I'm LOSING my mind!!

Erinn - posted on 07/07/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My daughter Ava, she's 8 months old, is the fussiest baby i've ever known!!!! She just got out of the hospital for severe constipation, dehydration and major weakness. She was labeled "failure to thrive" and we're waiting to hear the results of some of the tests. The problem is.... all she ever does is scream, not really cry, but scream. My DH and I have done all we can do for her right now, but the constant screaming is taking a huge toll on me and making me horribly upset and depressed!!!!! I just really need to vent and get this pent up frustration out..... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr :**(

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Laura - posted on 08/07/2009

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what about warm baths with the new bath stuff soothe and relax babies that is made by johnson and johnson with Aloe. maybe it will help her relax, I hpoe this works

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Hi Erinn, I agree with some of the other replies. Try running the vacuum cleaner. Try the swing. Try taking her outside. For some reason child tend to like being outside. The car ride usually helps also. If none of that works, just let her cry for a while. My grandma use to say it is good for their lungs. Let the doctors see if there is a serious problem; other than that she might just be adjusting. As for you, make sure you get some time to yourself to release/relieve the stress. Always get away and take some "me" time. Good luck.

Dolores - posted on 08/07/2009

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My mother-in-law told me that her second born was like that! She said they later found out that his collar bone was broken during birth. I agree with the others that said chiropractic care may help. I see a chiropractor weekly and I've seen her adjust many, many babies and young children. The claim is that birth is the most traumatic event that your body will go through and a c-section birth is supposedly worse than a vaginal. A sublaxation (misalignment) can affect anything and everything in the body, including the constipation. She may have celiac disease which can go along with everything else. Please don't give up, vent away, and please keep us posted about how she's doing.

Amber - posted on 08/05/2009

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my son was colic and i deff understand wat u are going through...i had to change his fomula and i would lay him down and massage him with the night time lotion when he got cranky and it helped calm him down

Jenn - posted on 08/05/2009

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First of all, I have to say you have a very beautiful name, Erinn True! Next, we had a our second son who cried a lot after we got him home. Called the nurses for help, they said warm a receiving blanket in the dryer for a minute and then swaddle the baby. They thought the baby either missed being tight inside the womb or had gas. Maybe it was both...anyways, we did that and within like 15 seconds, our son conked out asleep. Do you ever try taking baby for a drive or maybe put Ava in the swing while you are vacuuming? Maybe she'd like a warm bath or some soothing Phil Collins or Bach or Mozart music. Just some ideas that might help and that helped us. Good luck and God bless you all! Sincerely, Jenn

Jane - posted on 08/05/2009

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i hope you found whats up with your little one my eldest kept screaming all day every day and only stopped when his dad came in from work i felt like throwing him across the room but when i got like that i would put him in the pram and go for a walk as the movement seemed to ease him but every time i stopped pushing the pram and there was a slight noice he would wake up and start screaming again he seemed to bring his feed up every time i fed him and for eighteen months his little knees would be bent up and it was only when i had my second a daughter that i realised that he had colic for eighteen months. when i did take him to the doctors got told that it was because he was my first and the baby could feel how i was feeling so i think i know how you feel. oh by the way when my son was about four months old i found out that he would settle down for a while when i had the vacume on so when i had to do little jobs that i what i did put vac on so that i could do the dishes or load the wshing mchine all th ebig jobs had to wait for hubby to get home. sorry for going on

Amanda - posted on 07/15/2009

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ive been there......its worth it in the end though ............ get a baby sitter and get out for an hour or two.........you'd be surprise what a difference it makes

Jean - posted on 07/09/2009

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My daughter Nora screamed for the frist 8 weeks of her life 22 hours a day. after 20 trips to Dr. and 5 to E.R. my husband had lost his mind to see his wife and baby in so much pain. He was totaly out of line and made Dr. admitte her to hosp. and call in orther DR's. but in 12 hours they had found that she had interal acid refulx. She was not spitting up she was sowolling her vomit and her throat was so soar. It took changing her to a forumal with predisgested protines and some zantc. She was the happy baby from then on,.

Lacretia - posted on 07/08/2009

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I'm sorry for your frustration, Erinn. What is she eating? It sounds like she needs a change in diet. I would recommend, in addition to giving her a gentler formula, to add the ShakleeBaby Multivitamin & Multimineral Powder to her diet. It can be found at http://healthsciences.myshaklee.com/prod...

Lynn - posted on 07/08/2009

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I agree that you should persist with the doctor visits as long as it takes. I'm in no position to give medical advice, but I think I can speak to you about how you're feeling. I want you to know that it won't last forever, even though it may seem like it will. Please talk to your doctor about your depression. I understand what you're going through and there is help. Medications are out there to help get you through this. You don't have to stay on them long, but they can help pull you out of that hole you probably feel like you're in. It won't solve your problems, but it can help you through them. I wish you and your family the best.

Lesley - posted on 07/08/2009

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Hang in there! My eldest cried, hardly slept and needed to be held from birth. Eventually a doctor discovered she had a bladder infection. She is now 27 years old, has been away from home for several years and I really miss her... time flies. If it's any consolation, I found the baby years the most difficult - even the teen years were better! Les Morgan

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Constipation and screaming, she probably is having an allergic type reaction to something she is consuming or if she is breast feeding, what you are eating. Take her to a Naturopathic Doctor for assessment. Dairy and gluten/wheat are the most common culprits. Figure this out and you will save her from other health problems later on (chronic infections, constipation, etc.).

