are so close together they are now 4 1/2 and almost 3 1/2 and are best friends. Most people think i have twins as my daughter is a petite so her and her brother are the same size and he has always wanted to do what his sister was doing so he walked very early, wanted his own room and big boy bed ect ect
I actually think having them close together made my life easier.

Adriana - posted on 03/19/2011

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Kara, I totally relate to how you felt when you found out about your second pregnancy, and it's so funny, I just told someone last week that I feel as though I have been pregnant for two years (lol as I cry) Your advise about taking time to invest in myself at the start of my day by simple showering and putting on a little make up is so vital! I realized how often I neglect myself and wait until I can find a gap in the day or the end of the day to shower.

Adriana - posted on 03/19/2011

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Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement. I REALLY appreciate it.

Ime - posted on 03/15/2011

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There's nothing to worry about. My third baby was 6 weeks old when I discovered I was pregnant. I was confused and couldn't abort because of my belief. My doctor stood by me and together we made it. They're both 9 and 10 years old now. When I look back, I thank God. It's not that easy, but you'll make it.

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My oldest two were a little further apart than yours will be, theres 19 months between my boys. They are 12 and 10 and a half now. Two makes life slightly more hectic but its twice as much fun too. Try not to stress about coping because you will, enjoy them while they are young.

Louise - posted on 03/15/2011

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Well congratulations first of all. Your situation is quite rare but I am sure there are mums out there that have such a short age gap between children. The next couple of years are going to be hectic to say the least with teething, solids and toilet training but once you have got throgh the first three years life will be much easier. You are going to need a support network either of friends or family to allow you to get a much needed rest. For now cherish the time you have with your first child as it is much different raising two.

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