I lost custody of my children to an abusive (mental, verbal, and some physical) man.

Christina - posted on 08/08/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Over 3 yrs ago I lost custody of my two boys to my very mean ex-husband. He has went to jail for beating me and pushing my oldest son into a campfire twice (he did not get burnt..thank god)..he was also so drunk he could barley stand up. I got tired of trying to make my marriage to him work because if he wasn't drinking he was cheating and if he wasn't cheating or drinking he was verbally and mentally abusive....my life with him was hell but I kept telling myself hang in there it will get better....it never did. So one night he went out and never came home and I had to work that morning and I called and called him and finally he answered and I heard a woman saying "whos that?"... at that moment I told myself I am done!!! So I took my boys to my ex-mother in-laws and she acted as though what he had done was okay. wtf??? To make a long story short I was able to get an apt in the same complex and I moved out...I hired and attorney and she told me to let him have the boys every other weekend and one evening a week...I did that and I was served papers to appear in court....we made an agreement to have joint custody until final hearing. Well in the mean time I lost my job and my attorney told me to not tell him just to continue on as if I was working and find another job...well I decided to go back to school. I did as my attorney told me. Then I ran out of money and had to move, I had been seeing a really great guy and he asked me to move in with him so instead of being evicted for lack of paying rent I moved in with him....I told my attorney and never once did she tell me I had to give a 90 day notice to move out of the school district. Next thing I know I am being served papers from a GAL telling me I cant move....WTF...(where was I to go?)...I had already moved and was driving my oldest son to school everyday. I tried multipul times to reach the GAL for an appt. I had already paid her the court appointed $500 retainer and never once did she return my calls...finally I got a call from my attorney yelling at me for not meeting with GAL...I informed her I had tried and had phone records to prove it. Finally I got ahold of GAL and she wouldn't meet with me..she would only do a phone interview (really?? how unprofessional). She told me she wouldn't write up her final report until she met with me the day of the divorce hearing...the day before court I received a final copy of GAL decision and let me tell you this so called unbias GAL screwed me. I lost custody of my kids to that horrible person. It has been over 3 yrs now and well over $10,000 and haven't been able to go to court and the new attorney I hired cut me off. My ex-husband is so mean and controlling and doesn't follow the court order at all. I barley get to see my kids I don't get make up time and well he usually screws me and the boys over and everytime I confront him on this he punishes me and the boys by not letting us see each other. I am at my wits end...I am currently waiting to close on a house in the same school district as my kids and he still wont let me see them more actually he has cut my time more. His new wife and him are so unstable they always fight and she actually kicked him and my boys out for about a week and CPS wouldn't do anything about it. I also contacted an attorney and he said even though it isn't really a stable environment the courts probably wont do anything because they have lived with him for 3 yrs. I don't know what to do. All the stress of this and him had made my health really bad. My new husband and I raise his two children and my boys are happy here with all of us. Why cant I get someone to help me??? why does it always have to be about $$$??? I don't understand why it cost so much to protect your children when all that money could be used to raise the kids....instead I am broke and sick and my two boys are depressed. What do I do? Is there hope out there? The schools even treat me like I don't have any rights to my own children. HELP!!!!! HELP!!!! HELP!!!

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