I'm 14 years old and I'm pregnant with twins

Heath Grace - posted on 12/01/2013 ( 46 moms have responded )

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Hello my name is Heath and I'm scared about all of this and I wasn't expecting to get pregnant but things happen but I need help and some support on this deal if there is any moms out there to help me and support I would love to talk and have a conversation about this please help me I'm really scared about this so please talk to me and tell me anything you know.😢

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Abigail - posted on 12/01/2013

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Hi.
Wow, 14?! Your still a baby yourself.
Are you planning on keeping the babies?
Is the baby daddy in the picture?
Where are your parents n how do they feel about your situation?

Sorry, I know it's a lot of questions. Just want to get some insight on the whole pic.
I have 3 kids of my own and I've also worked with children of all ages. You can reach me on here or we can exchange FB info if ud like.
Take care

Amanda - posted on 12/06/2013

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It's okay you'll be fine I got pregnant when I was 13 I wasn't even having to regular peiord. I didn't know how babies are made I didn't know about sex I had sex and I had a baby now I know what happens sill with my boyfriend and I have a little girl named Maria May lindenfelt I breast-feed her and I'm still in school so don't be scared

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2013

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Heath
Congratulations! Having twins no matter the mothers age, is difficult.
Have you spoken to your Dr yet?
Are you planning a vaginal birth or a c-section?
With Twins Dr's will usually push for C-Section. They will keep very close watch on the babies and their positions towards the end.
If possible try a vaginal birth it is less for your body to recover from.
An epidural is given through a needle inserted into your spinal column to numb you from the waist down. Once you receive this you won't be allowed out of bed as you won't be able to control your legs etc. If you are doing a c-section they will give you an epidural as they are going to cut through your skin, abdominal muscles and uterus to then pull the babies out through the hole they created. Then they will stitch everything back up and it will take a while just for you to be able to sit up comfortably. Mothers have babies all the time vaginally with no pain killers all over the world. If you typically take little to nothing for cramps when you have your period then you will probably be ok through the contractions. If you are OMG cramps hurt really bad quick take midol, advil etc, then you are probably going to want an epidural. When it is time to push the babies out. It hurts, although the doctors or nurses can do a peritoneal massage and that stretches and loosens up the muscles of the vaginal canal making it so it hurts less when the baby is coming through. Give you are having twins, the 2nd baby coming through has a much easier time as the 1st one stretched everything out of the way pretty much.

Abigail - posted on 12/01/2013

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39 wks! That means you can have the babies any day now. You're one of the lucky ones to go past 37 wks for twins. You're lucky to have your parents help, take advantage and go to school. Since you're barely 14 you have no other choice than to continue and finish school. Once those babies are born, they're your responsibility that means you take care of them 24/7 if possible. Don't leave it all to your parents. .They're there to help not be their parent. That also means your whole life's gona be different if it's not already. Once you get older and are able to hold a pt job go for it so you can help your parents out and provide for your babies. Try to get into any program that helps young mothers that help by providing formula, baby cereal and things like that.
Keep trying to contact the baby daddy or go to his house if you know where he lives, get him/his parents involved. You need all the help and support from family you can get.
Good luck

Mary - posted on 12/04/2013

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Heath sweet heart,
Stay strong and positive. Dont listen to peoples negitivity!! I'm 27 and still learning that. Its hard.. first things first take care of yourself by eating right and getting the sleep you need for your baby to grow.. if your feeling down and need some one to talk to hey the hospitals or churches for support groups.. where you can talk to women like your self that have or are going through the same thing you are. Online schooling is the best you can do everything With in a year if you work hard enough.. I did it in a year and 10 months. But I had tons of other thing going on.. any ways getting your GED is good as well If you don't have the time. As a new mom you can get free college schooling and help with day care as well. There are web sites for free stuff for you and baby that gives you reading material and products and samples that you can use later on. Even thoe you didnt plan your blessings it may be a blessing in disguise. Hopefully your family is being supportive. I know from experience that its not always easy getting familys suport. It may take them time to come around.. The best thing is still a head.. there are women out there that can never have children.. if your not able to keep your kids try to help other loving women like your self and give them the chance to be a mom.. if your going to kepp your baby's, just remember you are blessed and don't let any one tell you different!! I know all of this can be very very very overwhelming but stay strong and keep positive.. there are women clinics that have baby training classes.. so u can learn how to change a diaper and rap your baby for comfort, also for feeding and daily tasks. Also make sure you go to your Dr's appointment s regularly. Always ask questions no matter how stupid or odd you may think they are .. no question is a bad one. I wish you the best of luck.. I hope this helps in some way.. BTW the book what to expect when your expecting. The 2012 version is good. Its got a lot of information. You can find it at the lybrary.

