I'm feeling very low

Zonera - posted on 07/08/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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For the best part of 10 years of my marriage my husband emotionally blackmailed me that he only wanted to be with me if I could keep his mum happy
Then when I said I want out he changed his tunes
He has tried controlling me in every way and I'm very resentful
He looks after all the finances
He gives me no pocket money it's my 12th year of my marriage and only now does he put petrol in my car after constant reminders which makes me feel low
I do three trips to school nursery and back
I have no friends he does not like me to have friends likes to control my time even at home
I want to change the balance I resent him and don't like having sex with him because of all the resentment
Also other factors of feeling low my mum has cancer stage 4 my father passed away this year and I have not had any time to grieve on my own
I want to be left alone to go and heal myself
My husband wI'll not look after the girls I have no friend network support and in laws side with him

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Michelle - posted on 07/09/2015

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But he is abusing you! Only you can help yourself.
Like I said, I was in the same situation but realized that I deserved better. I know it's hard taking that first step but for your own sake you need to do it.

Zonera - posted on 07/09/2015

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I wouldn't move I have no family who will help I have three girls he is a wonderful father and pays the bills and mortgage

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2015

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He is abusive and you don't have to put up with it. Find a women's shelter in your area and they will be able to help you.
Do you not have any other family you could move in with? You need to get out ASAP. I have been in your position, yes it's hard to take the first step but you need to do it.

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