Shannon - posted on 08/03/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
From the time I was 13 til I moved out at age 17 I was verbally and physically abused by my father (Not my biological father, my mom married him when I was 8 and he adopted my twin sister and me) The abuse wasn't severe, but abuse is abuse no matter what.
Well I forgave him when I was 20 and we had a decent relationship, I got married and had a son by the time I was 21. We were pretty close. My twin sister had a baby a year before me, wasn't married, ended up leaving the dead beat father and moved back home to mom and dad. well she screwed up and started partying and leaving my parents to keep her daughter most of the time. She was kicked out and it took a few months but she straightened up and is doing great now, she still has a ways to go but she's trying as hard as she can to get there! Well my parents can't seem to see that, all they do is bring up the past and treat her like she hasn't done anything... well last month my "dad" ended up beating her, worse than what he had done to me in the past. He threw her into the garage from the kitchen (down 3 steps) and kept picking her up and throwing her across the garage, she could have been killed or broken something! My sister didn't call the cops because she was afraid my mom and brother would end up homeless because my dad would have lost his job.
In the past my mom never did anything about it, this time she didn't either. She pretends like nothing has happened...
Well, I haven't talked to her since it happened, she hasn't tried to call me, I haven't tried to call her. I sent her a letter letting her know that I love her, but I'm disappointed that she was never there for me or my sister, also that she could come see her grand kids as much as she wanted as long as my dad doesn't come near us! Well I have yet to get a response from her and it's been a week. But I've gotten a response from a friend of theirs saying I ought to be ashamed of my self and God forgive me for what I've done... I don't understand.... my mom must have let her read the letter but this woman has NO IDEA what has happened! So should I still try to talk to my mom, or just let it be up to her and move on if she doesn't want a relationship?