I lost my 3 month old son...last week. I am hurt, lost, empty, sad, mad, and I dont know what to do with myself!

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Christina - posted on 03/09/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss. I opened up Loss of child post. I lost my son last month. He was eight years old. How did your son die? Please visit my post and maybe we can help each other...You will be in my prayers.

Erin - posted on 03/16/2009

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I'm so sorry. I lost my 2 month old daughter a little over six years ago. I know how badly it hurts. No words will make you feel better. You shouldn't feel better at this point. What you need to do is take some time to cry. You have the right to feel horribly sad. Do what you need to do to get through your day, but whenever you feel the need to, just stop and think about him and cry. Those times will come less and less as time goes by. You'll never stop loving him and wanting him back, but you will begin to heal. You will get through this. It won't be easy for a while, but in time, it will get easier and easier. I don't know you, but if you need to talk, feel free to talk to me.

Kaylene - posted on 03/10/2009

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my son to SIDS on April 18, 2001. He was 3 months, 14 days old. He was our first son. I waited a long time to have children. I was 35 and that loss something I can't explain and only someone in our shoes understands. At the time of his loss I could not imagine how I would push forward. Finding support groups SIDSFAMILIES is what helped move on. Time is the other factor. It is hard to believe now, but as time passes so will the pain. The pain is still very present but it just doesn't hurt as much and the crying doesn't happen as often. My prayers are with you and your family. God Bless! Kaylene

Maureen - posted on 03/09/2009

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Hi sarah, I am so sorry for your loss....my mom lost my twin when she was nine weeks old and she said it helped to know she was blessed because even though they are here for such little time they bring their love with them. I hope remembering all the love your son brought will bring you some comfort. my mom lost two children and though it's hard you find the strength to go on. always you will be a mommy to him

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Kimberly - posted on 03/14/2011

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H there Sara, I posted on your wall a while ago and just wanted to see how you are doing?

Rochelle - posted on 03/14/2011

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I can't even imagine the pain your are feeling. My son is my world. Please know you are in my heart and my prayers.

Toni - posted on 04/09/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss, the pain, anger,sadness, all the emotions are going through are all natural, i too felt the exact same When my son Kyle died in pregnancy...

Just know your not alone and if you wan to talk more then come and find me on facebook huni thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs xxx

Dionne - posted on 03/30/2009

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hello sarah i'm so sorry to hear you're news my prayers are with you and you're family at this sad time.my cousin lost her baby girl last week and two days later my brother inlaw lost his niece.no one can take away the pain only time can heal you but you'll never forget or stop loving you're little boy.hes now you're angel until you meet again all my love to you dionnexxx

Lisa - posted on 03/30/2009

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I am so sorry,my prayers are with you and your family ive had 4 miscarriages  i know its different but i do understand to a level how you must be feeling god bless you x

Adrian - posted on 03/30/2009

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I just want you to know that all of the feelings you are experiencing are normal. I will keep you in my prayers.

Christine - posted on 03/30/2009

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Hi Sarah,



How are you now?  I see in your photo you have other kids, I suppose it must be hard coping with everyones grieve & your own.  I know its hard to think of it but he was probably taken to save him future pain.  I lost my dad when I was 18 & I know how hard that was. 



 



I hope you have a lovely Easter & that spring brings lots of happiness to your home.



 



Love



Christine

Christine - posted on 03/30/2009

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Hi Sarah,



How are you now?  I see in your photo you have other kids, I suppose it must be hard coping with everyones grieve & your own.  I know its hard to think of it but he was probably taken to save him future pain.  I lost my dad when I was 18 & I know how hard that was. 



 



I hope you have a lovely Easter & that spring brings lots of happiness to your home.



 



Love



Christine

Tee - posted on 03/26/2009

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Like everyone else who has commented I am so sorry for your loss.



I too lost my son, aged 5, and the pain never really goes away but please know that you do learn to live with it, you have to give time, time!  No words can help you heal any quicker, but know you are not alone.   Thinking of you hun xxxxxxx

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2009

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My heart goes out to you and your family.  I will say a prayer for you tonight.  Spend more time w the people who you love the most.  Just think and talk about the time you spent w your son.  I couldnt imagine what your going thru.  Just think he is in a very special place and that he is an angel looking down on you.

Laura - posted on 03/26/2009

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I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm praying for you now.  I follow a blog of someone who lost a baby last year, and you may enjoy reading what she has to write about her grief.  She still posts things about her grief journey two years out, and she has some recommended books on the subject.   http://thepipers.wordpress.com/



Here's one of her posts:



I’ve come to use a phrase since Felicity’s death: Hallmark answers.