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Heath Grace - posted on 12/08/2013

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thank you stacy i gave birth to tthem friday im so happy that their home in my arms and Merry Christmas to you

Stacy - posted on 12/07/2013

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You are right things do happen and for a reason. Glad you have 2 healthy new babies! They truly are such a blessing at ANY age, might of been unexpected but babies are nothing but little miracles.
My advice enjoy every moment with them. Stay in school and keep yourself up through the good and bad. Might be hard at first, I know with just one its hard enough, but it really does get easier, and looking back youll be so thankful you stuck through it all. I hope you have great support at home, as staying on here, it helps so much to talk to other mommas about anything. God Bless You! Merry Christmas

Em - posted on 12/07/2013

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Awe!!!!
Are they boy/girl? That's what I have! I had them at 25, with a 3 year old already. They are precious aren't they!
I hope your birth went well and everyone is okay.
Update us.
Now to the parenting! Twins are alot of work at first, but when they start playing they have each other so then it gets easier.

Heath Grace - posted on 12/07/2013

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everyone i hade my little butt heads their so adorable im so thankfull and happy that i had u guys as support thank u

Dominique - posted on 12/07/2013

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hi heath i just recently had twin girls they are a month old now but i wouldn't take anything back even though at times it's kind of tough but it only gets better

Depressedemoprincess - posted on 12/07/2013

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I only have one son, so I can not imagine how you are feeling being pregnant with twins. But if you need to talk I would love meeting new mommies :P My name is Alicia, I am 18 and I have an almost 11 month old son named Ethan :D

Amanda - posted on 12/06/2013

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It's okay honey don't be scared I've got pregnant when I was younger than you you'll make it

Fire And Ice - posted on 12/06/2013

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My niece's mom was 14 when she got pregnant and had my niece when she was 15. My niece is now 8 and a wonderful little girl. Her mom finished high school with the help of my family and her own family. She went on to college and finished her Master's Degree last spring/summer. She's thinking of joining the Navy so that she can make better use of her degree as a translator.
I became a mom at 19 and was frightened. My son was premature (not trying to frighten you). I'm high risk for pre-term births... both of my daughters were trying to come early and were able to be stopped.
Lean on your family for support. If they don't know already, you need to tell them. Ask them not to judge you but to be there for you as this is already a delicate situation. You need them to support your decisions. Even at 19, it was not an easy road. My son is almost 13 now. He's wonderful and a little blessing who's 7 inches shorter than I am. In just a couple of years, he'll surpass me in height. ;)

Melissaowens43 - posted on 12/05/2013

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it will be hard but u can do it ,just talk to ur mom ,ill be praying for u

Libe - posted on 12/04/2013

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everything happens for a reason so don't be scared god knows what he's doing with you

Rocky Renea - posted on 12/04/2013

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Hey I was 16 when I had my first....he will be 18 this mth.....being scared is a natural thing....but I know the age thing is a big scare :(....does your mom know,you really need to let parents know.....yes they will be upset trust me...but they will com down....I think all babies are a blessing from God....and my kids changed my life so much.....at 16...I wasn't ready but thought I knew everything....now at 35...with a almost 18 yr old ...17yr old.....6yr old....and 3yr..I am still learning...and know what....I learn so much from my older boys....DON'T LET NO ONE TELL YOU ,YOU CAN'T DO IT....IT WILL BE HARD BUT YOU CAN ..AND IF NOT ..THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WILL HELP YOU....LIKE MOMS DADS....TELL YOUR PARENTS PLEASE..:(

Heath Grace - posted on 12/04/2013

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aww thank u my dad is really encouraging me to stay in school and keep the babies and he's going to help me with them

Heath Grace - posted on 12/04/2013

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thank u naomi ur so sweet lots or love to u and who would kill a little inacent baby like that not me even though i did have that choice from my dad

Linda - posted on 12/04/2013

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Hello. My name is Linda, mother of 2.
Having a child at your age is not healthy, but you can make it! Just eat yogurt so the babies get protein.

Angela - posted on 12/04/2013

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I didn't see the post from Ladan or whatever she was called but I guess it was pretty negative. No point in saying a 14 year old shouldn't get pregnant - she already knows that and what's done is done.

That fact is, pregnancy, birth and child-rearing is hard for ANY first time mother, whatever her age. I'm sure Heath has already heard all of this - throughout her pregnancy - and I'm pretty sure she knows it anyway without anyone telling her.

I'm in my mid-50's and all my kids (I have 4) are grown up. I've never raised twins although my youngest 2 were only a year apart.

There is help out there for young mothers so take everything you're entitled to and raise your little ones.

