I'm a single Grandmother raising my daughters 3 children. I have permanent Guardianship, work 1 fulltime job and 2 part time jobs but make sure I'm home every night with them. I moved to a larger home, with better schools and put them in after school activities...beauty pageants, music, Scouts. My question, I just found out my daughter is pregnant again, am I going to be expected to raise an infant too?

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Jana - posted on 11/09/2015

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You are not expected to, I think legally it is her responsibility (until she gets in trouble with legal issues, crime/drugs etc). Your question, it made it sound as if she'd give birth then drop off the baby as soon as she got home from the hospital. But, let's assume that is the scenario.... It is up to you to decide. You are not legally required to do this. It boils down to what your heart tells you to do. Not sure any of us could really know what it is like for you. Can you get some sort of welfare assistance to ease the financial burden? Are there other relatives who could step up? And, what about adoption? There are so many couples desperate for a baby but have to wait years.

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Raye - posted on 11/09/2015

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In the USA, parents are responsible for raising the child. If you have agreed to guardianship though the courts of three of her kids, then they are now your responsibility. If she has more kids, and you don't have a court decree saying that you are guardian of that one... then No, legally you are not responsible for that child. The mother should get her shit together and do right by her children. The father(s), too. But it's not a perfect world. Your daughter may expect you to take this child, too, but that's not her decision. Don't put yourself and current household at a disadvantage if it would be too much of a hardship to also care for the new baby. Whatever the outcome for that child, it would not be on your head. You didn't get her pregnant. You just have to talk to your daughter and then decide how much you are willing and able to help. If you can't so more than you're doing now, then you can't, and she needs to step up (and stop having kids).

Helen - posted on 09/17/2015

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Carmen, 100% Agreed!!
She had just started straightening her life out, left her drug addicted dead beat husband, moved in with her Dad, completed her CNA Training, started applying for jobs and now this.
I hate to say it because I don't want to sound less than Christian, babies are a Gift from God. but I'm hoping and praying it's just stress and she's not pregnant.
MY question remains, if she is do I or am I expected to raise that child too?

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