I just found out that my son posted a question concerning my relationship on a forum

Jessica - posted on 10/03/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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This is what he posted.



"My mom who is in her mid 40s is in a relationship with a guy who is apparently in his early 20s. Their relationship is merely based on sex from what I can tell. She wears low cut tops and short shorts when she hangs out with him. i moved out of the house as i'm 19 years and need to attend college so I don't know what's up with her. Is their relationship considered normal? And is her clothing unusual in any way? Do I need to interfere?"



What he said is entirely true but there is no need for him to interfere. I can't imagine my son interfering in my life and dictating me. So, is there a need to confront him and discuss this issue with him or is he just going to get over it eventually?

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Johnny - posted on 10/03/2012

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I'm not sure that I agree with Katherine. As long as he doesn't name you or give identifying info, he's really got as much right to ask a question about his mom on an internet forum as we do about our kids. If there were no posts anywhere about the stuff that people other than ourselves were doing, the internet forum world would be very quiet indeed. I see many moms on here disapproving of their adult children's lifestyles, beliefs, clothing choices, etc. and posting about it, which they have as much right to do as did your son.



But, I am sure it was rather hurtful and it isn't too kind. If you are happy and enjoying life, then he should just try to be happy for you. I see no reason why you shouldn't discuss his feelings about your life. You have every right to live your life the way you see fit, without him dictating to you. Perhaps you need to have a little chat about loving people for who they are, regardless of whether or not you would make the same choices as they do.



I would like to hope that as he matures that he figures it out for himself. However, you wouldn't want this interfering in your life in the meantime....

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Katherine - posted on 10/03/2012

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As usual it didn't occur to me that we do indeed talk about our kids on here. And you're right, as long as he isn't naming her he should be able to vent.

Katherine - posted on 10/03/2012

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Hi Jessica,



Frankly it's none of his business to post ANYTHING about you! That was very disrespectful IMO. And yes, I would confront him if it bothers you. I can hardly see how he could interfere anyways.....

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