I'm feeling guilty.

Kelsey - posted on 01/28/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 9 month baby may have developmental problems with his language. I feel guilty because I feel like it's my fault. I was diagnosed with preeclampsia my last month of pregnancy. I was looking up more information about it and came across that preeclampsia can cause developmental delays. I know there was no way for me to avoid getting preeclampsia, but it still feels like it's my fault.

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Pichild - posted on 03/18/2014

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I would agree that 9 months is early to worry about language....my daughter (now 4) was not talking well at a year and when I asked her Dr about it she suggested the unthinkable ...TV!!!

But she was 100% right!!! Good educational programs like those found on PBS, Nick Jr and Disney Jr are awesome for language developement.

Bottom line is its not your fault...the fact that you a worried just shows what an AWESOME mom you are!!!

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Relax. Many babies speak later. Babies that speak later often add words all at once, whereas the ones who were speaking early (like doing the mama, dada thing at 9 months) often add words more gradually. My son was like this. Within a week of having said his very first word, he had already added more than 30 new words! Yes, he spoke later, but by the time kids are about 3 years old, the ones who spoke early have no more words than the ones who spoke later--it balances out.

My son was also late to roll over, but he took his first steps extremely early (rolled over at 6 months, first steps at 8 months!). My son is now a happy, healthy, and very bright 8 year old. In fact, he has several awards in Taekwondo, makes all A's at school, and is even in the gifted Science and Math program, and he reads on a 6th grade level, despite the fact that he spoke later and rolled over later than most babies.

Milestones are a good way to detect problems early, but your child is still VERY young yet. You don't need to be concerned about language for at least 6 more months.

Shawnteria - posted on 01/29/2013

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Its totally normal to worry your a mommy but you have to relax babys develop at their own pace. So dont think so much that its you just think hes not ready and he wil talk when he is, after all he is only 9 months.

Kelsey - posted on 01/29/2013

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He's not even doing the "mama" "dada" things. I've only really heard him baby babble maybe once or twice. He also took three extra months to roll over from his stomach to his back. I had told his doctor about my concerns about his physical development and the next day he rolled.

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With his "Language"? How can you tell at only 9 months. Most babies are not even speaking at 9 months, apart from the occasional "mama" "dada" "baba" etc.

Have professionals specializing in child development warned you of a problem in his language development? If not, I think you are jumping the gun. It is too early--he still has time to catch up. That said, always a good idea to share your concerns with your doctors.

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