Mitzi - posted on 05/23/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
my daughter has turned 18 and now says she's legal to do what she wants without me knowing anything. She wants to live with me still so I'll give her money, food and buy cloths for her but she will not be around me more than a day or two because I "stress" her out. she won't get a job. She stays with friends, she doesn't call or text, well if she needs money, tells me she hates me, I've never done anything she's proud of yet I still hang in there hoping to get through somehow that I'm not the villain. I;ve told her to get out, get her own place and a job but she says "no" that I'm responsible to her. I don't know how much more of this I can go. I never know if she's ok, coming home, we have had pets before and she's hurt them when she's mad at me and we have 2 cats she screams at, cusses them...awful to them...she's also mad because my parents passed away and she said they were better to her than I could ever be...she's the only granddaughter so they spoiled her really bad and I had to work nights to make ends meet so I didn't get to spend all that time with them either. I know teens say things for the wow factor and hurt but this is effecting my job now too and my bank account.
Please anyone help me, I love her with all my heart and yet I feel like if I was on fire she would pour gasoline on me instead of water...she hates me she says and she has stopped loving me some time back because she doesn't care about me.
yes these words hurt and I hear them over and over in my head. I'm a single parent do I kick her out, change the locks? I want her to see a professional therapist but I'm not having any cooperation on that from her, she says she's 18 and I can't make her, but you live under my roof?!