I, his Mother, feels like I'm shutting down ~ so many successes but the failures are wearing on me.

Christina - posted on 06/28/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 10 year old son is beautiful and so sweet, but can't sit still, listen to teachers/counselors etc. He is being asked to sit out of activities, sent home, or just patronized in power struggles with special ed professionals. I'm lost and sad. I have always been a fighter and keep on looking for the next thing to help him. I feel beaten down. My heart breaks for him because I know he wants more than he can give and he is stuck. It is to the point that noone can handle him but my husband or I and that is hard to handle. I'm so sad for our Family and I just keep trying but every knock down I feel it takes longer to get up. I want him to Fit in somewhere and be Happy.
I told my husband that we are trying to put a square peg in a round hole. If we keep shoving hard enough we will wear down the square edges of our son, but it will always not fit. We want and need a square hole for our little guy.

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Christina - posted on 06/29/2014

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Thank you for reaching out! I will check into that. I don't want to change him, I would just like for us to blend in some and not stand out. I know that he is a gift and the last 7 months have really pushed. We went through the first 4 months with him feeling like a failure and just hurting because in his words, "he couldn't do (teachers etc)what they wanted him to do, I'm trying but can't do it like they want it" He feels better about himself now, but the bouncy, hyper behavior hinders him. He knows he is missing out~ he know what the request are but is stuck and just can't comply. Well in turn that becomes a battle and he gets in trouble. With all the issues I have just lost my way. I'm tired and anxious because when it happens and people are trying to talk to me I cry. Now I'm in public with my beautiful boy not able to control himself and I'm crying~ its a bad slapstick comedy.
I'm going to check into your website and thank you for allowing me to vent without judging~ see I just teared up again. I use a lot of humor to get through~ so I laugh and cry at the same time:)

Nidia - posted on 06/28/2014

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Hi Christina,
I know what you mean! I believe you may be dealing with so many struggles for your child being not able to "behave" as others are told him to. If as you say, you are trying to fit him, but he may probably need some other type of help. have you considered he may have some sensory process disorder(http://www.spdfoundation.net/about-senso...), I am not trying to diagnose anything just deduce from what you write... I am dealing with the same situation, My girl has a neuro-genetic condition, called Angelman Syndrome which at first was very difficult to deal with. We are still dealing with her in this condition, trying to help her... I erase from my mind that she does not have to "fit in", that is not what I should do but just to help her to be happy, that reminds me every time somebody treat her badly, or misbehave with her... with that in mind we can work on much better with her communication and we understand her much more.

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