Here's ONE thing I can think of that is very positive .....

A very young mother like yourself will only be in her late teens/early 20's by the time the twins are in full-time school. But you'll still be young enough to start on your chosen career ladder from scratch! This will drastically reduce your childcare costs when you start work! Finish your education and look into getting qualifications and vocational training towards whatever you want to do for a living. Make those kids proud of you!

I'd like to wish you all the love, luck and happiness in the world. By the way, there are one or two special Circle of Moms forums for the parents of twins - might be worth your while checking them out!

http://www.circleofmoms.com/twins

http://www.circleofmoms.com/young-moms-o...

http://www.circleofmoms.com/moms-having-...

http://www.circleofmoms.com/single-moms-...

http://www.circleofmoms.com/twins-on-the...

Good luck!

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Ladan while you are absolutely right, a 14 year should not be getting pregnant, what is done is done. I hope she gets the right guidance in life so it does not happen again while she is still very young. I feel terrible for her because she is going to miss on a lot of things. But she is scarred and is still a baby herself. Some kids her age kill the baby. At least she is trying to reach out for help. She does not need hurtful words.

Em - posted on 12/04/2013

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Forget people like Laden. Notice how she has only had one post ever on this entire site and it was to shame you. That says way more about her than it does about you.

Please continue school as you want to keep as many options open for yourself as possible.
KNOW you are strong and will be fine.
You still haven't said the kind of medical care you have gotten or have setup for the birth.
Good luck honey. I have 4 kids, one a teenager. If you were them I would hug you up and encourage you to believe in yourself and take care of your responsibilities.

Khyra - posted on 12/03/2013

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I am a young mother as well!! I got pregnant at 16 & . I graduated high school & I got my first job at 17!!! All it takes is hard work, strength, & support. If your family doesn't help than seek other help. It is not the end only the beginning!!!! I can't give you any advice in twins but I'm sure it can be done with double the effort! Good luck & congrats!

Rose - posted on 12/03/2013

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hey hun :)

i know what it feels like to be terrified but dont worry, everything will fall into place. think of your twins as a blessing in disguise. now, its gonna be real hard at times but dont ever let that get you down. there will be equal amounts of good times. as longas you have some support from your family and a few friends youreally trust you will be jusy fine. i believe your strong. just hang in there, keep you head held high, and you'll be ok :)

Charuta - posted on 12/03/2013

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Hi Heath
I am a mom of a 3 yr old toddler and a 9 month old baby. Trust me, it might get stressful initially as a new mom, you are not sure if you are doing the right thing, you want to provide the best to your child and so on. But a support network (experienced moms, friends, online forums) all can help you when you face nay issues. After all of it, when you cuddle up the angels in your arms...it is all worth it!!!

You be blessed!
All love...

Guadalupe - posted on 12/03/2013

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Hi Heath!
There is one thing i could only say everything will come to you naturally. From changing a diaper to making formula. let me tell you everything is going to seem hard at first but don't let that fool you it gets so much easier over time but one thing for sure is your always going to be on duty with your kids. i wish you nothing but the best and hope you have 2 healthy kids.
Good luck

Heath Grace - posted on 12/03/2013

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aww thank you that meant a lot to me my dad is going to help me and my twin sister I guess twins just run in the family 😃

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Hi Heath, I'm guessing you must be almost due to have bubs. I have a 3yr old and an 8week old. I'm also a full time nursing student and to be honest the one thing that makes life easier is having a good support network.i can only hope you have help from family and friends.this will be a trialling time for you but if you surround yourself with people who love and support you,you can make it through anything

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Wow what a stupid thing to say Kayda, youre pretty sick in the head.

And at 14, you should be still playing at the park yourself for crying out loud. Talk to your parents they're the ones supporting you.

And whatever you do don't listen to ANY stupid advice that involves harming babies.

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Heath hang in there I know your scared but just so you know you have all of us ladies on here for support.I am glad that your parents are there to help you .Hang in there and your babies are almost here

Sharon - posted on 12/03/2013

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Wow..forteen brings back memories..being scared is natural. No one especislly babies come eith hand books..it would be easier if they did...I hope you are seeing doctor regular so to be sure you and your babies are healthy..its really important. And I hope your getting support from your parents and they are being kind..if not tell them you are scared..there's nothing wrong with it..let them know you need them for yourself and the babies...it will be a tough road ahead believe me but you can do this...babies are miracles each ones different with thier own ways as you will soon see....start by being healthy both body and mind..

Em - posted on 12/02/2013

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HI! I have twins. I recommend having a circle of moms of twins to call, email, hang out with, etc. Feel free to message me. I had vaginal birth and nursed both of them.
DO you know what your having? Have you gotten prenatal care? Do you have a specific dr you are seeing? Do you have other siblings in the house that this will effect?

