i have a 6 yr old daugther likes to stay up at nights during school and she dont like to eat like what we eat what should i do

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Butter - posted on 12/27/2012

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ya she thinks thares something up there that shes scared of do u got facebook

Ariana - posted on 12/27/2012

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Is there a reason she doesn't like sleeping upstairs? Is she scared somehow? Maybe you could ask her why and see if you can do something to help her feel better about sleeping upstairs, or explain to her that you are very close by and she doesn't have to worry.

Ultimately though you should just continue with what I said, try to make her feel better, but if she still doesn't want to sleep upstairs you're just going to have to put her there anyway. She's probably just making excuses to stay awake.

Ariana - posted on 12/27/2012

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Make a bedtime routine and a set time she needs to go to bed. So if she's supposed to go to bed at 9 start winding down by 8 (don't run around, no tv, no major excitement). At 8:30 get the pj's on and read some books together (or some routine like that). If she refuses to get pj's on let her go to bed like she is, offer to read the books, if she doesn't want to, say I guess it's time for bedtime now then, and bring her to bed. Mayb there's another thing you do before bed that you can involve in the routine. You could have a little chat with her before bed about her day etc. then say goodnight and leave the room (turn off lights etc.).

If she leaves the room, bring her back saying 'good night sweetie, it's time for bed', if she leaves again say 'good night', and after that if she leaves just keep bringing her back. Doesn't matter if she cries, or moans, or tries to lure you in somehow, just bring her to bed. Even if you have to carry her, or bring her back 20 times, just do it.

Another thing you might do is tell her that if she leaves her room more than 3 times after you've told her it's bedtime you're going to make her go to bed half an hour early the next day (and follow through!). If she goes to bed when she's supposed to you can give her a special thing the next day in the morning (you know her best so you know what it would be...).

As for eating first try to involve her in the process if you can, so get her to make a meal with you. If there is a certain type of food she likes make that every once in a while (especially if it's a fruit or vegetable :) ).

Otherwise I say put the plate down and if she eats she eats, if she doesn't she doesn't. The main rule I would have is if she refuses to eat anything, or at least try one of everything, she isn't going to be allowed a snack. You can't refuse dinner and get a treat half an hour later. Make it into a non-issue. You eat what's on your plate or you don't. If she even tries a bite of it encourage her and tell her what a good job she's doing!

Good luck to you!

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