I have not heard from my 19 year old whom is traveling ? So upset !

Robbin - posted on 07/02/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son was an exchange student during his junior high school year in Australia , he blossomed and got the bug to travel after he had graduated. He worked very hard during the summer to save for a gap year of traveling .He paid for his own VISA /Work passport. So I was in agreement with him , and he was 18 .I put him on a plane ~ it was really really hard for me ,as I knew that I had to be brave in letting him go and have faith . He was to meet his host family for a bit ( my son and I in contact ) Then he decided to take off and explore - I luckily had his banking account information and tracked his whereabouts as well as the host family knew too . But in time he furthered his adventures . Also deciding on getting a cheap cell phone there and not using his smart phone as that got destroyed in a rainstorm. I could call , and as a Mum I did often . Well trying to cut to the chase here - He kept his important papers ,Passport and such with him .But misfortune struck ,his laptop , cell ~ stolen , and debit card compromised. I had to do a lot of digging with the banks and finally was able to get his $ wired to him. I also was able to find out with the with the wonderful Nossa police in Australia that he had come in to report his stuff and that he was alright .A bit of a surfer hippie , as he lives on the beach with many other traveling companions . The police told my son to call , because I was very worried ~ rightfully so as I had found out through e mail that his belongings had washed upon the shore.I thought my beautiful son was hurt or gone .I am fine with hippie , but at some point , I hope he tires of this lifestyle .Last time we had a voice conversation was 2 months ago - telling me he was traveling to Sweden , end of June , and planning to work with a new friend . He also said he was going to withdraw all Hus $ and he said he did not want me to give him any more money - but promised he would call if emergency.So my last e mail from him was over a month ago . He told me he loved me was happy , and well - no worries ,and that he stays safe . He is living off the grid with his French flower child girlfriend . I managed to get a message to her via FB - she sent a quick response , thank you and she thinks my son is great - What I wanted to hear was where and what my son's was I have also sent him FB messages - Please contact your Mum to let me know what his plans where and such ,at least once a month . So I could know you are okay .No one has heard from him , friends host family or his California Mum has - The quick message and picture was on June 20 from girlfriend's FB that I managed to track .I'm worried sick , feel sad and overwhelmed with fear , sadness ,anxiety .I live my only son and pray he will contact me . My question that I have been struggling with is - Do U fly out there and find him ? Or do I send out a broadcast through the Australian police ? Very intense - I lean towards have faith and trust in him , which he pleaded with me to do . I am 55 and a very sad Mum now - any advice I would appreciate . Thank you kindly .Worried Mum

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Ev - posted on 07/02/2014

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Oh, you are welcome to that piece of advice. I have a 24 year old daughter who is now married with kids of her own and a son who is 17 going on 18 soon. So I do know who it feels when the wings spread and they do not want anything to hold them back. I remember once when I was 19 that my sister and a friend who were 16 then wanted to go out of the county and over 2 or 3 counties where we lived to see one of their friends that had moved earlier in the spring. I told them only if the parents agreed. They got their wish. It was an awful weekend though in the end because things that happened were not expected at all--I will say not normal teen things. Anyway, I was responsible for those girls being safe and at one point I had no clue where they had gone with their friend and I was alone with the other people I did not know. We were lucking in that they came to the house finally. The next day we went home and after telling my mother of the events, she told me we were not going back. I told her I had already decided that myself.

Ev - posted on 07/02/2014

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Well, he is an adult and he is spreading his wings so to speak. It would be great if he would contact you more often but there is nothing that says he has to be forced to call you or FB you at a certain time though as a mom I would want that from my two kids. You are going to have to go on faith and trust here. Just keep trying to connect with him and all. Also you can try the police again but be aware that since he is not listed and you have had some contact they may not do much at all. Paying for a trip there would be fruitless too. You might not ever find him if he is off the grid and end up paying for an unneeded trip.

Sejal - posted on 07/02/2014

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God Bless him wherever he is he should be safe and try to contact you earliest I'll pray for you don't worry god tests our patience to put our trust on HIM

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Robbin - posted on 07/02/2014

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Thank you Evelyn ~ agreement with you all the way ~ Trust & faith in him , but wow I sometimes can't believe 19 is an adult , but it is - I guess I have forgotten me as 19 . Safety is myvmain worry . Thank you again so much .

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