I have seen my wife looking at our 14 year old son naked.

Greg - posted on 01/21/2016 ( 32 moms have responded )

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My wife has walked in on our son while he is showering and using the baseroom. She acts like she did not know he was in the bathroom. She acts all surprised when he sees her giving him an excuse that she did not know he was in there. How do I approach my wife and ask her what she is doing concerning our son?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/24/2016

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Greg, this thread you realize just took a turn into very dangerous waters. This thread is being lock.

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2016

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So put a lock on the bathroom door so mistakes can't be made if it is bothering everyone so much.

Amber - posted on 01/23/2016

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that's what you would wonder about a man you are interested in not your son.

Raye - posted on 01/21/2016

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My step-daughter will get in the shower and ask her dad to come in the bathroom and play guitar, then she sends him out when she's ready to get out. I'm not saying this is the same thing, because she invites her dad in, and I know there's nothing going on. We've all seen each other in various stages of undress, so around our house it's no big deal.

Yes, if she's doing it on purpose to peek at him, that is a serious problem. If he's not sure, and she might just be scatterbrained, to accuse her of leering at their son could end their marriage. If the marriage ends, and he was right about her but didn't have enough evidence to prove the mother's "dysfunction", then the son could have to live part-time with her and no one there to watch out for him then. Therefore my advice was show her the behavior was noticed without accusing her to see if that would stop it. And tell the son to lock the door for heaven's sake.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/23/2016

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Thats weird. Glad you talked with her. How do you feel about her answer?

Amber - posted on 01/22/2016

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I do not agree that there is no way Catherine because there are a lot of people who are sick like that.

Catherine - posted on 01/22/2016

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She's just concerned about your sons maturity,these no way she can have sexual thoughts for her own son,that's a taboo..just talk to her and hear her and your son separately then hear the thoughts of all this.....

Greg - posted on 01/22/2016

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It is stressing me out. I don't want to make it bigger than it is or something is is not.

Denice - posted on 01/22/2016

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Sad case. Maybe she is curious about her son though. Just a thought she could be wondering how he's maturing and growing and just curious but it's coming off odd. I'm no expert just trying to see from her perspective. I think it sounds a bit strange, but I am a new mom and watching my son grow and change brings on lots of emotions. Looking at him naked at 14 is different though and you should just tell her how you feel about that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/22/2016

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Address it immediately. Like I said before, if this was happening to a daughter by her father, it would be a HUGE problem. Talk to your wife. I don't know how, or what to say, but maybe start by saying your son wants more privacy. That he will be locking his door/bathroom door when he is in the shower and getting changed. That he is uncomfortable with people coming in and seeing him naked.

Amber - posted on 01/21/2016

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I agree with little miss can't be wrong, you have every right to be concerned. I would be too

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/21/2016

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If this was a father walking in on a daughter, everyone would be concerned. I think you have every right to question your wife. Talk to your son also. Talk to him about his right to privacy, and that he should start locking the bathroom door.

Raye - posted on 01/21/2016

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There's privacy in the bathroom? When does that happen? Sorry, I know you're trying to be serious. The worst thing you can do is accuse her. If it bothers you, ask her if she's distracted by something so much that she doesn't notice when the bathroom is occupied. Let her know you're concerned about her and she can talk to you to ease her mind of what's bothering her. If she's doing it on purpose, she will realize you've noticed the behavior, and should stop. You can also encourage your son to lock the door when he's in there out of respect for the family. You don't have to say WHY.

Greg - posted on 01/21/2016

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I guess I will. I don't know if she is curious about my son sexually or just being an inquisitive mother. I guess it is just bothering me. I will ask my son if it bothers him first or embarrasses him.

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2016

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So discuss it with her. Geez. You're married, you should be able to openly discuss whatever you need to if your relationship is any good. You're a big boy, figure it out.

Greg - posted on 01/21/2016

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I don't know if it is bothering everyone else. I just find it funny that my wife is doing what she is doing just recently.

Greg - posted on 01/21/2016

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We have 2.5 bathrooms in the house so it is not like she could not have used the other bathroom. There are locks on the all the doors and I really don't want to start questioning my son about his mother walking in on him while he is using his bathroom.

Dove - posted on 01/21/2016

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Maybe she just had to use the bathroom as well....

If it bothers your son he should lock the door.

I am a single mom w/ twin girls who are 14 and a son who is almost 8 and sometimes all 4 of us are in the bathroom at the same time (one in the shower, one on the toilet, two at the sink)... lol We're family and that's life w/ one bathroom.

Greg - posted on 01/21/2016

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No, it has happened several times over the last few months. It is definitely not a mistake. I just don't want to start accusing her of something and not be really sure what is happening.

Greg - posted on 01/21/2016

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No, it has happened several times over the last few months. It is definitely not a mistake. I just don't want to start accusing her of something and not be really sure what is happening.

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2016

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It was once. It was a mistake. It happens. You all just need to let it go.

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