I just came from Steptalk.org. Anyone else?
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Katie - posted on 02/21/2015
The site is meant for stepparents to vent. I'm sure none would actually hurt the children. As you know step parenting is harder than bio parenting.especially when those step kids become adults and are still sucking your life savings because they refuse to get a job and feel they are entitled.
I think this meme describes most step kids to a T. And is what annoys stepmoms who are bio moms.
There were some helpful posts but lots of times, I can't believe how horrible some of them treated their small stepkids. One had a husband that had an affair with the sons biomother before & after their marriage. Now the stepmom just takes it out on the child--and couldn't believe how others condoned that. Very very sad.
Are there many stepmom's on this site?
Jodi - posted on 06/21/2013
I'm a stepmum to two children and mum to two children. We have a bit of a complicated blended family - one of my kids is also from a previous marriage. So we have his, mine and ours, and every child in this home is treated equally (taking into account age differences etc - our oldest is now 21).
I think what you are describing is incredibly sad. The children in these situations aren't the ones who had any choice in the matter. It is so wrong to take it out on the kids. Believe me, I will defend the children every single time. The adults need to grow up.
Michelle - posted on 06/21/2013
There are a lot of step mothers here. If you hover over the communities tab at the top, a drop down list will appear. You can then select join communities and search for communities that suit you. They are in alphabetical order.
I hope you enjoy it here.
I agree. I have suggested to some women, not married yet, to just run in the other direction. It is tough. It's even tougher with a controlling biomother. HOWEVER, it is part of the "for better or for worse". It is what it is. And no amount of covering up ones tracks will work. You simply have to see the child objectively as you see you husband objectively (or at least try to). His child is part of him just as much my child is part of me. You cannot throw people or children to the side.
I agree. I think that's why I was so disillusioned. I have an incredibly hard step teen & the bio mother is a nightmare. Nonetheless, he still needs to be understood. He needs to still know his mother--how she chooses to show herself is on her but not to alienate her or him. Thanks so much for your post. I was starting to think I was in the minority here :)
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