I just tried to clip my one month's nails and got a tiny bit of her finger. It bled a lot and she was crying I feel like the worst parent ever need a litttle positive support.

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Lisa - posted on 03/20/2009

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HI Amanda, we all have done things like this. It happens. I would suggest an emory board/file instead. It works great and you don't have to worry about cutting the finger.



Forgive yourself, move forward, and know that you are being a good mom.

Val - posted on 03/22/2009

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I used nail clippers for my first born..they were actual baby nail clippers nothing fancy and i just pulled or pushed the skin uner the nail back exposing the nail and then cut the nail..later i tried biting the nail it works to until they're too hard to bite off. i heard filing them off works too. usually its best to wait til your baby's asleep. with my second i still bite them off its easier sometimes then using a nail clipper when they are awake. i wouldnt reccomend using "adult" sized clippers unless its easier for u to grip but sometimes its harder to see the babys nail so then u might nip the finger. :)

April - posted on 03/20/2009

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I think all mothers have done that and it will heal quickly..I have found that if you wait until they are asleep it is much easier and you and baby are more relaxed..April

Windy - posted on 04/25/2014

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has to be one of the worst feelings EVER!!!downright dumb stupidity along with poke a needle in my eye guilt! I could have ftled them down with emory board...and stupid so call ed baby " safety " clippers with guard and magnifying glass assisted me in causing my baby girl to cry so pitiful, and bleed everywhere plus will be sore for a few more days!!! The so called guard on worthless clippers was more like a deterrent preventing any chance oif successful outcome , and magnifying glass on it was like looking out my windshield on stormy day with no wipers on!!!! Soooooo Sorry Baby!!

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

HI Amanda, we all have done things like this. It happens. I would suggest an emory board/file instead. It works great and you don't have to worry about cutting the finger.

Forgive yourself, move forward, and know that you are being a good mom.


Yes, they are more time consuming, but those tiny emory boards are the best!

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Jojomaui123 - posted on 07/11/2016

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Reading these comments help. I was going to cut my 4 month old nails and he moved. I ended up clipping a small tip of his thumb. Of course I felt bad vibes from his dad but he came and stayed with us for an hour or so til it stopped bleeding.

Krista - posted on 03/22/2009

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It's ok! We all have done something with our new baby that we want to just cry about. all will be fine.

Dlei - posted on 03/22/2009

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Hi Amanda, I too have done that to my newborn. It was on his pinky finger on his left hand. He was a week old and I felt the same way you do. It healed up fine, I started to gently bite his nails while I was nursing him. I think it is easier on them & you. There were no after affects of my clipping his finger, he is now 11 years old & doesn't remember anything. It gets better, try not to be so hard on yourself. Good luck...Dana

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2009

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I know it is a terrible feeling that you contributed in ANY way to your little one's pain... but you are not the first and wont be the last. She will be fine and you will, too! =)

Kim - posted on 03/22/2009

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oh..i've beeen there...my daughter is almost 9 months old....i am using a nail file and that seems to be working better! She is not traumitized by the experience

Christina - posted on 03/22/2009

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its ok! lots of parents do that :( some parents skip the clipping altogether until the baby is a little bigger and mostly rely on mittens or those sleeves that fold over the hands. my daughter didnt like mittens or those sleeves, so what i found easy was to gentl pull her fingertip away from the nail. not in a painful way at all, jsut very little, so i could see the nail better.



dont worry, we all get mommy guilt a lot. i felt like the worst mom ever when i first gave my daughter a bath. she screamed her head off at the feel of water.

Anita - posted on 03/22/2009

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forgot to say that ...at birth to 6mths u dont need nail clippers...bubs nails are soft enough to just tear off and it doesnt hurt them at all...

Anita - posted on 03/22/2009

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Quoting Amanda:

I just tried to clip my one month's nails and got a tiny bit of her finger. It bled a lot and she was crying I feel like the worst parent ever need a litttle positive support.