Hallmark seems to offer comfort and explanation too quickly or lightly. Unfortunately, real people do this too sometimes. I think this tendency, even when offering “spiritual” comfort and explanation, comes from an inability to accept or understand grief.



I know that I was this kind of well-meaning comforter before we lost Felicity. People in too much pain made me nervous. I wondered if they might be losing their faith, so I felt the need to say something quick to patch up their brokenness. I was unable to easily reconcile my view of God with the pain I encountered.



The result of this kind of nervousness and discomfort is often Hallmark answers—flippant comfort. It’s as if when we say something like, “God is good. God is good,” we’ve fixed the problem for ourselves. But where does that leave the brokenhearted?



Hearing that God is good doesn’t always feel good. For people who are walking through deeply painful times, knowing that God is good can actually make things feel worse, because if this is goodness….



Hallmark is too pretty; Hallmark is too decisive; Hallmark is too composed.



None of the things your grieving friend is feeling can be described with these adjectives—pretty, decisive, composed.



The problem isn’t that Hallmark answers are false. They’re just inadequate because they don’t get deep enough to touch the pain. If you haven’t entered the person’s pain, even declarations of God’s goodness or sovereignty can feel like Hallmark answers.



Speaking into someone’s pain requires empathy. Choked words through tears are empathetic. Offering supplications and prayers with loud cries and tears, , is empathetic. Speaking a verse with a posture of “I don’t understand how this all fits with your pain, but…” is empathetic.



A few months ago I attended my first baby dedication since we lost Felicity. I knew this would be hard, but our dear friends were having their beautiful little boy dedicated. I wouldn’t have missed it.



Right before the service began, I was really struggling. I’m sure it was obvious to anyone who saw me in the commons. At that moment, a woman passed by with her family. I knew her story a bit, but I’d never had a conversation with her in my life. What I knew is that they have a twelve-year-old, blind son with severe autism and stunted growth. And I knew that this woman nearly died of breast cancer a few years ago. She hugged me tight and spoke through teary eyes, “God is faithful.”



That was all. And it was incredibly powerful for me.



The point is not that you have to have suffered more than someone to comfort them; you just need to empathize. There was no question in my mind that she knew my pain. I discovered that once you have entered someone’s pain, then you are in the place to offer comfort, and it won’t be from Hallmark.



All things work together for good. He gives and takes away. God is faithful and good.

Laura - posted on 03/26/2009

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I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm praying for you now.  I follow a blog of someone who lost a baby last year, and you may enjoy reading what she has to write about her grief.  She still posts things about her grief journey two years out, and she has some recommended books on the subject.   http://thepipers.wordpress.com/



Here's one of her posts:



I’ve come to use a phrase since Felicity’s death: Hallmark answers.



Hallmark seems to offer comfort and explanation too quickly or lightly. Unfortunately, real people do this too sometimes. I think this tendency, even when offering “spiritual” comfort and explanation, comes from an inability to accept or understand grief.



I know that I was this kind of well-meaning comforter before we lost Felicity. People in too much pain made me nervous. I wondered if they might be losing their faith, so I felt the need to say something quick to patch up their brokenness. I was unable to easily reconcile my view of God with the pain I encountered.



The result of this kind of nervousness and discomfort is often Hallmark answers—flippant comfort. It’s as if when we say something like, “God is good. God is good,” we’ve fixed the problem for ourselves. But where does that leave the brokenhearted?



Hearing that God is good doesn’t always feel good. For people who are walking through deeply painful times, knowing that God is good can actually make things feel worse, because if this is goodness….



Hallmark is too pretty; Hallmark is too decisive; Hallmark is too composed.



None of the things your grieving friend is feeling can be described with these adjectives—pretty, decisive, composed.



The problem isn’t that Hallmark answers are false. They’re just inadequate because they don’t get deep enough to touch the pain. If you haven’t entered the person’s pain, even declarations of God’s goodness or sovereignty can feel like Hallmark answers.



Speaking into someone’s pain requires empathy. Choked words through tears are empathetic. Offering supplications and prayers with loud cries and tears, , is empathetic. Speaking a verse with a posture of “I don’t understand how this all fits with your pain, but…” is empathetic.



A few months ago I attended my first baby dedication since we lost Felicity. I knew this would be hard, but our dear friends were having their beautiful little boy dedicated. I wouldn’t have missed it.



