Temper - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )
My husband's side of the family has always been selfish and rude ever since I've known them. We've been married going on 8 years and together for about 10 years. We use to pretend and get along nicely with his side of the family but we finally got a point where we can't anymore and therefore don't speak. They live in our area and we avoid each other. Yesterday we went to a wedding for my husband's sister who was marrying my husband's long time friend and mentor from his past. No one came to sit with us, just as I had expected. I was only there to support my husband for wanting to be a part of his friends day, who is marrying his sister. We were invited by his friend, NOT his sister or anybody else from the family. One of his sisters was a friend, I thought. There are 6 siblings in all, 4 are sisters. His youngest sister used to wash ALL of her laundry at my house, stay for weeks at a time while her boyfriend and father of her 2 children was off and gone drinking and doing God knows what else. When their lights were turned off, they stayed with us. When she needed someone to cry to (literally cry to) WE were there. I know I shouldn't be but it shocks me that she would take sides with the "family" and have nothing to do with us in front of everybody like that when we thought she was one of the people we could rely on to "know" at the party. I know this is silly but I have her on my myspace and I believe the only reason she keeps me as a friend is to show my nosy in laws bits and peices of our life, since we choose to not come around. Not even my husband has her as a friend. That should speak volumes I know. I am wondering if I should get rid of her..I don't think a relationship with her is repairable. I was deeply offended that I go out of my way to help her no matter who's watching and she disregards me with such ease. It's not just his sisters who are horrible, they have handed it down the line to the daughters, cousins, sons, and all if their own children. I love my husband and I'm sad that he had to come from such a dysfunctional family where everything is a competion. I'm happy and thrilled that I have come from the COMPLETE opposite! My side of the family is all we have and at this point, that's definitely enough. Should I "throw her away"? and move on, just cut all ties with her as we've done with everyone else from his side? She is the last link we have tied to that "family".