i live in the united kingdom my three children have gone to live with there dad we have been to court and was decided that i would have no direct contact with the children i can send letters and make phone calls social services have never got involed with the children im just wondering if i had a baby with my husband would my baby be taken away

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S. - posted on 11/29/2012

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Kim it sounds like you have been totally let down by our system, did you ask for help or did you just hand them over? Did anyone tell you you could get help? What was the courts involvement? Because to not grant contact is very uncommon. are you well now with your depression? If I was you I would concentrate on getting some regular contact with your other children before thinking about having any more.

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Debra - posted on 12/01/2012

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If social services were never involved then its unlikely your baby would be taken away. I understand that you found it hard alone with 3 children but why didnt you go to social services for help if you were struggling so much? And why didnt you bother to go and see them and keep in contact with them for a full year after you "handed them to their Dad"?

Personally i think you should work on getting and maintaining contact with the 3 children you already have before having another baby. They need you, even if you dont think they do.

Kim - posted on 11/29/2012

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i had three children living with me and the dad didnt help me and support me i found the behavour to much i told the school who didnt give me much support and in the end i handed the children to there dad so they could live with him i was at breaking point depressed. i just wanted to see them and because its been over a year i havnt seen them thats all i got in direct contact

S. - posted on 11/29/2012

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Why do you have no contact? Courts don't usually take kids away from their mothers in the uk with out major concern and if there's major concern then social service get involved! I am a little confused.



I knew of a woman who had a baby (I'm going to call him G) so G's father shook him and left the poor baby brain damaged G's monster of a father went to prison and G got taken of the mother and adopted out.

The mother then got with man number 2 and went on to have (baby D) baby D's mother and father had to go live at this social service run house to prove that they were capable of taking care of baby D for a few months even thou the shaking has nothing to do with either of these parents. The mother and man number 2 was passed and aloud to move out on there own , a few months on these two split up and the mother moved In man number 3, mother and man number 3 ended up having a horrible violet relationship and the social services waisted no time and removed the baby D, baby D's real father refused responsibility and gave the child up for adoption, baby G and baby D now live together an are adopted by the same adoptive mother.



That was a bit long winded but a true story and the point being that the mother would have been able to keep baby D even after the tragic story of her 1st baby if she have looked after him properly.

Michelle - posted on 11/29/2012

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Are you married to someone who isn't the father of your other children?

Why were your children sent to their dad?

Are they in the same country as you?



There are a lot of variables that we need to know first. If your husband isn't the father of your other children then why would they get taken away?

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