Right before the service began, I was really struggling. I’m sure it was obvious to anyone who saw me in the commons. At that moment, a woman passed by with her family. I knew her story a bit, but I’d never had a conversation with her in my life. What I knew is that they have a twelve-year-old, blind son with severe autism and stunted growth. And I knew that this woman nearly died of breast cancer a few years ago. She hugged me tight and spoke through teary eyes, “God is faithful.”



That was all. And it was incredibly powerful for me.



The point is not that you have to have suffered more than someone to comfort them; you just need to empathize. There was no question in my mind that she knew my pain. I discovered that once you have entered someone’s pain, then you are in the place to offer comfort, and it won’t be from Hallmark.



All things work together for good. He gives and takes away. God is faithful and good.

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2009

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hi sarah.my name is amanda n i can truely undersatnd what you are going through at this sad time.you see almost 3 yrs ago now i lost my only son when he was 10 months 3 weeks old.nothing can prepare you for how hard it is to go on.my son left behind a twin sister n an older sister who miss him every day.as do i.the pain never goes away.it has taken me nearly 3 yrs to stop crying myself to sleep at night.you are not alone.dont let people tell you that you need to get over it for the sake of your other children.i was told that lots of times.you never get over it.i learnt to be strong for my 2 daughters.you will find the strength to go on with your days n start to enjoy things again.it just takes alot of time to adjust.i dont know the reasons for your son but with mine the hospital caused it from when i went into labour.i watched my son in pain every single day n the doctors would do nothing.thats what hurt the most.that i didnt kick up a big enough stink for the doctors to listen to me.i knew something was wrong.it has been hard for me as i was the one who found him in his bed n couldnt revive him.you do feel hurt,sad,mad.you feel like someone look a knife n ripped out you heart.but you just need to know you will find the strength.it may take a while but you just have to have faith.your other children will help you through it.i know it sounds weird but trust me ive been there n if it wernt for my daughters i would not be here now to offer you some help.if you want to chat or need support you can email me at amandax3@live.com.au         

Kerri - posted on 03/25/2009

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This is a copy of a poem that we gave to people because it said alot of things that we couldnt when we lost 8 child in July 2008 he was born asleep this realy hep us get through hope it might help you and others who have suffer the loss of child.





Poem about suffering a loss

Unless you've lost a child.......then

Don't ask us if we are over it yet. We'll never be over it.

A part of us died with our child.

Don't tell us they are in a better place.

They are not here with us, where they belong.

Don't say at least they are not suffering.

We haven't come to terms with why they suffered at all.

Don't tell us at least we have other children.

Which of your children would you have sacrificed?

Don't ask us if we feel better.

Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.

Don't force your beliefs on us.

Not all of us have the same faith.

Don't tell us at least we had our child for so many years.

What year would you choose for your child to die?

Don't tell us God never gives us more than we can bear.

Right now we don't feel we can handle anything else.

Don't avoid us. We don't have a contagious disease, just unbearable pain.

Don't tell us you know how we feel, unless you have lost a child.

No other loss can compare to losing a child. It's not the natural order of things.

Don't take our anger personally.

We don't know who we are angry at or why and lash out at those closest to us.

Don't whisper behind us when we enter a room.

We are in pain, but not deaf.

Don't stop calling us after the initial loss.

Our grief does not stop there and we need to know others are thinking of us.

Don't be offended when we don't return calls right away.

We take each moment as it comes and some are worse than others.

Don't tell us to get on with our lives.

We each grieve differently and in our own time frame.

Grief can not be governed by any clock or calendar.

Do say you are sorry. We're sorry, too, and you saying

that you share our sorrow is far better than saying any of those

tired cliches you don't really mean anyway. Just say you're sorry.

Do put your arms around us and hold us.

We need your strength to get us through each day.

Do say you remember our child, if you do.

Memories are all we have left and we cherish them.

Do let us talk about our child.

Our child lived and still lives on in our hearts, forever.

Do mention our child's name. It will not make us sad or hurt our feelings.

Do let us cry. Crying is an important part of the grief process.

Cry with us if you want to.

Do remember us on special dates.

Our child's birth date, death date and holidays are

a very lonely and difficult time for us without our child.

Do send us cards on those dates saying you remember our child.

We do.

Do show our family that you care.

Sometimes we forget to do that in our own pain.

Do be thankful for children.

Nothing hurts us worse than seeing other people in pain.



As we had some family who just would not talk about him and its we wanted to talk about.

