Gina - posted on 06/12/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have just had to kick my 19 year old out and am having a hard time in dealing with it. It has been the past 2 years that his attitude has gone downhill. He says he will do things and then forgets. We pay all his bills and paid for him to take a class for EMT certification which he didn't pass the test because he didn't study and he admitted he didn't try hard. So, we told him to study harder and take it again. That was a couple of months ago and not much studying happening. He has a job that he likes and it gives him anywhere from 20 to 30 hours a week. He has been a good kid, but since he started dating this 26 year old woman ( who lives at her parents house and doesn't is not expected to pull her weight from the sound of it) he has gotten more attitude. He started spending weekends at her house and I asked to be informed if he wasn't coming home. We have rules that we asked him to follow and he doesn't. We don't like this girl he is dating and have said so but that doesn't make a difference to him. He found a kitten and brought it home and we let him keep it. I didn't want another animal to take care off and let him know it would be all his responsibility. That didn't last long. Then the past weekend he didn't let's know he wasn't coming home and when I hadn't heard from him by the the next night and I was having to take care of his cat because of his neglect. I guess it was just the straw that broke the camels back for me. We have tried everything we could think of to encourage him. We have offered to pay for his school. We have given him a truck. We pay for his insurance and his cell phone and his computer. We didn't charge rent because he only makes minimum wage. I found out last week that he was planning on going on vacation with this girl he is seeing for a whole week and taking his truck which needs some work done on it! I don't think he was going to tell us either! As many talks as we have had an all his promises that he has not followed through on has just been too much! On top of this girl he is dating that has her own set of baggage! I go back and forth if it was the right thing to do!