I have held all rhe important paper if my children since they are born. now my kids father wanted to go behind my back to get a duplicate of birth certificate and social security. I have tried to get a lawyer I can't get one I had thru penn legal. found out she sign of the case. when I went back to midpenn legal they told me that my case is conflict that they could not help me.I wander why did they help me on the first place. I don't have money to hire a lawyer know. where or how can I get on for legal advise.

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Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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I would actually suggest, if you have issues, you have a talk to a lawyer about it. You don't want him to take advantage of you, but at the same time, you have shared legal custody. It is a fine balance between recognising and accepting his rights and allowing him to take advantage.

And just for the record, I am in no way a lawyer. If it is legal advice you need, this is not the place. here, you will receive advice or opinions from mothers who have had experience, but not legal advice.

Paulna Jean - posted on 11/14/2013

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Jodi I wanted to think you so much for all the legal advice and answers you have given respond. Obviously you could tell that I am novice to this situation. Thank you once again.

Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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He doesn't have to tell you he got the information. He is entitled to it. He doesn't need your permission.

With regard to your trip out of the country, it depends what your court orders say.

Paulna Jean - posted on 11/14/2013

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Jodi I really don't mind him get information but its how he go about , because he knew I don't have a lawyer he tried to intimidate me with his. So he could take me to court for any little thing i get annoyed with it. I got a life to leave . Two beautiful children to take care and a husband to enter u.s . I really cannot go back in forth to court.No w am planning to go out of the country on February of next year for about 16 days that is without my children. What can I do in this case. Do you think I need let him know or the court or notified him with a written statement. I just don't want suprise again.

Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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You have shared legal custody. Why is this a problem? Okay, he abused you, he's an asshole. But you haven't mentioned anything about him abusing the children. Why can't he share legal custody?

And I will re-state. He is their father. He has a right to get their information.

I don't agree that he can change schools without your permission, but you need to make sure the school has a copy of your court ordered custody agreement. They then cannot LEGALLY go against that.

Paulna Jean - posted on 11/14/2013

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Jodi I was with that men for tens years. He was physicaly abuse me. I was never report him to the police. He knew what he was doing when ever police got call he open the door he act like nothin ever happen no arrest ever made. I got my own housing few years ago to get on my feet along with my kids. He did not took me to court to the whole entire time. Whe been separated but relationship was on and off until 2011 when I found someone else that I fall in love with. When ever I tried to tell him that I found someonelse he had but fear on me that I can't pass my point across. I let it be . In july 2013 I got married. To someone of my nationality. Before I went back home I gave my kids father my children clothes, foods, games including the access card. When I got back to tried to get my kids. He refuse, he change my kids school behind my back also my car back window get broken the same night that he refuse to get me my children. We went to court now we both have share legal custody. One of my problem this men won't leave me alone until he get my kids away from me for complete and I won't allow it. I felt like all his doing its kind of a vengeance. I don't want to leave in the same state with him no more. I felt like once my husband is in u.s. my ex will tried to brake up my marriage and tried to take me to court at all the time. Am trying to prevent all that shiet from happening.

Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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Their father is entitled to a birth certificate. He is their father. Why would you want legal advice over him getting a birth certificate (and I assume social security number)?

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