Terry - posted on 03/24/2009

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There are no words that can even take to smallest bit of pain away, I know from experience.  My husband and I lost our second son Dec. 9 2006 at two months.  He was born with a heart defect, and never made it out of the hospitiol.  We were able to hold him for the first and last time the day he passed.  As I watched the life fade from my beautiful baby boy, my heart broke into a million pieces, and although almost three years have passed I still have not found all them all. I can say that it does get easier, the pain never goes away but you learn to cope.  I found that surrounding myself with pictures, videos, and anything of his helped, it was like a piece of hi was still here.  And I often find myself holding his blanket or toy and feeling as though it is him.  We keep a large photo album of him in our family room so that he is always with us and my oldest son loves to look at them and talk about him.



  I can say that crying was something I did for weeks, and some times still do. A good cry, scream and punch your pillow fest relieves more pain and stress than you can imagine.



   We also find that celebrating his birthday makes coping alot easier too.  Each year we visit the cemetary on his birthday.  We all gather around his grave, sing happy birthday and release balloons with a message on them to him.  My son is six and this is a way that helps him to be able to "talk" to his brother.  It's a way for me to still be a mother to him, I can't hold him or kiss him but I can celebrate him.



  Their isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about what he would be doing or who he would grow up to be, but I know in my heart that GOD took my baby for a reason, I don't know what it was and never will, but thru my loss I have found a new relationship with GOD and have never felt alone in my greif. He has always comforted me and continues to everyday.  Some one gave he a poem that said "Although I only held him for  a little while, I'll hold him in my heart forever" it has been my constant reminder that although my baby boy is gone, my memories of him are with me forever.



  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. 

User - posted on 03/24/2009

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My heart crys for your heart sweetie. We lost our little girl at 5 weeks old. The pain is unbearable at times but slowly and steady you will find your emotions again. You will laugh again, and trust again and remember God is in control no matter what. I will put you in our prayers. Love April

User - posted on 03/24/2009

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My heart crys for your heart sweetie. We lost our little girl at 5 weeks old. The pain is unbearable at times but slowly and steady you will find your emotions again. You will laugh again, and trust again and remember God is in control no matter what. I will put you in our prayers. Love April

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Life suck we are supposed to die before our kids  my girl died at 4yrs old  try to find a group in your area called THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS  they are for breaved parents and  grandparents

Judi - posted on 03/24/2009

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Sarah, he will always be with you in your heart and your mind. The loss will get easier to bear eventually but you will never forget him. In time what you will remember is the good times rather than the loss. Don't let anyone tell you not to talk about him - talking and remembering helps you to heal. He will always be a part of your family.

Virginia - posted on 03/24/2009

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Hello - Although I don't know you I feel so much pain for you and will say numerous prayers to help in healing your broken heart. Take care of yourself.

Elisha - posted on 03/24/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son Owen at only a day and a half. It was so hard. Yes I agree that he is an angel "too beautiful for the earth". I just treasure the thought that we will see our babies again someday! 

Elisha - posted on 03/24/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son Owen at only a day and a half. It was so hard. Yes I agree that he is an angel "too beautiful for the earth". I just treasure the thought that we will see our babies again someday! 

User - posted on 03/24/2009

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My heart goes out to you. Pray continually for comfort and strength during this challenging period of your life. Your son was a blessing to you and he is now in a better place with the Lord. Take care of yourself and encourage yourself in GOD!

User - posted on 03/24/2009

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My heart goes out to you. Pray continually for comfort and strength during this challenging period of your life. Your son was a blessing to you and he is now in a better place with the Lord. Take care of yourself and encourage yourself in GOD!

User - posted on 03/24/2009

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My heart goes out to you. Pray continually for comfort and strength during this challenging period of your life. Your son was a blessing to you and he is now in a better place with the Lord. Take care of yourself and encourage yourself in GOD!

Teena - posted on 03/24/2009

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Hi SARAH, I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I LOST MY DAUGHTER LAST NOV. 20TH AT THE AGE OF 16. I GO THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. TAKE IT MINUTE BY MINUTE. IT IS OK TO CRY, IT IS OK TO  BE CRABBY OR MAD, IT IS OK. I HAVE A SON WHO IS 15 AND I KNOW I HAVE TO BE HERE FOR HIM, I TALK TO COURTNEY ALL THE TIME. NO I AM NOT NUTS, BUT IT HELPS. YOU WILL NEVER FORGET AND THE DIFFERENT FEELINGS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE BUT YOU FIND DIFFERENT WAYS TO GO ON WITH LIFE. I HAVE THROUGH MY MASSAGE PRACTICE AND MAKING MY CIRCLE BIGGER. MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH AND LIVE IN EACH MOMENT.



