I LOVE MY REAL DAUGHTER

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014 ( 30 moms have responded )

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well i think that you should tell her that she is NOT YOUR REAL DAUGHTER and your NOT HER REAL MUM and she should know that her REAL MUM LOVES HER VERY MUCH coz my daughter is going for adoption not what i want at all but i have to coz she was taken from me and i am trying to get her back and all coz i am depressed and it not fair. and i know that i can take good care of her and keep her safe and love her more than anyone in this life trust me take it from some one that is going throw this so no dont tell her that her REAL MUM DOSE NOT LOVE HER OR CAN NOT LOOK AFTER HER OR CANT KEEP HER SAFE BECAUSE I CAN AS A MOTHER

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Angela - posted on 02/27/2014

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OK - everyone is talking about CPS. CPS is Child Protection Services, isn't it? In the USA? I have a feeling that Shannon isn't actually American. She speaks of a solicitor - (not a lawyer or an "attorney" which is the more likely term an American would use) - she also speaks of herself as the "REAL MUM" - not "MOM" - but "MUM". I therefore believe she's British (I'm British too).

The authorities for Child Protection in the UK can take a child for a variety of reasons - sometimes these reasons may seem quite weak. It depends on the local authority (district or borough council) where the parents live - some local authorities are far stricter than others.

* They will look at the mental health history of both parents
* They will also look at any criminal record - particularly drugs offences and offences against children - of both parents
* They'll look at other children that either or both parents have had - and how these children are cared for and any issues arising (they liaise with schools, health authorities and the Police to find everything they need to know).
* Another thing that will be taken into consideration is the support network the parents have - especially if they are very young. A young mother, with the best will in the world will cope better if she has a partner who is not leaving her alone to look after a baby by going out drinking, using drugs and enjoying a social life every night - particularly if he is NOT in gainful employment. They'll also look at the extended family and see what support they're giving. So parents, grandparents etc ... all play their part.
* They will look at the home conditions where the child will be living. They'll expect to see a clean, safe and secure home that's adequately heated with a proper bathroom.
* They'll want to make sure NO questionable people are living under the same roof - like users of drugs or persons who have committed offences against children.
* Sometimes the extended family are the ones who raise concerns. The grandmother or grandfather of the baby may approach Social Services and say that they have concerns that their son/daughter won't be able to cope with the new baby.

Of course, a child would not be removed until at least ONE Child Protection Case Conference has taken place.

For a child to be removed from birth suggests strong reasons. I have no idea what those reasons might be, Shannon needs to tell us or at least to ask her Social Worker.

Also, sorry to say this Shannon, but if your child was taken at birth and is now 4½ months old, I'd say your chances of getting her back are quite slim. I hope I'm wrong and I really wish you the best of luck.

I would also venture to say that if your defensive attitude on here is in any way indicative of your communication with social workers, child protection authorities etc ... then this will not have helped your case in the least. Typing in block capitals is shouting; there is also swearing and bad language in your posts; plus evidence of poor spelling, grammar, punctuation and an inability to express yourself coherently. None of this helps when you're challenging a decision made by official people.

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Shannon Browne it is heartbreaking to hear that your baby is getting adopted but I know in the USA they can't just take away babies right after birth unless you hurt yourself at the time while you were pregnant. If that is the case you still can prove that you can be a fit mother if you go through treatment the court orders. Where are you from? Because I have no idea what a solicitor is that like a court appointed lawyer? Or like CPS?

I know the mother has like a year or 2 to to change her mind or at least that what it was. Adoption is a long process so it isn't like bam my daughter is adopted without my permission.

If you are depressed then please get help so you can get your daughter back she is only 4 months you have to fight if you want her back. The mommies here are only trying to help you and freaking out screaming and yell isn't going to help. You have to be serious if you want your child back. Stand up and fight but fight the right way. Don't just sit back and scream it isn't fair I want it and planned to have her as part of my family. Then put on your big girl panties stand up for yourself and get the help to get your baby back/ I know if one of babies were taken away they would have to pry my fingers off of her and I would do anything that was needed to have done every step to get her back to see that I was fighting for her.

If you need a direction help to show you which way then you have to be honest to the moms here trying to get the story. There are moms from all over here look on these communities someone can help you if you want the help but you have to want it and not bitch and complain because it is something you don't want to hear. The internet has tons of information. Use it.

Stand up for your daughter and fight if you want her so bad. But you have to want to fight.

I wish you all the luck in stepping in the right direction in getting her back and the first step is being truthful to yourself

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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So, you didn't understand that I was using Ms. Browne as a formal mode of address?

Yes, my dear, 20 IS YOUNG...LOL...especially compared to 30, or 40, or 50. And the tone of your response definitely indicates it.

NEVER DID I SAY that you were on drugs, Ms. Browne, I said that COULD BE ONE REASON THAT A NEWBORN IS IMMEDIATELY REMOVED FROM THE MOTHER. Those who take offense to statements like that usually have a reason to...

NEVER DID I SAY that you are a LIAR. I said that there was most likely more to the story.

