I just need to know from someone, I know I'm not a mom but I need help

Bianca - posted on 01/29/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm so confused. I need help to know what I should do, and I have no one to turn to that has been through the samething.

My boyfriend has a 1month old baby boy, the mother of the child is one I socialise with (even before I met him).

I don't know where I stand with things:

The mother of the child invites me to come visit her and the baby, but my boyfriend has never asked me to meet his son.

The mother sends me loads pictures of their son.

My family tell me to tell him to get a DNA test done, but I if like I have no right to do that

He never tells me when he is going to send time with his son, he kind of ignores me when he does.

He never talks to me about his son, only when he is mad at the mom and family does he say thing about it.

People tell me that a child changes the way people feel for other people.

Listen I would not blame him if he left me because of his son, a little boy needs their father.

I just don't get where I stand because he says I'm part of his life and my family says he is living a double life and that I should be worried.

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Bianca - posted on 01/29/2013

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I have told him I will stand by him no matter what and that I have nothing against him have a child thats all I have said. He knows that we have contact but I can tell he does nt like the idea. He is fighting to have his rights heard when it comes to his child, because her family is trying to keep him out of the child's life. Well then it comes to our relationship we have talked about getting married and having children together. I want to be there to help him with anything he needs.

I feel the same when it comes to the DNA test, that its not my place.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/29/2013

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It is not your place to push a DNA test on him. I am sure he is hearing that plenty from his own family.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/29/2013

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Have you told him how you feel about the situation? Does he know you have contact regularly with the mother and child? He may be uncomfortable with it, or figures you already know everything if he knows you are friends with her. I suppose it all comes down to how serious the relationship is, and what role you want or are willing to take. Also, where he stands about having a child.

Bianca - posted on 01/29/2013

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I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 22 years old. We have been together for 6months now.

Amy - posted on 01/29/2013

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The person to have this conversation with is your boyfriend. We don't know him and don't know what he's thinking. How old are you? How old is the boyfriend? How long have you been together? Not that any of these will help give you an answer it may provide us with some insight, based on the question you sound young.

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