TEENA

Keisha - posted on 03/24/2009

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Good morning,



My condolences on the loss of your son. I lost my son eleven years ago the day after he was born because he & my surviving son were born three months premature. He died from a brain hemorrage. All you can do is give yourself time to grieve.



The pain will lessen, but at least you can look back on the pleasant memories you had with your little guy.

Toni - posted on 03/23/2009

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Hi Sarah , i am so so sorry for your loss, i know what it feels like to lose a precious baby, i lost my son Kyle when i was 17 weeks 6 days pregnant with him in 1998, i know it doesnt feel like it now but with time the pain never goes away just getting thru each day gets easier,if you want to chat cry and or just scream then email me or come and find me on facebook, Toni Moulder Shakespeare, please know you are not alone, the feelings you are describing above are so so normal to this day i still feel the anger,sadness,hurt,& empty feeling and Kyle has been angel for nearly 11 years, your precious little baby boy is an angel hes safe,being looked after, and is looking down on his mummy and siblings, he will be with you always as you have a connection as you are his mummy and will always be his mummy....Take Care hun and i hope i hear from you,Bye for now Toni, a mummy to an angel also xxx

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2009

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OH, I can't even bear to think of what you are going through. We know that things like this just take time and no words can possibly make things right. Just know that you have many , many thoughts and prayers coming your way. I hope you will find peace in your heart as quickly as possible.

Heather - posted on 03/22/2009

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There are so many replies, don't know if you'll ever read them all - if it helps, just know that there are so many people who know your pain, and there are groups that can help.

You don't mention what town you're in, but I'm sure there's something in your area. It's worth a look.

Williane - posted on 03/22/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

I lost my 3 month old son...last week. I am hurt, lost, empty, sad, mad, and I dont know what to do with myself!




i'm so sorry about your lost...oh my God i will keep you and your family in my prayer.

Jeannette - posted on 03/22/2009

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I'm one of he many who also shares  my sympathy for you. I can't even imagine.  but I do know the feeling of the loss of a loved one. As they say time heals all wounds.  Stay strong and it will get better every day that passes. !!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kristie - posted on 03/22/2009

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Sarah,



I am new to circle of moms. I have never experienced the loss of a child. I do however know what it feels like to hurt and be in despair.  I pray that in your time of sorrow that the lord will heal your heart of pain. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3.



                                                                                             Sincerely Kristie, mom of three

Jeannine - posted on 03/22/2009

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.



Brenda - posted on 03/21/2009

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I am so sorry to hear this. I can kinda feel fro you. I lost a granddaughter at birth and I was with my daughter through the ordeal. It is hard and you will feel the emptyness. But just  remember God wanted him for a good purpose even though we don't know why or understand how it can be. You have to be strong and he knows that you  love him and miss him very much. He is looking out for you now. Just try to be strong and  it will get a little better. You never forget him and you will always have him in your heart and thoughts no matter what. He is always with you.   

Marwa - posted on 03/21/2009

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Im very very sorry to hear that!  Just think of it this way, He's in the hands of his Creator, up in Heaven where he will be safe and happy for eternity.  I wish you the best and hang in there!

Polly - posted on 03/21/2009

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Sarah and family

The words that any of us write - at this time - are just words!

As you go through your grieving process you will feel - MANY THINGS!

Allow yourself this time to FEEL!

We can say we only imagine!

But if we have not gone through it - we really can't imagine!

I have had 2 miscarriages that only I could feel!

Each person feels different and that's ok.

The thing to remember is that no matter what the words are - PEOPLE TRULY CARE!

They Pray for you and your family!

Sometimes during this time - people may say things!

Things that really make you MAD - HURT - LOST!

Just let it out and don't hold it in - old baggage just causes DIS EASES or DISEASES!

You will never get over the lose of your baby boy.

But you may find that God puts people in your life.

We have many loses and many blessing and

we thank God for those blessings!

Trials and tribulations may be many in our lives and each one hurt but

try to count our blessings! Try to remember every second we have!

How ever long we have those blessings in our life!

I hope I am helping but this late I don't always.

Anyway just know we all care and you are in our prayers.

Some times you can find groups on fb that help as a support group.

Angel babies have some. Other possible sites : Babies Remembered,

Remembering your baby, type in search and find groups with a lot of members

that have been around. Again you are in our thoughts and prayers.

