i have done everything that almost that you girls have said now what?

Jerry - posted on 12/28/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )

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i have a 13 year old boy and a 11 year old girl and the boy steals and lyss all the time and now he and his sister stold my bank card to use for there nintendos and now it is being investagated and now they are eating rise and water for three months ,help!

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A - posted on 12/29/2013

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Wait first you said you did the rice thing now you said you didn't. Which is it? I would not punish through withholding food. That is abuse. Now for example my son acted up a bit today and you know what we took away his new stuff he got for xmas. Do that kind of thing as punishment

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2013

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Jerry

Could you please stop reporting posts just because you don't agree with them? You asked for advice, you are going to get advice that you don't necessarily like.

Thank you
Jodi
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Jerry - posted on 12/29/2013

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i groundid them for three days on tv and took there alouence away ,and i was thinking abbawt the rice thing i have not done the rice thing that is what i was i asced for help,! and my kids eat very well and i do not abuse my kids like you say thay get grate food.

Gena - posted on 12/29/2013

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I totaly agree with Jodi, you wrote they have been eating rice and water for three months,thats not the way to punish them! I would also take away all nintendo phones and other electronics.Put your foot down,you are the parent!Yes they must be punished for their actions but not by feeding them rice and water.

Jodi - posted on 12/28/2013

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I know exactly what I am talking about, having already raised one teen, having two teens myself, and how I would deal with it if they ever did this. Limiting their nutrition is not what I would do because it is abuse. You are the one who stated you were feeding them rice and water for three months. I was pointing out that (1) this is abuse and (2) it is not an appropriate form of consequence for the behaviour that has taken place.

I then proceed to advise you how I would deal with it, and made the assumption you had gotten rid of the nintendos. Now, you asked for advice, and I gave it. Clearly, you are so fixated on punishing your children through what they eat, that you have not actually advised what ELSE you have done as a consequence to behaviour. You keep saying you've tried different things, but what did you do in this case? Exactly what consequences HAVE you tried? Using the term "different things" gives us nothing to go with.

Jerry - posted on 12/28/2013

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yes its true i do feed my kida meat potatos and v,s i tried to do things difrent so you do not know what you are talking about dount write me agen

Jodi - posted on 12/28/2013

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Maybe that is your problem - that you have spoiled them rotten. Sorry but kids need meat and vegetables in their diet. Feeding them purely rice and water is not ok.

Now answer the rest of my response as to what "actual" consequences you have put in place, instead of just starving them of nutrition.

Jerry - posted on 12/28/2013

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thank you no more rise they alway,s eat real good vidamins always (jerry) p.s i never abuse my kids they are spoild rotten how could they do this to me.

Jodi - posted on 12/28/2013

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I am assuming you have confiscated and gotten rid of their nintendos.

You cannot make a child only have rice and water for 3 months, that is child abuse as it does not meet their ongoing nutritional needs.

With regard to consequences, as I said, no more nintendo (give them away to someone who has more respect for them), no more ANY game machines, no more TV, if they have phones, they lose them too, they are grounded, AND they have to find ways to earn back and pay back the money that they stole.

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