Ohhh don't feel bad...I'm sure there are lots of parents out there thats donw it before and I'm sure more than once....But you know you can buy baby nail clippers that have a a safety guard so u dont accidently clip ur lil  ones flesh....u cna buy it at any baby shops like baby bunting...and/or some super markets...chemist  have them.  They dont cost much..

Wendy - posted on 03/22/2009

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I remember with my first baby I asked the health visitor to do it and she cut a bit of the skin, I dont think it hurts much they cry when you cut their nails at that age, my kids are all now teenagers and have survived fer worse, remind yourself of all the great stuff you do, instead of one tiny weeny blip, I'm sure you are a great mum, just renind yourself of that. :-)

Nadia - posted on 03/22/2009

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The exact same thing happend to me when my son was about the same age. I felt so terrible and cried more than him! But he healed very quickly and still loves me more than anyone else in the world!!!

Amy - posted on 03/22/2009

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dont panic i dont know any mother who hasnt had this problem....bub would have forgot it happened a few moments after it happened...fingers bleed alot too so even though there may have been alot of blood it probebly wasnt as bad as it looked, have you tried the baby nail scissors that have the plastic guide u can get them at all chemists they r a god send....also if u arnt comfortable to do it ask someone else that you trust to do it...also the best time is when they are asleep..goodluck

Anne-Marie - posted on 03/22/2009

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Try not to feel bad, it was an accident and accidents happen. I was playing with my 2 kids earlier today and poked my little girl (who is 2) in the eye. She sobbed for ages and i felt so crappy. But it was an accident and she forgave me, and 10 minutes later was running around happy and laughing. All parents do things accidentally and they feel terrible for it. Im sure ur a good mum, so dont let it get u down! x





Brigette - posted on 03/22/2009

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Hey Amanda ((((hugs)))) I did the exact same thing to my 4 month old when he was about six weeks old (to this day, have never done his nails again...that's either for my hubby or Mum to do) - I feel for you, if it's any consilation, they heal so quickly and she has most probably forgotten all about it!! Chin up, give her a cuddle, it's all forgotten!

Janine - posted on 03/22/2009

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I think we've all been there, I caught the tip of my youngest son's thumb when he was about 2 weeks, which bled a lot and he seemed to cry for ages. I got my husband to do it for a while afterwards. I have finally got the courage up to do it again now he's 4 months, when he's asleep and less likely to wriggle. We all live and learn.



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Never used them my mom told me too bite them off...know it's gross but it work's without hurting them

Jennifer - posted on 03/21/2009

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its ok her hands are small it happens to the best of us im sure you have already been given this advise the best time to clip a babys nails is while they are asleep less moving.

Heather - posted on 03/21/2009

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I did that as well when my daughter was 2. The clippers are horrible. Use nails scissors. I find that they work the best. Good luck!

Petro - posted on 03/21/2009

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If you were the worse mother on earth it would not have bothered you. You are trying your best, and you should continue to do this, yes your baby's nails are soft yes there are other ways to deal with "clipping" nails, the one thing I so know is that if you persist with patience, and with the utmost of care as you are, you do not need to introduce a foreign object to clip nails at a later stage.

I have done this with my daughter and she is 2 and sits quietly and let me clip her nails, hang in there!

Petro - posted on 03/21/2009

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If you were the worse mother on earth it would not have bothered you. You are trying your best, and you should continue to do this, yes your baby's nails are soft yes there are other ways to deal with "clipping" nails, the one thing I so know is that if you persist with patience, and with the utmost of care as you are, you do not need to introduce a foreign object to clip nails at a later stage.

I have done this with my daughter and she is 2 and sits quietly and let me clip her nails, hang in there!

Misty - posted on 03/21/2009

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I have done that with my oldest when she was a baby and I totally understand what you are going through.  but they wont remember it and it does get easier as their little fingers get bigger.

Allison - posted on 03/21/2009

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Hi Amanda,



Oh, I feel for you! I think every single mom has either done this or something like this at some point. I have done it twice :( And I cried right along with him, but give him tons of hugs and kisses and within a couple of minutes, it's long forgotten. One time I also pinched his finger in a safety harness on his carseat...and it absolutely broke my heart. You are not a bad momma! We ALL make mistakes...and will continue to do so throughout our child's life because we aren't perfect. We do the best we can and the most important thing you can do for your children is to shower them with love!



