I love my kids, but sometimes I don't like them...

Emily - posted on 08/25/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband and I both work full time outside the home. My husband works more than me, a lot actually. So, my days are spent going to work and then taking care of the kids (both boys, age 11 months and 3 years). I AM TIRED! Every day it's work, then pick up from sitter and school, snacks, diapers, potty, dinner, cleaning, bath time, bottle, bedtime... Then the hubby gets home. I feel like a single parent, and I am sick of it! We don't see any job changes happening any time soon, so this is the situation for now. Anyway, I find myself not wanting to be around my kids, even thought I love them to pieces. I go to work and then come home to work. Forgot to mention that my 3 year old is on the autism spectrum, which makes things a tad bit more difficult. Advice?

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You're welcome Emily. The fun times will increase as your kids get older, just hang in there. At my toughest times I had a friend who kept telling me it would get better (she had been in a tough place too) and I hung on to her words of encouragement. They helped me through. You will get through too. :-)

Emily - posted on 08/26/2012

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Sharon, u have no idea how much u helped. Thk u for your kind words and empathy. I have felt many times that I wasn't meant to be a mother, and many days I wish I weren't. There r good days too, but right now they seem to be more work than fun. I hope it gets better soon and I am able to look back on this time and laugh.

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I have no advice to offer. But you are not alone in the way you feel. I too have felt the same way and wondered why I had kids. At times I feel that I am not cut out for the task and I should never have become a Mum, but thankfully it does get better and there are days I wouldn't swap it for the world. You are going through a rough patch and your feelings are nothing to be ashamed of. It WILL get better.

Kristin - posted on 08/25/2012

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When the mil is scalable, utilize her for ur own sanity.

check out if there are any play groups in the area. no, its not exactly "me" time for you, but u can get a chance to talk to other moms while ur kids play with the other kids.

if u feel the way u do, u r going to have to find some way to budget a baby sitter maybe just even once a week for ur self.

Emily - posted on 08/25/2012

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I wish I could. no close family, only mother in law, and she is not available very often. I want to get a sitter, but I can't afford to pay them. Sometimes I feel like this is just my lot in life and I just have to deal. It is what it is... You know? But meanwhile, I find myself yelling more at my kids and feeling more and more depressed. It's not a good situation.



I don't know if there any answers here. I just wondered if other moms ever feel this way too. Sometimes I think we try to put on outer view that we are all happy and our lives are great and we are super moms who can do it all, while on the inside, some of us are breaking and don't want to admit that there are times when we don't want to be a mom. It feels like an unspoken idea or something.

Firebird - posted on 08/25/2012

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Sounds like you you need a day/afternoon off. Can you leave your kids with the sitter for an extra 2 hours so you can have some 'me' time?

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