And may God Bless you and give you peace!

Kylie - posted on 03/21/2009

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Hi Sarah



Big Hugs to you and your other children. I too lost my baby but it was 10 years this year. After many years of fertility treatment our angel came into our lives and then went back to heaven. I can tell you that you will never "get over it" as some people liked to say but you will learn to live with it. Just remember you have a right to your feelings whether people think they are reasonable or not.



At first I think I was afraid that people would forget Grace or not acknowledge that she had existed and so would put her name with ours on gift cards etc. Finally after about 12 months I realised that it doesn't matter what other people do or think that Grace was still in my heart and that was all that mattered. Maybe I was scared I would forget not that others would and once I realised this and that there was no way I would forget I was able to heal more. If you close your eyes and look into your heart you will see your beautiful son there inside you and that he is not going anywhere.



At times you will be angry and times you will be sad and times when someone or something makes you laugh and you will feel guilty about that moment of happiness. You need to remember though that you need to push through it all for the children who are still in your arms. As a woman you have strengths you are yet to realise and you will need to draw on those now. Don't shut out your loved ones. If you have a husband or partner share your tears but also understand that people grieve in different ways and even if it's not the same as you grieve they are grieving also. The best gift you can give your angel baby is a strong family as the tragedy would be worse if it destroys your family.



Love to you and your loved ones.

Kylie XXX

Kelley - posted on 03/21/2009

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I am so sorry to hear of your loss!  He is definitely in Heaven now and even though it is hard to understand the reason why he had to leave! We have to realize that we can't see the future! Even though sometimes God's ways we don't understand and they even make us mad! one day when we see the real picture we will understand everything! I have a 8 year old that was born sick! They said she was gonna be a vegetable but after years of prayer and holding on ! She can see now, Hear Now ,Eat Food now, No more constant seizures! and that was all miracles ! yet she still can't walk or talk and she can eat but I have to feed her. Now I know that God healed the rest so why not heal it all! Well he can at his time! but he knows what strength we have and what we can bear and he will never put more on you than you can bear!   Your Baby is in Heaven for a reason but that don't mean you have lost him! He will be waiting on you there! I believe he will still be 3 months old and you can finish raising him in a perfect place one day soon. I Think you should get a prayer journal and begin to write to God and ask him to tell your Baby How much you love him! But make sure you stay positive because there is no sadness there! I really believe that it will work and it will also help you to heal! Who Say's that you can't still talk to your baby in heaven ! I don't think God has a problem relaying your message!!!!

Ashley - posted on 03/21/2009

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   I am terribly sorry for your loss. He is in Gods hands now and being taken care of very well and he is looking down upon you and watching over you every day. I know it's hard to get up in the morning and go about your daily activities. Just know that he is ok. Keep your head up and when you are feeling down and alone, talk to your son, he is listening. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Ashleigh - posted on 03/21/2009

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I'm so sorry to hear about the lost of your son..



My brother & wife to be lost there first daughter at 18 hours old 4 years ago this september... Some people say time heals but it doesnt you just have to learn to get on with life, no matter what you'll NEVER forget your son, the love and the memories you shared. Your son will live in your HEART forever... Maybe my neice and your son are dancing with the angel together..



My heart goes out to you Sarah.. Take care. xx

Kristin - posted on 03/20/2009

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I am sooo very sorry for your loss.  There are no words to describe how I felt when I saw this along with his precious picture!  He is a beatiful boy, now in heaven.  I cannot say too much, because I know in my heart that no words can help ease your pain, but please know that tonight, before I put my 4 year old son Lucas, down to sleep, we will say a prayer for u and your son.  God bless him and keep him, and just take it day by day, and keep his memory and your love for him in your heart forever!  Try to take care, Sarah....and please post an update on how u are doing, or if u need a lending ear....one of the many mothers will answer.  Kristin

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It may be hard for you to talk about this, but what exactly happened? Was it a custody issue or an actual loss of life? Either way, it's hard to deal with. My yahoo id is Tracyms1974 if you want to add me and talk about it. If you don't want to talk about it with me, I would strongly urge you to talk about it with somebody whenever you feel ready to do so. Grief is an emotion that can be overcome, but it takes work. (Yeah - work at a time when you really don't feel like working, right?) I am sorry for your loss and I have confidence that you will get through this. God will help you through this too - when you are finished being mad at Him like I'm guessing you are right now. God bless you and keep you and comfort you as much as He can.



Tracy

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