I'm going nuts with my step son

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I've been married going on 6 years and I have three girls from a previous relationship and a son with my husband and last but not least my step son. My step son is very rude, picks on the other kids , years up furniture. He is 9 years old and omg he gets on my nerves!! He gets suspended from school all the time, doesnt listen and all he wants to do is play on the video game all day. If you dont let him, he will cry all day. I've talked to my husband and told him that his behavior is not acceptable and that we need to do something because like it or not, this child will be an adult in 9 scary years. Just yesterday I had a serious breakdown because again he broke something in the house and I flipped out because I've talked to husband no results are happening so all my anger is building up. Im really considering divorce because my nerves and life would be better without the turmoil. HELP PLEASE. Is anyone else out there having similar issues!

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Ev - posted on 03/30/2014

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Well, it does not sound like it was enforced then. Or somewhere along the lines this kid was allowed to continue this behavior. And my advice may suck to you, but if you do not like it then do something about it. You knew you were going into this marriage and family with this kid. If he was like this before, no one made him change his ways or showed him who was parent and who was child. It does not sound like to me that anything was done and this kid was allowed to continue and once it got on your nerves you decided it was time for divorce instead of looking into ways to deal with it. Maybe the whole family needs counseling. But also, if a child is allowed to run the roost and act this way, whose fault is it?

Ev - posted on 03/30/2014

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Does not sound like you and your husband sat down and talked out what was expected of kids once this family was blended. No rules were apparently set for ALL the kids with the same consequences. Also, I take it his mother was not made part of this portion of the parenting and behavior plan you guys should have made so she would be on the same page with rules and what not. Its not the child's fault that he was not made to mind and learn responsiblities and how to control his urges to play video games all day. His dad failed to listen to you and what you felt on this. And you have failed to get his dad's attention long enough to make it work.

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