I'm a single mother of two and I've been thinking of having another baby is this a bad idea?

Nay - posted on 03/16/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I've been a single mother for a few years now, I've also been dating my current boyfriend for about 18 months. I have been thinking of having another baby and also making some kind of contract staying that he doesn't have to be there for the baby if he doesn't want to. I'm just not sure if this would be a good idea, or if having a baby it's self is a bad idea.

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Jodi - posted on 03/17/2014

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So maybe you should ask your family how they feel about you having another baby and possibly doing it alone if they are the ones you are going to fall back on if you need to.

Nay - posted on 03/17/2014

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My whole family live with in a few miles around from where I live with my children, so they are my support and I can count on them for anything issue I may have and even tho my kids father doesn't support them in any way financially, yes I do allow them to see him every week. Even tho he has another family now, I allow him to pick up or kids when ever he has the time to be with them. Normally once or twice a week.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/17/2014

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If you, as you say 'do it on your own' with no help from the fathers of the children, do you, at least, allow the children to know and have a relationship with their fathers?

Jodi - posted on 03/17/2014

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I never said a woman was incapable of doing anything without a man around, I was just asking a simple question. I've been a single mother doing it on my own, so I understand totally. But I would never have gone back for more as a single mother. What would be your back up plan if something happened and you couldn't go back to work, or there was a problem with the baby? Sorry, there are just too many unknowns, the potential for no support, and your two other children who are relying on you.

Nay - posted on 03/17/2014

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Myself of course, I'm an accountant, I currently support myself and both my children with out the support of their father. As a women you don't always need a man in your life to support you and your children. Women are fully capable of supporting her family financially, emotionally.

Nay - posted on 03/16/2014

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Thank you sarah for your opinion. I'm honestly not trying to be selfish I love kids and I can honestly say I believe both my kids are very happy they have a family that loves and supports them, they go to school and have extra activities like French classes, soccer, cheerleading and boxing. I just feel like having another member in the family will fully complete our family. I just don't want the baby daddy drama.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2014

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In my opinion bad idea. It sounds like you are only thinking about what you want and not about how your decisions will affect your child and the sacrifices your child would have to make because of a decision you made solely on your desires. Having a baby is not selfish but having a baby solely because you want one and not looking at what is best for the baby is selfish.

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