Kristin - posted on 09/01/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
Hello, my name is Kristin and this is my second day on circle of moms. I apologize for the lengthy post, but I just joined this site with hope to speak with other moms who may have had similar experiences as I. My 5 year old daughter was recently diagnosed with ADHD/ODD/Behavior problems I am a 25 year old mom of one. I came across this site while searching for advice from other moms who have a young child with adhd/odd. My daughter recently turned 5 years old two weeks ago and I have come to the realization that her behavior is no longer a "phase" that she may grow out of one day. Due to the loss of my husband (her daddy) in 2009, I starting working full time between 48 to 60 hours per week in order to make ends meet. His death was very unexpected and we had no life insurance. That was very hard on both of us to cope without him. She was still quite young at 18 months old but knew that he was no longer there. With grievance and depression issues, I had maintained working all the time to pay my bills. It really took a toll on me. I worked 6 days a week. 9:00am-9:00pm three days out of the week and the other three days was from 9:00am-6:00pm-or-12:00pm-9:00pm. It really sucked for both of us...Every morning I would get up, feed her, get her dressed, take her to daycare, go to work all day, get off work, pick her up, and basically have to put her to bed as soon as we got home. I never had any time to spend with her with the exception of my day off. She started having defiance issues at daycare shortly after she turned 4. At first the complaints were made involving other children, then it developed into defiance toward the teachers and authority figures. I was called to come pick her up early on several occasions due to her aggression toward other children and attitude toward her teacher; refusing to listen and follow simple instructions. She was very defiant and disrespectful at home and in public towards me. I felt like I had failed as a parent due to my ridiculous work schedule. I really enjoyed my job of three years (especially my customers), but hated my boss and all of the hours. He was an asshole and just had enough! I told him that I have missed almost 3 years of seeing my little girl grow up and that I'm not going to miss another moment. So I told him to kiss my ass and have a good day. I wasted 3 years of our life working at a major automotive dealership. I just wanted to spend time with my little girl before she started school the following year. I believe that the sudden change employment made a difference also. She was definitely enjoying the 'mommy time' and so was I. I cherish every minute that I have to spend with her. Her behavior progressively worsened over a period of time. When I would have company over (rare occasion), she would do anything and everything to acquire attention from anybody that would notice. She would start talking loud and climbing on things. When I asked her to stop, she would continue to do so. Then when I raised my voice to tell her to stop, she would fold her arms, tell me "NO" and then look toward the company and then me just to see what their reaction was. That just set me off because she was deliberately defying what I had at first asked her to do, then what I had told her to do. How am I supposed to discipline my child when she behaves like this?? I have tried putting her in the corner, spanking her, talking to her, taking away her toys and giving her the opportunity to 'earn' them back. Other times (quite frequently) she will abuse and be mean to our cat. Picking him up, squeezing him, spinning him around in circles. This happened more often when I wasn't present or in the same room as her. Sometimes I would 'sneak up' to find her hitting the cat while nobody was around. After repeatedly describing her behavior to her physician, she recommended taking her to Centerstone to be evaluated for a behavior disorder. Therefore, I scheduled the soonest available appointment...7-11-12...we were really pressed for time since it was 3 weeks before she started Kindergarten. They prescribed her Adderral (5 mg) for 2 weeks and behavior therapy. When we went in for the follow up on 7-25-12, they increased her dosage to 10 mg. I noticed a change in her behavior with in a week. She started school on 8-1-12 and everything seemed to be going okay. The teacher said that she starts out pretty good in the mornings but thinks that the medication starts to wear off by the end of the school day. She is still having some issues at home with following directions and continues to be aggressive towards our cat. Her behavior has improved and is not as severe as it was before the adderral. Her prescription ended and needed to be refilled by 8-24-12...unfortunately, centerstone couldn't refill it over the phone and the only person there with authority to do so won't be available until 9-5-12. That weekend was a disaster! She was the same, if not worse, that she was prior to any treatment. I called her physician on Friday and they squeezed us in for a Monday morning appointment. The doctor changed her prescription to 18 mg Concerta?! She has had very bad behavior at school all week! Her teacher called today to tell me that she was very disruptive, failed to follow instructions, would not participate in group activity, told her "NO" on several occasions, and was not at all like she was the last 3 weeks. She said that it was like 'day and night' from what she was when she first started school. I immediately called the doctor's office and told her what was going on. She then told me to double her prescription of Concerta to 36 mg. She started the double dose on Friday morning. I just hope for the best and hope that it will be effective throughout the weekend. So far, she is doing better with the concerta double dose than the single dose, but doesn't at all compare to how good she did on Adderral. The doctor said to let her try it out until Monday and hope to see some positive changes in behavior. If not, they will have to change it back to the Adderral without a doubt in my mind. In conclusion to all of this, is there any one out there who has had any similar dealings with a child coming off of adderral and placed onto concerta? Is there anybody out there who has had similar experiences that can provide some good advice relating to my situation? Any other opinions on this seemingly-endless post? I will look forward to hearing from some fellow moms. Thank you...