User - posted on 01/25/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have six kids all together, my oldest two daughters are from my first marriage. They were adopted by my husband in 2007. While my oldest seems to be maturing quite a bit over the past year, despite rebelling in nearly every way possible, her sister who is 14 months younger than her is getting worse.
She has always been so respectful and kind, and has begun to get lazy, disrespectful and foul mouthed. While I know that the teenage years tend to bring on behaviors like this to some extent, she is out of control. I, as well as my husband have tried nearly everything possible, and nothing seems to work. She comes home from school everyday and takes up residence on the couch or in front of the computer and blatantly refused to help out. I will take the mouse from the computer and that gets her away from there, but she then commences to one of her rants and we will battle until bedtime. Most recently she was to attend a birthday party and she had to clean the bathroom and the hallway to get to go. She was given more time than I should have given her to do so, three hours!!!! She didn't do it and didn't get to go. She has done nothing at all this week. Not only do I expect all the kids to pitch in simply to learn responsibility but I cannot do it all. I am currently going back to school as well as we are getting ready to remodel our home. She even resorted to punching and biting her Dad the other day!!!
Her behavior is also bad for her younger siblings, as they say big sister didn't do her work so why should I. I just don't know what to do!!!! Teenage years are not something I was prepared for, and I certainly hope I learn something with the older two to help me survive the following four!!!