I'm a little freaked out!! Please help me!

Amber - posted on 05/24/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Okay so I have a 23 month old daughter who has recently (2-3 weeks) started crying when its time to wipe her butt. She has never done that before up until then. She clinches her legs together and refuses to open them so I can wipe her. Now my first thought is maybe she has a rash but it doesn't look red or anything. I'm a single mom and I'm seriously freaked out my first thought was"did someone touch my baby?" She hasn't been around anyone new and anybody who watches her which is about Oh maybe 3 different people my mom, sister and the woman I babysit for and trust them COMPLETELY and maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions. What I want to know is if anybody else's daughters have done that maybe its a stage or idk. I'm really worrying myself. I plan on taking her to the doctor tom but until then I want answers Please help!

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Amber - posted on 05/26/2011

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I'm happy to say that her doctor pulled it apart and everything is fine. He even checked her just to reinsure me that nothing else has happened which nothing did happen. She is doing better yesterday after he pulled it apart was rough but today really hasn't been bad. We are just suppose to put vaseline on it to keep it moist. THANK YOU so much ladies for your advice and support through this questionable time for me!!

Mary - posted on 05/26/2011

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Amber, I am glad that you found out what is happening with your daughter. When you notice things like this it is so good that you contact your doctor.
Your instincts were good that you knew something was not quite right. I am glad your worst fears were not the problem. Talk to your doctor about those fears. He/she can help.

Amber - posted on 05/25/2011

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They said they would have to have the doctor pull it apart. she goes to the doctor today at 2:30. They also said it is something they do grow out off. I just hope they can fix it, they also said that if it continues to do it she would have to see a urologist. I will let you know what they say.

Krista - posted on 05/25/2011

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Yes, I've heard of baby girls getting adhesions, and evidently they CAN be quite painful. I'm glad you have it figured out.

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Amber, glad you got it figured out but ohhhh that poor little baby! No wonder! Hope it clears up soon! What can / will the doctor do about it, or is it something that will correct itself?

Mel - posted on 05/25/2011

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I jumped to those conclusions there too with my girl when she was younger but found out it was just a stage :) She would do the same things we had to pin her legs down.

Amber - posted on 05/24/2011

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Thank you ladies for your help, I'm glad to say we have figured it out. If you have daughters you should know that sometimes their little (sorry to be so blunt i can't remember exactly what the medical term is called) "clit" grows together. She had this problem a couple of months ago they put her on some meds and it cleared it right up with no problem well today she I was finally able to get a closer look after about 5 mins of fighting her, that her little whole has closed up. She has about a pen whole size left which is why she is able to pee and I didn't notice it. I called the nurse on call and explained to her what was goin on and she said that it why she wasn't wanting me to wipe it was hurting her. I could kick myself for not noticing sooner but glad I did see it. I was really worried and of course I'm the type of person that always thinks the worst, which I could also kick myself for. Thank you ladies again for atleast giving me other things to consider which took my mind of the worse case. Thank you again!!

Kimberly - posted on 05/24/2011

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My daughter has recently went through the same thing. She didnt want me to wipe her at all and she did get a rash a few days after. The doc said that it was likely from the ph in her stools and urine changing and 'burning' her skin so when i would wipe it would sting her. they gave me some creams that cleared it up. Still take her to the doc she could also have a urine tract infection and because it hurts she doesnt want to open her legs. Lil's cant always say exactly where it hurt so just shut legs altogether.hope you get to the bottom of it soon

Elfrieda - posted on 05/24/2011

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She might be reacting to the chemicals in the wipes. It might burn if she scratched herself down there. Try just using water (in a spray bottle) and some soft paper towels for a few days, and see if that helps.

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Her skin down there may just be irritated, but not appear to be. Like there may be no rash or signs of irritation. I know when my son was about her age, younger actually, he would do the same thing. He'd see me coming at him with a wipe and would clinch his butt cheeks and do everything he could to get away from me. I think sometimes, like when they're sleeping, and their diaper fills with pee (or poop, or both) and then they lay in it the rest of the night, it's probably an uncomfortable feeling. Kinda like how it feels when you've had a wet bathing suit on for too long? Hope that makes sense lol Either way, best of luck to you and your little girl's bum!

Michelle - posted on 05/24/2011

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If you can get her to lie down look at it bum it sounds gross but you will have to pull her cheeks apart she may have whats called a "fish hook" its a little piece of skin right at the anal opening. If that's the case then take her to the doctor and you'll get some medicine for it. My son had one before.

Amber - posted on 05/24/2011

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I haven't noticed that she has any hard stool. She does poop regularly, and I'm just scared having a little girl is scary enough because of these reasons.I just found it odd. Now that i have FINALLY calmed down I began to think she has recently "found" her privates so maybe she scratched it or something like that. I just don't know. Thank you for your advice I'm gonna keep an eye on her when she poops just in case. Thank you again!

Jenn - posted on 05/24/2011

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Is she having regular bowel movements? It could be that she had a hard stool that really hurt and now she doesn't want anything to touch her butt. Do still take her to the doctor and keep an eye on her when she poops, if you notice her straining then that is most likely the issue. It can become an emotionally scary thing for a child. The doc would most likely recommend something like Miralax (he'd give the proper dosage) to help soften her stool.

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