I just need support

Jessica - posted 5 days ago ( 3 moms have responded )

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Ive lost 2 before and am pregnant again. My husband doesnt give any support for the good or bad. He doesnt get excited when firsts happen, like the first ultrasound, the heartbeat, feeling the baby for the first time, finding out the sex ect. I get anxious at times because of my other 2 losses and the nightmares get bad. Yesterday it felt as if i were about to start my period. I assume it was my uterus expanding, but it still triggered some bad nightmares and today i havent felt any movement. There wasnt a whole lot of movement before and im only 20 weeks along so i think im just letting my mind get the best of me. All my husband can say is, the baby is fine. then changes the subject. So i would just like to hear from people that actually care about pregnancy's and have experience with it.

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Sarah - posted 4 days ago

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Well it is very encouraging that you have made it to nearly 20 weeks now Movement will be very slight but increase over the next few weeks. A fair amount of stretching and aching will go along with your second trimester. I know it is scary and right now all you can do is worry. I also know that it is frustrating to be told, you made it this far and you should not worry. Hopefully day by day you will start to relax a bit and in a month or so (while not ideal) your baby will be viable.
Let it out here, with your folks and friends. Try to include your hubby; but try to see it this way too- He probably feels a bit like he has failed to protect you and his unborn, twice. Even though you both know that is not true, he may still feel that way. He may be very afraid for how you would take another loss and therefore does not want to discuss the possibility, and maybe he is afraid he'd be crushed by a third as well. So not to make an excuse for him, but he may not realize he is letting you down. Talk to him, reassure him that you know he will bee a good father and that you will get thru the outcome of this pregnancy together. Good Luck!

Sarah - posted 5 days ago

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I suspect your husband is probably protecting himself and trying to protect you from his pain rather than shut you out. How far along were your other two pregnancies? I am sorry you have had to face such pain and I hope you have a positive outcome. You are getting closer and closer to a viable birth every day.

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