I have a almost 3 years old and her dad has not made any kind of attempt that he wants to see her.I have always told him he can see her when he wants thing is I was married at the time when he took advantage of me .what should i do

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because at the time the man threatened me and said if i didnt put his name i would be sorry latter. the man who raped me is a drug dealer and he belongs to one of the biggest gangs. I couldnt put myself in harms way.

Jodi - posted on 10/09/2012

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Dessie, if you were married at the time.....why did you put this man who raped you on the birth certificate as the father? I am curious, because you could quite easily have just put your husband's name anyway. It just isn't making any sense to me.

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thanks that is what i was wanting to know is if i could have his right pulled you have answered my question thank you so very much.

Jodi - posted on 10/09/2012

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So what are you wanting? I am a little confused by your question. Firstly, you should have had him charged for rape. Secondly, if he doesn't want to see the child, you can't force him. You could always get him to sign away his rights if he isn't interested in being a father to her, and have your husband adopt her.

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Yes i was married to someone else at the time and this guy that is now my 3 year olds father raped me i told him i was married and i loved my husband but he did not care about that he raped me and then when i found out i was pregant with his child he said see i told you i was going to rape you. he has only see her 3 times since she was born he has not called or contacted her since. My husband has been there for her and someday would like to adopt her.

Jodi - posted on 10/09/2012

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Can you clarify - you were married to the father, or married to someone else? And how did he take advantage of you - were you raped?

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