Catherine - posted on 12/02/2013

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I agree! The worst part for me was the epidural needle going into my spine! Ughhh it still gives me the hee-bee-gee-bees!

Catherine - posted on 12/02/2013

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Hi darlin' Im sure you are very scared! I dont know anything about you or your family life but if your feeling scared to tell a parent or older sibling or whoever! Dont be! Hopefully you have loving family members or responsible, caring friends... But from MY personal experience, REALLY think about you and your babies future! Are you financially and emotionally ready to be a parent? Do you have a support system? Whether the father of your babies or anyone else you KNOW you can count on? And what do YOU NEED? I let my h.s. boyfriend talk me into an abortion, and at the time felt it was my choice and what i wanted/needed at that time in my life, long story short i am 26 now with a 4 month old and ever since i aborted my first child ive regretted it every second! Especially after having my 4 mo old, just imagining that i WILLINGLY let someone abort my baby left me disgusted with myself! Shes such a miracle and i basically "threw away" my first miracle! Yes my life would have been extremely difficult but i was being selfish! And this is just ME! Everyones circumstances are different! I have an amazing family who would support my choices no matter what and would've welcomed my child with open arms, but being young and scared and pressured by a man i THOUGHT loved me, i unfortunately made the wrong decision! Hun, i hope everything works out for you and if you need anything! I mean ANYTHING ill give u my info and you can call/email me no matter what it is about! Good luck darlin, and it might sound "stupid" but follow YOUR heart! Truly!! Good luck and best wishes!

Avinley Renee - posted on 12/02/2013

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I'm 14 Years Old And I Had A Beautiful Daughter In August. I Got Pregnant when i was 13. I Wont sugar coat any of this for you so you dont expect anything different. It Was very painful when i was contracting and each time it got worse. I Recommend you Get an epidural. i got one and when it started to work. i felt NOTHING. I Only felt pressure. getting the epidural may or may not hurt. but either way it works. and it is SO Worth it. It Will be ok. Just stay healthy and stay strong. Its Will Be Worth it when you got your babies.

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Hang in there. Few more days and you will have the babies God willing. Try to relax and be ready for the hospital any min now. Educate yourself about the stages of labor and the breathing techniques if you don't already know them. Worry about one thing at a time. It is great that you have your parents support. Good luck for you.

Michelle - posted on 12/02/2013

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HI Heath I know your scared because my 15 year old daughter is also pregnant .She is 12 weeks and also nervous and scared .Her BF is still much in the picture .So she is going to finish high school and go onto college after she has the baby .I told her because she thought I would just kick her out of the house after she told me .I would never do that so I told her I will always be there for her .So take care and have a great day

Rachel - posted on 12/01/2013

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This is extremely challenging, but it's important to know that you're not alone. Definitely reach out to Abigail. Raising twins is a very serious endeavor that will tax you greatly, though I believe you'll ultimately find the results rewarding. Also check out http://www.familygroups.org. They can help match you (for free) to other parents nearby that can lend a hand. Definitely check it out if you want to connect to other moms in your neighborhood.

Heath Grace - posted on 12/01/2013

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thank you I know it's a blessing that my parents are going to help me I'm scares and don't know what to do when the babies are born I know it's going to be challanging for me bc were I'm so young I'm going to graduate school but I'm just in 9th grade and the baby daddy is in 12th about to graduate but when my mom was talking to my friends mom about me being knocked up I guess she heard and told everyone at school so I asked my mom to change me schools and she did that was like a once in a life time so tomorrow is going to be my first week at my new school see my mom put me in a school for teenaged girls that are pregnant so I spent 6 months there and my mom took me out and homeschooled me and now I'm going to a public school. I don't even know what to except after I have these babies I'm really scared bc I've never been in the persents of a women giving birth but once but I didn't see just heard. Can you tell me what I will excpect during and after labor bc I'm worried and don't know what to do like right now I'm pacing back and fourth please tell me.

Heath Grace - posted on 12/01/2013

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he left me before I got to tell him and when I try to contact him he never anwsers I'm 39 weeks and my parents r going to help me but they said I'm still going to go to school but tomorrow is going to be my fiest week back to school

Abigail - posted on 12/01/2013

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How many months are you? Are your parents willing to help you the whole way thru?
Why doesn't the baby daddy know about it yet?

Heath Grace - posted on 12/01/2013

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thank you so much yes I'm planning on keeping the babies and the baby daddy doesn't know right know and my parents r pretty mad but they said it's my choise to keep it abort it or adoption and I don't really really think the dad is going to be here but he might get some pictures though

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