I'm afraid to leave my daughter with my husband

Becky - posted on 10/17/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have been with my husband for almost 12 years, married for 4. We have a beautiful 3 year old daughter that is my life. My husband and I used to be big partiers, but I left all of that behind 9 years ago. My husband has not been able to get clean and stay clean since them. I finally got fed up with the lies, stealing, etc and left him 6 weeks ago. I told him that he could see our daughter whenever he wanted, but I had to be there because I don't trust him. He has supposedly had guns in his face, knives and bats around him because he owed his drug dealers so much money. There are a lot of things that have happened in the past two weeks alone that make me think he isn't clean. For example, I paid for half of the moving truck and storage because he said he would take care of it. He was supposed to split the truck and unit with a friend of his, but a few days before he was supposed to move the stuff, she supposedly went into a mental hospital. So, my stuff was never moved and I have been doing it after working 11 hour days and trying to spend as much time with my daughter as I can because she is my life. He was expecting me to drop her off so he could watch her while I went to work, but I told him I wasn't going to because I didn't think she would be safe, even though he's at his moms. I don't trust a word he is saying. I don't want to take her away from him, which is why I am willing to meet him wherever and for as long as he wants, but he is flipping out about it because he says nothing will happen. I don't believe him. Since I didn't bring her over, he is threatening that he is going to call my work and tell them all kinds of lies, trying to get me fired. I can't understand why he would want to get me fired because then, neither one of us could afford to take care of her. I have a fantastic job, but he is unemployed. Am I right to not put her in danger if I don't know if he's clean or not? I am going to talk to a lawyer next week and start the divorce process and visitation. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you


Dove - posted on 10/17/2015




Gather your solid evidence of his drug use and his unsafe environment... and get a lawyer.

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