Sorry, kiddo, but the fact of the matter is this. CPS can remove your child if they feel that you've done something to endanger the child. If the child was removed from you AT BIRTH, there was a reason.

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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basicly i love my baby and i can look after her and keep her safe but she was taken from me after she was born 17th october 2013 and not seen her since and now she being adopted and it is not what i want

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Kirby - posted on 02/26/2014

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ok ok.....either you had a case plan with your kids and didn't. complete it or...you have a mental problems....the only reason they take newborns are that you have a open case ....but if you cant have your child/children the state taken all your parental rights due toyou not following your case plan..no need ti stress do what you got to do for your child,/children....hope it work's out

Gena - posted on 02/26/2014

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I agree with the other moms..No body can take a baby away after birth without a good reason,and i am sorry Shannon,only because you are depressed they would not have taken her away from you after birth.You know the real reason,and if you dont want to share it with us its fine.But you wont get proper advice if we dont know whats really going on.

Michelle - posted on 02/26/2014

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They don't just take babies away from their Mothers without a reason. Yes you would know the reason but obviously you don't want to tell us. We can't give you advice without knowing the whole situation. It's not just because you are depressed, unless you have been self harming or are a threat to others.

Shannon - posted on 02/25/2014

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hi i am her real mum igave birth to her and she was taken away and she is 4 months 2 weeks and 6 days

Sarah - posted on 02/25/2014

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Yes I agree with Michelle swearing at people will just make us madder. We just need to know a little more about the story not you.

Michelle - posted on 02/25/2014

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Getting angry with complete strangers over the internet that don't have the full story doesn't make sense, just like your posts.
Swearing at people for asking for more information to be able to HELP you isn't wise either.
In future, if you would like help then let us know the full story and don't get angry when people ask more questions to try and understand.
Your posts haven't really made sense and from what you have posted it's still not a reason for CPS to take your child. There has to be more background but if you don't let us know it then we can't give you helpful advice.
My recommendation is to chill a bit and not take out your anger on a bunch of strangers over the internet.

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2014

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How exactly did the solicitor lie to you?

I agree with the others, they don't take babies for no reason, especially planned ones. This isn't just for depression. If you planned this baby, you clearly have a partner. What does your partner do? has your partner ever taken drugs? Does your partner have any kind of record? They don't take babies because someone is just suffering depression. There is generally something else. What did they actually cite as the reason - did you have a case worker with information about the case? They would have to have provided you with a reason.

Lea - posted on 02/24/2014

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I don't get what this post is truly about. It makes not sense. Can you please take a moment to retype it and retell the thing from the beginning? All I can gather from the posts is that your daughter was taken by CPS at her time of birth and now she is being put up for adoption and you are depressed. But why was your daughter taken in the first place. What was the reason CPS gave you? Can you get her back? I just don't know what to say when I am so lost and confused about this post

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2014

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I am sorry for you Shannon! You just got to fight for her. Do you know her real mom? How old is she? If you know what her address is write to her explaining that. Sorry if you already answered my questions in other comments cause I have not looked at them.

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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i do copariet but if a soicitor lied to you your telling me your going to keep him/her

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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Well, here's SOME of the rest of the story...

You tell a solicitor to 'piss off', and don't show for court...No wonder. Not showing is considered 'contempt of court', and usually prompts the judge to decide the other way.

So, sounds like it may be time to attempt to get another solicitor to take your case, which could be difficult if you aren't willing to be cooperative.

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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there was not a reason and be for i told my solisitor to piss off and not come to court after she lied to my face

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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YOU post a completely nonsensical post. YOU take offense at any responses...You tell ME!

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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and why would i want to put tiffany up for adoption if she was planed to be a part of a family that i wanted and i still do want

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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Ms. Browne, you're not going to get much sympathy, nor any advice if all you can tell us is that we 'don't know fuck'.

FYI..FUCK is what you do to create a kid! Or a word that you scream out in anger, or because you think it's 'cool'. There. See, I DO know. XP

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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Well, we don't fucking know anything, but you came onto this site, posted a nonsensical post, and got responses.

Now, seeing the tone of that last one, I'm gonna go out on a limb here. Most likely you're either a very young lady, or you're in some way involved in a less than legal passtime, such as drugs.

You either at one point agreed to give the child up for adoption, and then changed your mind (very understandable, once you go thru the pregnancy), or the baby tested positive for drugs and was removed from your care.

For which, I'm sorry, but the safety and health of the baby is the most important. If you did have the baby taken by family services, you will be able to get her back, if you comply with the requirements to do so.

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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you all think what you want but i can be a good mum and there is know proof of mishandleing coz she was taken straight away

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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and if you can read it says i am deppresed that is why she has been taken away but you lot dont know fuck all

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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As Michelle stated, babies are not removed from the parents' care unless there's been some proof of mishandling, and they're never just arbitrarily put up for adoption. This is not the 1950's.

There's more to this story.

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2014

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what the fuck do you know and its not a story its mine and my girls life

Michelle - posted on 02/24/2014

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She wouldn't have been taken for no reason. I'm sure there's a lot more to this story.

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