I'm have a disagreement over what sports my unborn child should play i need some advice

Shenell - posted on 10/11/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I am 6 months pregnant with my third child i'm having a boy and im having a disagreement with my fiance' on how to raise him he thinks that i'm gonna baby him and make him soft because i dont want him play football i think that sport is too rough he thinks im going to raise him to be a punk i dont think so im i wrong???

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Jodi - posted on 10/11/2012

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You don't think choice of sport should be your child's? If he wants to play football, let him, if he doesn't, then don't? Simple really. I certainly think it's a silly thing to argue about before the kid is even born!!

Becky - posted on 10/11/2012

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Yeah, let the poor boy be born and become older before you decide on what he's going to become. It's really up to you son to decide who he wants to be, it you as a parent to support and guide him through it. One of my biggest pet peeves is when parents sign their child up for some sport or any activity that the child wants nothing to do with. Enjoy this time, and when it comes time, let him decide what he wants to do.

Firebird - posted on 10/11/2012

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Why can't the kid decide for himself what sports he wants to play... if he even wants to play sports?

Lillie Marietta - posted on 10/12/2012

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Like everyone before me has said, wait and let the child decide. When he gets old enough to make that decision, give him the freedom to decide if he wants to play or not. I have 5 older brothers, and my dad, who had played high school football and broke his collar bone, wouldn't for the longest time let my brothers play football cause he always said they might get hurt. The oldest two didn't even get to play because of this reason and the 3 younger ones (that went to high school at the same time) finally did get to because my dad finally said yes to try to keep one of them from dropping out. It was one of the best things to happen to them, they loved it, but didn't get to enjoy it as long as they wanted to because of my dad being stubborn. I just had my third child 4 months ago, and he was the first boy, and yeah I do call him my "Little Football Player", but it will always be up to him if he plays or not. I am gonna love him to death no matter how he turns out.

DeAnn - posted on 10/11/2012

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Uh - your kid will decide when he's ready. It's FAR too early to be discussing this. Let your child decide. Mine ended up being the geeky/artsy type. He's in orchestra and comic book club. He's an incredibly intelligent young man and avid reader, and great at video games. The girls don't chase him any less. He's 13. I have to fight those little hussies off with a stick!



Point is, let your child choose what to be involved in when he's ready. The fact that your fiance is acting this way is worrisome - what if your son is gay or identifies with the other gender? Is there a potential your fiance would disown or demean him - or worse, abuse him?



Plus, just because the sonogram says it's a boy doesn't mean that's final. Did you have amniocentesis? That's the only way to know for sure the genetic make-up of your child. It could be a girl, or your son could have XXY or another gender disorder and be a hermaphrodite. It's been known to happen.



Agree to drop the discussion until your child decides on what's interesting.

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Shenell - posted on 10/12/2012

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Thank you all for your advice and i agree that we should wait until he decides what he wants to do i would never stop my children from doing anything they want as far as sports or hobbies go i just dont want them to get hurt and that was how I feel I didnt even start the conversation I was just stating how i feel now i dont think that my fiance' will disown his own child I just think he wants him to be a manly man is you know what i mean

Gwen - posted on 10/12/2012

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Why don't you (and dad) give the kid a chance to grow up enough to choose his OWN interests?

Ariana - posted on 10/12/2012

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You know which sport has the most deaths and head injuries? Football then boxing. It is not unreasonable for you to not want your child in football.



Although I agree that you don't necessarily need to be talking about this now, if you really don't want him being put into football then don't put him in football.



There are lots of other 'manly' sports he can play. I personally think boys should be able to take dance or any supposed 'girl' sport and it doesn't make them less manly.



Tell your husband you'll put him into swimming until he's old enough to decide what sport your child is interested in. I say swimming because it's good for all children to learn to swim, some classes go as young as 5 months, and most kids love water.



Your child doesn't need to play football to be a man, and you don't really need to be picking out what sports he needs to play just yet :)

Michelle - posted on 10/11/2012

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I agree with some of the others, wait until he's old enough to decide. You are wasting energy arguing over this before he's even born.

Sal - posted on 10/11/2012

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Why don't you wait and see what type of boy he is, I think the problem will resolve itself as he grows and decides for him self

Vicki - posted on 10/11/2012

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You not wanting your son to be hurt is not wrong, I think if he didnt play football and played something else wouldnt mean that you are making him soft. Your child isnt born yet either of you have no idea as to what his personallity will be like, please take the time to enjoy the pregnancy and worry about the future when it arrives, besides whos to say your son will even like football.

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