George - posted on 04/10/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I divorced my mentally abusive X 2 1/2 years ago - my son was 13 at the time and picked his Dad to stay living with. It took me over a year to get qualified and to find a home. The one I found is 30 miles away from my son and the reason I decided on buying this house is because the taxes and houses are a lot nicer and cheaper. My X makes good money and has all the play tools (video games) that of course my son couldn't leave - plus it's close to his school & friends. My X has done nothing but down me because he has to pay me alimony and he is VERY narcissist. He doesn't have a license so now he has to ride his bike to work and where ever they need to go. That's 2 of the reasons I left I was the taxi and he played video games all the time when he got off of work and didn't spend much time with us. So now my son is 16 and ever since I have been gone has only stayed over a total of 4 times and acts all bored when he is with me unless I'm taking him out and buying him things. I'm just so confused because of this and don't know what to do. I asked him about Easter and of course he has plans to do this with his Dad or other things. It's hard for me to get a conversation in with him because he acts like it's a bother to even talk to me on the phone. The last couple times he called me and said I'm available now if you wanna come see me ( 1 hour notice) and I used to go get him as soon as he called but the last 2 times I was busy and didn't jump ASAP. I'm supposed to go see him the week before Easter and give him his goody bag but it was like pulling teeth to get the one day to see him - because I had to make a day when he wasn't busy. Wow I can't believe this is happening. He and I were pretty close (I thought) before I moved but I guess not. I'm disabled from a accident that my X was driving and my daughter from a previous man died and I was in a coma for 2 months and had to learn how to walk, talk, eat and everything again after I got out of hospital now I live on a fixed income and it all has been really hard and I don't know if I should keep seeing him the few times when he is available or what??