Rebecca - posted on 08/10/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am a mom of a 13,11,10,and 8 yr. old. I have 2 boys and 2 girls. One boy and one girl are step children. Because of their mom's struggles and poor choices, I am with them 100% of the time. I have my own children most of the time, but they do go visit their dad and step mom. Oh I could just go in several directions of frustration at this point, but my first focus area is this. My husband and I have been together for about 3 years now. I have known him long before that (since preschool) but we have been a couple and with our own children for about 3 years. I know that his children are having a hard time with the choices that their mom has made that cause them not to be able to see her for their own safety. (ex. being in jail for a while) Here is a little less of a problem, but a problem indeed. My children are very healthy eaters and love vegetables. My husband says, "hold the garden" when ordering a hamburger at a restaurant and ops for another potato instead of a salad. I only say that because you can see where my step children could be influenced to eat the way they do. He is all about any adjustments I would like to make to help his children eat healthier, but not willing to make changes to help them. It's really hard.
I have taught middle school for 12 years and have always loved it, so I know all about creativity, flexibility, and just making it work. I can't seem to make this work no matter what positive outlook I try to have. I have read to involve your kids in meal planning and cooking and just make few adjustments at a time. I have tried that too. If my husband were incredibly overweight with tons of health problems this would be another issue, but really he just has a belly. He is a great man, but this is one area that drives me nuts. Because I see the horrible physical and social effects of childhood obesity as a middle school teacher, this truly concerns me and hurts my heart for my step children. I would be lying if I said that I wasn't frustrated, but I am trying to remain positive. Any and all suggestions would be truly appreciative. Thank you in advance for taking the time to post.