I just found out that my 27 year old son is moving out of state with his wife and my first grandchild that just turned six months old today. I am devestated!! I can't stop crying, can't sleep, I've seen them just about every day for the last two years and keep my grandson at least once a night every weekend. How do I cope???

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Tina - posted on 06/30/2012

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Like others have said i know it's hard but it's important to be supportive. It's normal to worry. My mum lives about 2000kms from me. Just try to keep in contact as much as possible. I don't know if you've heard of skype but it's a good why to keep in touch to you can talk to your family and see them. (videochat). That why your grand child is still familiar with you and will still know who you are when you visit and will look forward to it. Or when they visit you. And I guess just save as much as you can so you can see them frequently. I know it's hard but you just have to make the best of the situation unfortunately. goodluck

Ivy - posted on 06/29/2012

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I know it must be difficult, but they have to follow what works for them. They will miss you too and it will be hard on everyone. Even though there is that distance, you can plan trips to see them.

I live in England and my family weren't happy about me might here. I believe that it was the best choice for me and now my daughter. My family gets to see me every 2 years as its so expensive to bring all of us over.

If you go see them, itll be much easier for everyone as the baby will already be in a surrounding she is familiar with daily. She won't remember your house till she's much older. Then, it can still be a big change for them to visit.

I know it hard emotionally, but the more support you give them now will make it easier when they or you want to visit.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/29/2012

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We have hit some major financial troubles but have pulled through so far. We may have some financial troubles to come, and we are very aware of that, but still. We have a roof over our heads, 2 beautiful children, 2 cars, and we love each other. We have had some issues, but have worked through them. We have been together almost 11 years, married for 7. Just please, try to show them support. That is the best thing you can do. They are gonna do this with or without your approval, and it will make it easier on everyone if you can just give them support and love. Yes you are going to miss them terribly, but that will not change them doing what they need to do.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/29/2012

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No we did not have a job lined up. We had some leads, and luckily within a week of us moving there he got a contract to hire position. We also had my sisters apartment house to move into. We were paying rent right of the bat. You have to trust that they are doing the right thing. At least for them. You can be as worried as you need to be, but please show them support. We did not get really any support. His dad really understood, but his mom was a mess. We wanted her support to., We got her blessings, but it was more about wishing us well rather than approval.

User - posted on 06/29/2012

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About 1700 miles. I have so many fears of not seeing my first grandchild growing up! We are all so close so it just makes it harder. Did you have jobs lined up when you moved? They don't neither a home, they seem to think it will be easy to get but I'm a mom just worried sick.

User - posted on 06/29/2012

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It's not possible for me to relocate. It just kills me because we are all so close. I understand they say it is something they have to do, it's just the place they are going to is a place my son has gone 4 other times and come back in worst condition financially. It is a very social part of the us and they have no jobs lined up thus far , but seem to think it won't be a problem! In this economy I'm am just so worried for them

Tina - posted on 06/29/2012

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I don't know if this is possible but could you possibly relocate to be closer to them. I'm very close with my dad. He visits all the time. He's made it quite clear if we move he wouldn't be far behind us. Have you had issues with them or it's just there circumstances that they're moving.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/29/2012

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How far away are they moving? We moved away from my in laws 1200 miles away about 3 1/2 years ago. My son was about 3 1/2, and I was 3 months pregnant. It was really hard on my in laws, but this was something we felt we had to do for our little family unit. I know it still hurts her, hell I miss them terribly. They are awesome grandparents. It made it more difficult because we lived with them the last year we were in that state. What you do need to remember is they have to do what is right for their family. Not just everyone else.

I know it is hard. I know you will miss them. But visit them as often as you can.

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