I have an 11 year who scares me.

Anastacia - posted on 11/03/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have an 11 year old son scares the hell out if me. He has been diagnosed with depression, ADHD. He is currently on the proper medication, sees a psychiatrist, and has intensive home therapy twice a week. This morning was usual scream and yelling to get him to take his pills(daily occurrence). My husband got involved and still the same thing. He went out to feed our family dog and I went out to check on him and found him in the garage with an axe. He said he was angry. I got him to put the axe done and come in the house. I have been dealing with these issues since 2007. I am not sure what to do anymore. I have a cat he torments and his 4 year old sister is scared. What do I do?


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Jennifer - posted on 11/04/2013




What does the therapist say ?? Axe ? I would be scared as well ! What do u think he was going to do with it ?
What does your guy tell you to do ?

I try to follow my gutt instincts ! I don't have all the info and I know when I yell it get frustrated with my kids I get nowhere !!!! I would never try to put myself in your position ! What happened when you sit down and be honest with him ? He sounds really sad ..... Did something happen ?

I would definatly speak to the therapist !!!!!

Onetraeh - posted on 11/04/2013




umm ya tht sounds very scary;I mean especially the incident with the ax.I would definitely not have him in your house;u don't want to wind up on the 6 o'clock news.I'm sure u love him but perhaps some kind of home with verrry intensive therapy would be in order

Rebekah - posted on 11/03/2013




Are you sure he is on proper medication, or the proper dosage? If he is still such a challenge, I would wonder if his treatment is sufficient, or if he is properly diagnosed. And, if its a screaming fit every day to get him to take his meds, I would also wonder if he's getting them in his system regularly (any chance he is cheeking them?).

What do the in-home service people advise you to do? Can you get more hours with them? There are more intensive type of programs... day-treatment programs, or even a brief inpatient stay in a hospital if you view him as a safety risk. Perhaps he needs to be re-evaluated. Regardless, keep working as a family so that you and your husband can get some direction from the professionals working with him. He apparently has struggles to deal with, but the family system is very influential here too.

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/03/2013




My brother was the same way when he was little except it was due to my mom letting him get away with everything, he was out of control. Even through counseling and everything he wouldnt change. By the time he hit 12 years old she called the police for the last time and they finally took him away and put him in a group home. After my mom fighting to have him back for 2 years he came home and he was a different person.
He's back to his normal angry self now but that's because she went back to babying him and letting him get his own way.

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