Hang in there, and best wishes to you and your family :)



Allison

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Been there done that!! I think I cried more than my son did! That's the thing about kids, you learn as you go :)

Crystal - posted on 03/20/2009

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Hey there been there the best thing i found was to bite them with your teeth, you never go to far and it works great. I did it with all three of my kids.

Elaine - posted on 03/20/2009

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Hi,



I am a mum and grandma, when my children were babies I was always afraid of cutting fingers and toes until I was told the best way to get rid of long nail was just after bath time and nibble them off, no tears and no fear of cut skin, maybe its not the right thing now but it worked for me and now I am dhief nail cutter for my grandchildren, once a wekk we have nail time then story



And if you do cut skin, good reason for big hugs and cuddles.

Elaine - posted on 03/20/2009

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Hi,



I am a mum and grandma, when my children were babies I was always afraid of cutting fingers and toes until I was told the best way to get rid of long nail was just after bath time and nibble them off, no tears and no fear of cut skin, maybe its not the right thing now but it worked for me and now I am dhief nail cutter for my grandchildren, once a wekk we have nail time then story



And if you do cut skin, good reason for big hugs and cuddles.

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I lose my mother of the year award on Jan.2 of every year. LOL. You have a lot more screw ups ahead of you. Start a book entitled "I love you so much because you forgave me when I..." I bet one day it will bring you both a lot of laughs. Then she can reflect when she is a mom & does all the same things. Haha..I did it too. The skin and nails look so much alike. They should give us a manual when we take those things home!!!

Paula - posted on 03/20/2009

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I did the same thing to my first born... I cried with him. Just watch that it doesn't get red and warm, keep it clean and dry and it will heal fast. Babies heal so fast! Forget a band aid, if it's not bleeding it doesn't need one. I will heal faster anyway. As far as getting over it easier said then done, my son is 34 and I still cringe when I think about it. He laughs at me.....

Anna - posted on 03/20/2009

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if cutting unnerves you, maybe just put hand covers on her and use a baby nail file to smooth her nails down. I find on really young babies that sometimes their socks stay on better than the mitts.

Anna - posted on 03/20/2009

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This happened to me the DAY after my son was born. I felt bad especially when his daddy scooped him up to soothe him, but I knew it had to be done, and mommy gets the messy jobs. When hes older he hill appreciate it and thays why Mommy will be the one he goes to for help =) to this day though his daddy still wont clip his nails, hes to scared. these things happen, try not to beat yourself up to much, trust me, your baby forgot it even happened as soon as those tears dried up.

Ashton - posted on 03/20/2009

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I just did the same thing to my 4 month old a few weeks ago & his llittle finger bled for over an hour. But you can't even tell now that I took the top of it off!!! Don't stress yourself out...they forget about it minutes later & you're going to do it again. (I accidently cut one too short again the other day)!

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I did the exact same thing at the exact same age! And my son was asleep when I did it! He moved suddenly just as I clipped down. He bled so much and screamed non stop! I wasn't able to hold and soothe him AND keep pressure on his finger. I ended up calling my mother crying and got her to come over. It took four hands to get the job done! Infants are strong squirmers! He still has a little scar on the end of his finger (17mths old), But he's a major Mama's Boy, so I'm pretty sure I've been forgiven.

Laura - posted on 03/20/2009

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 I did the same thing to my son at that age and cried along with him. He is 9 now and no damage done

Kerrie - posted on 03/20/2009

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I did the same thing with my son!...and I felt terrible as well! I found filing the tiny nails easier for the first few months until they harden. Don't beat yourself up, you're doing fine! :o)

Becky - posted on 03/20/2009

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Ah...don't beat yourself up too much...your little one will have many more stumbles and falls...bruises and bumps...as long as you are there to comfort them...all will work out just fine! I remember when my husband clipped my son that way...he felt so guilty...I just had to remind him...it's the first of many firsts we are going to have! Now we are way down that list...bumps, falls, first steps, smiles...Our best!

