Joyce - posted on 08/15/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
it's been an awful heartbreaking nightmare existence that never stops from morning to night agony knowing that my daughters keep my own family away fro me, i am that negative ,depressing person that says things in a wrong way but not to hurt anyone. Years go by and it doesn't stop i would have done suicide but i have children at home. when i read the emails of women that kept their children away i feel for their mothers. The children in this throw away world are taught to disrespect their mother from the the time they are born to disrespect their mothers movies ,books TV. Capable of love, just remove her from her own families love that could have help her. your teaching your own children that they should have no empathy or caring for you in the future. you are teaching them ready made solutions based on your own anger and negativity. I've have been negative around my children at home, but thank God, we talk about it to the point of laughter and my children are capable are able to talk to their friends about negative issues who knows how many changes they have made. I have 3 older daughters that have constantly done things to us the ones still at home, and i also had to curb their influences because believe it or not your children are grown but not always right in their judgment either.You could say it's because the mom taught them to be negative but then who taught the mom? I was born without love in a family that the stepmom hated me and only projected horrible negativity to me to the point of telling me she hated me and wish i would die and only wanted her real kids, since i was the product of a cheating husband. My family could have helped me to stay in the family but they didn't it was easier to just get rid of me, i was diagnosed with PTSD and depression after.. raising my 1st 3 children. I now have breast cancer and am extremely lonely for my oldest daughters and grandchildren and great grandchildren but it can't be fixed because the poison has gone on for too many years and last year i was not invited to my daughters wedding, before you think of being so ruthless to someone who may not be able to help themselves look in your heart tell them face to face without malice and explain why your wanting to limit their visits, if you do that, the smallest of things you would have at least treated them with some dignity and respect at least with something to think about and actively do something to curb themselves and even have some stop words that could be used if things sound too negative, Your suppose to be mothers, yet, you stop when things are difficult but your mother didn't stop when things were difficult for her with you, i know i didn't, i kept trying to do better, be better but when u have years where people just treat you like that what's the point, their not going to stop because family members are now use to thinking we are better than she is her own children threw her out of the family etc. yet hopefully, you wouldn't do that to your children would you? no, you would work with them and get them help but your mother doesn't deserve the same? i don't know how long i can last i only pray i have strength to keep going on, I gave birth to at least 3 of the 6 that cherishes the love that was given to them and not just focuses on the negativity.