I have a husband that can't let go of his exes and has online sexual relationships with them and women on porn sites and craigslist personals.

Cindy - posted on 12/05/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have caught him several times. I am torn apart and keep forgiving him. He doesn't think he has a problem and hes just stupid enough to get caught. Weird for such an intelligent creature. Anyway after four years of this crap, he finally has said he "may" have an addiction. He has agreed to a lie detector test to prove he hasn't actually physically fornicated with another whore. I trust no one, women or men, and hate that I am bringing my two kids up in this kind of world. There has not been on single person who has never betrayed me. We go to counseling. BLAH BLAH BLAH. If it were just me with no kids, frankly I'd risk hell and take my life. But I have to make it for them. He is sitting here across from me and the hatred and loathing I feel is unbearable. The thought of him not in his usual chair is worse. Am I crazy. Just wanted to vent. Thanks. C

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Cindy - posted on 12/05/2013

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Thank you Georgia my dear, there is so much more to it. Just had a package of copies from his ex of emails and sexts. She was apparently pissed he cut her off though of that I am not sure. I am in a bad place, have no emotional support as all my "friends" are even more messed up than me and my family is worthless and betrayers too. I just went on disability retirement and I am too fragile to actually let go just yet. He has agreed to go to Sex Addicts Anon and seeing our counselor Monday. I see my therapist tomorrow. I am afraid to be alone and physically unable to "do it all" at this time. I have Christmas and two surgeries this month as well. Kinda stuck with nobody to help but I really appreciate your support. Sounds like I am making excuses,,,maybe I am. Goodnight new dear friend. Keep in touch.

Georgia - posted on 12/05/2013

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You should get out of that relationship. Your kids are the most important little people now. Your not do you or your kids any favors by staying in a toxic relationship. Love shouldn't hurt! Lying and porn addictions don't just go away. The more you fight the more he does what you ask him not to do. If he has an addiction, that does not just go away! He needs professional help and you are not the person to hold his hand. He has to want to change. Don't waste anymore of your precious life being unhappy and I secure because your hubby has issues. Be a wonderful mom and get out there and find a man that is truly in love with just you! I did that and I have 8 kids 6-19. Be strong! I'll pray for you and your kids. The grass is sometimes much greener on the other side! Best wishes. FYI I married my high school love 6 years ago with 8 kids. I feel like a queen and so should you!:)

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