I'm 16, single and expecting a baby girl soon

Harley Elizabeth - posted on 10/15/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I love my ex, whom is the baby's father. We were also engaged. A lot happened. He messed up big time. If he comes back should I let him back in? should I love him still? should I trust him? I need advice.


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Dove - posted on 10/15/2015




Everything Jodi said. You are only 16... do not focus any of your life (except as far as custody, visitation, and child support for your baby) on this or any other guy at this point... please. Your first priority is to your child and your second priority is to your life and a stable future for both of you.

Now... a part of you will probably always love him as he's the father of your child, but if he's messing up already... you need to steer clear of that and any other drama for the sake of your baby. Feelings are feelings and are often illogical and unpredictable... but it's the actions that matter and trust is SO important. Once it's broken... it's not easy to rebuild even for mature (aka... OLD... lol) adults.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2015




You are 16. You are far to young to commit yourself to someone who is "messing up". But that doesn't mean he shouldn't step up and take responsibility. Right now, your number one focus needs to be on the baby. Once the baby is born, file for child support (although that could be difficult if your baby's father is still a minor). You also need to make sure you allow him to be a part of the baby's life, but make sure you file for custody and visitation orders. Do you have the support of your family?

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