I have a question Moms... I am currently engaged and living with my fiance. Our bills are dirt cheap all together i would say the bills are about 600 and thats including car note and rent. Im currently a stay at home mom meaning washing the dishe, cooking, cleaning, and washing clothes. I recieve unemployment which is only 178 and child support which is only 90 and this is weekly. My fiance works a good job and when she does over time her check is over 1000 dollars. Her last check was 2700 dollars. She also has two kids a 12 year old and a 18 yr old thats away in college. She gives me everything I want I really dont need or want for anything but we still split the billd down the middle.. so my qt is should she be taking my money towards bills or since shes the one with the real income and our bills are so cheap she should pay them and let me have my 270 to myself??

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Kaitlin - posted on 08/03/2012

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well, two things. One, if you aren't working, in my opinion, you shouldn't have to use the money you receive for child support on bills. BUT 'to yourself'? That's kind of crap. In my opinion, it should go to either a savings account for your child (child support at least, maybe a college fund or paying medical bills for your child, since it IS for them, not for you) and the unemployment SHOULD go towards bills or at least towards something for your family. I mean, this is your finace, right:? You two are going to get married, and be partners, parents, and best friends? Come on. If you're worried about 'having MY 270 to MYSELF'. and you were my partner, I would think that's kind of selfish. What are you wanting to spend it on? Pedicures? After all, even if you're contributing to house hold management, she's the one who is working to support her family.

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Javani M - posted on 08/06/2012

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I dont spend my money on me I spend my money on us meaning my family so dont talk on what u dont know I asked for advice not to be belittle nor disrespected

Javani M - posted on 08/06/2012

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Thanx guys my fiance and I had a talk and we both worked it out i understand her point of view and she understands mines :) and camara i am currently starting my own jewelry line n just signed a modeling contract :) thanx everyone

CAMARA - posted on 08/06/2012

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UUMMM SOUNDS LIKE U JUS NEED TO FIND A JOB OR ASK YOURSELF WAT WOULD B DIFFERENT IF THE TABLES TURNED?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/03/2012

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I would say that this is something that you should have worked out before getting to this point.

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We combine our money and pay bills out of it all, we budget our money out. Neither of us take any without the other knowing what for. Only so we can keep track of it. Neither of us keep more or less depending on what we bring in. We are a team and contribute equally.

Amy - posted on 08/03/2012

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I don't think she should have to support you entirely. I do believe that the amount of money you contribute should be based on the percentage of what you earn. When my husband and I were engaged he paid rent and I covered all other household bills. We had a joint account early in our marriage but he's not good with money so now I'm the only one listed on the account and I give him money when he needs it.

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Personally I don't believe so. I believe all money is shared and all bills are shared, but different arrangements work for different couples. My husband and I have a shared bank account we set up when we first became engaged. All our income was combined, the bills were paid and what was left was for entertainment for both of us equally.

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