Demesha - posted on 03/20/2009

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Just know that we all make mistakes and that is including us moms as nurturing parents.  Also, know that you should not feel bad, it was not done intentionally!  You were simply taking the time out to groom your child.  I have 3 children and it is a constant learning process, don't get this confused with other motherly instincts that kick in.  You will always learn when raising a child!



 



 



 



 



 



 



 



 



 



 



 

Windsor - posted on 03/20/2009

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Everyone does it. You are not a bad mother. It seems like it bleeds alot more than it does. I was so scared the first time I did it I wouldnt touch her nails for a long time. I did it a second time but i didnt freak out as much.

Kristie - posted on 03/20/2009

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Oh you poor thing! I did the same to my daughter. I would use a nail file to file her nails down until they get harder. That worked for me and reduced my stress. Don't stress, it has happened to all of us!

Sara - posted on 03/20/2009

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everyone does it dont worry the pain and blood goes away just give lots of hugs and kisses till they feel better!

Natalie - posted on 03/20/2009

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I did the same thing when my son was around 9 weeks. He had just finished nursing and was laying there so peaceful. I started trimming his nails and got the skin under his middle finger. He was so stunned that his mouth opened but the cried didn't come out for about 30 seconds. He was crying, I was crying and I felt so bad. He got over it almost as fast as it happened though :)

Caramia - posted on 03/20/2009

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Been there done that when Ruairi was a couple of days old. Cried and felt so guilty but he didnt even wince



 

Maria - posted on 03/20/2009

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Don't worry Amanda, we are always learning but as far as I am aware you should bite their little nails off and not use clippers or scissors as he is still so young. You could even put little scratch mitts on him so he doesn't scratch and hurt himself. Hope I'm of some help.

Katie - posted on 03/19/2009

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This may be the first time,but I doubt it will be the last. Your sweet little baby will be just fine in a few days and so will you. =)

Keria - posted on 03/19/2009

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I did it too and the first thing I did was call my mom because I was freaking out. It's really not a big deal and she won't ever remember it happened but just a tiny tip that I found has worked well with my daughter: Don't use those fingernail clippers meant to be especially for baby because they are sometimes hard to get around just the nail and not the finger with a squirmy baby so I use those little manicure scissors that come in like every nail kit. I feel like I have alot more control and haven't clipped a finger since!

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2009

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I did the same thing to my son when he was only a few days old. I know I felt guilty for a lot longer than he felt pain :) I figure if that's all I've done to him so far I've done pretty good!

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I've done it too. You're not a bad mom! I have 3 kids. When my 1st was born, the 1st time I cut his nails, I cut a few of his fingers by accident. I felt absolutely horrible. And of course they bled forever and their fingers are too tiny for bandaids. My other 2 babies, well, their nails are so soft in the beginning, they usually broke and i could just tear the longer part of the nail off without hurting their little fingers. Once they were older and their nails were stronger, that's when I began using the fingernail clippers. And I haven't cut a tiny fingers since...knock on wood! ;)

Nicole - posted on 03/19/2009

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I know how you feel, I was so nervous doing it the first time, I gave in and had a friend do it for me.  I eventually got brave enough and did it and there were a few times I've cut the skin and drawn blood.  As Tiffany said, it will heal in a day or so and won't even remember it.  

Lois - posted on 03/19/2009

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Don't clip. File. While your baby is in your arms asleep, file their little nails. Sing a sweet song or tell a soft story. Makes a world of difference to you and your baby.

Danielle - posted on 03/19/2009

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like everyone else in this post i have also done this... only i let my fiance do it at first and he did it before i did then cause he refused to do it anymore cause he felt bad then i ended up doing it.. we both cried and let his nails grow til we could gently bite them...

Genna-leigh - posted on 03/19/2009

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hi amanda yr not a bad mother i have done the same thing and i felt bad but then a friend said it will happen so i felt bit better,

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