Michelle - posted on 07/07/2009

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My brother's little girl behaved the same way and it turned out to be acid reflux. My neice had to go on meds for it and since then she's been fine. I hope everything turns out well for you! It seems like you've been having it rough the last little while! I'll be thinking about you and your family:)

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4 children later I am still learning to be a mom. One of the things I have found most helpful is the book called " The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems" by Tracy Hogg. It has help me understand how to ask the right questions to diagnose whats happening with your baby. One thing I have learned is that you never let a baby go more then 14 days but on that note by 12 or 13 I will get a suppository and use it. I can not stand seeing my baby in pain. Also lactulose syrup works. One of my children at seven months was also lable at failure to thrive ..... He lost weight to 13 pounds they did every type of test to see what was wrong and they came back saying he was healthy. We saw a dietician and she was really helpful. We had to put him on special expensive formula and load his diet with calories to help him. We also gave him water to drink because he sweated so much. He eventually started gaining on his own. He is now 3 and after being a pain in neck to all the doctors we have found out he is allergic to milk, an airborne pathogen called cladosporium and has possible sleep apnea(still working on it). The constipation and screaming sound like and allergy to me. On a web page http://www.aaeclinics.com.au/Allergies/T... the list Digestive symptoms of Allergies.



Reactions affecting the digestive system are usually caused by foods such as salicylates, amines, grains, dairy, yeast, coffee and caffeine. Digestive symptoms include:bloating,cramping,gas,nausea,constipation,diarrhoea

Acid reflux is also in this category.

Acid reflux can be caused by an intolerance to salicylates, sugars, dairy, caffeine, spices and acids.

My son also had acid reflux when he was little too. We found putting a rolled up towel or a book under the mattress helped alot with that. Also we would take a burbing blanket and fold it until it was the width of his stomach and gently wrap it arounf his tummy. We called it a cumberbund. It is like putting your hand on the tummy and it alleviates the pressure. Try requesting an allergy test and seeing a dietician and dont give up. It has taken me three years to finally start getting results and I do mean just getting started. As for sanity I am sorry I lost that after the second one. Well some of it. I am just beginning to figure out how important "my time" is to keep me going and not becoming a bit detached from it all. Find something you enjoy doing and schedule a time in each day to do it. For me I do a different thing each day so it does not become mundane and another thing for me to have to do. Depression is a hard thing to work with. Some of things I have tried that have worked is writing in a journal to release pent of feelings. I learned this from a hospital program on treating different types of depression. Ti Chi is also good for becoming more balanced. The most important thing that I have found that works is to think about all the things I am greatful for. Sometimes I have to start with the little things such as being able to see, hear, touch etc. Then get a little bigger. Just remeber be persistent, dont give up, find the good things in life and if all else fails scream in a pillow so know one will here you. Oh and a good cry in the shower works too. You come out feeling better and no puffy eyes which is evidence you were crying. Keep up the good work and know that you are not alone.

Lucy - posted on 07/07/2009

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I truly feel for you and your family. It can't be easy, the best thing you can do for yourself, your husband and your daughter.. is walk away and take a break! Ask a family member or a trusted friend to babysit the baby just for a short period so that you can catch a breather and recompose yourself. Another thing, you can do if you don't already is find an outlet.. maybe an exercise class, maybe a gym somewhere you can relieve your frustration! Good luck and God bless!!

Nichole - posted on 07/07/2009

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I agree with a few other's replies. Two things that I noticed through friends was bones out of alignment..which resulted in a chiropractor visit (and yes, even on babies) and acid reflux. I would definitely keep taking her to the pediatrician. If your not using one, I would find one and definitely start going. If it takes more than one visit, so be it. Be persistant! YOU know that something is wrong, YOU are the one that knows your baby the best so PUSH it! I get extremely bitchy and irritated when I take my little one in and they ignore my thoughts/feelings on what's going on. So I get loud until they hear me! If you have a doctor that won't listen to you, find one! There are ones out there that believe that a mother's intuition is usually dead on. If Ava is screaming not just crying, something is wrong, even if it's just colic. Maybe she's having problems digesting food, maybe she's allergic to milk/formula you are using, maybe she has acid relux (which seems to be being diagnosed in babies more often now), maybe her bones need adjusting..whatever the problem is..be relentless in finding the answers. Better safe than sorry. And definitely find someone, even if it's just one person, who is willing to allow you guys a break away even if it's just for an hour at a time. In the mean time, try anything you can to alleviate some of it. Try different techniques..like 'white noise' (my oldest liked running faucets-would shut him up instantly during a screaming fit, my youngest likes faucets and fans), swaddler her tight, if it's digestion problems then try pushing her knees into her chest and hold her that way (there is a digestion problem called Celiac's disease), try alternating her foods. Something IS wrong with her and I hope you persist in finding out what it is. Good luck and my thoughts are with you!

Jade - posted on 07/07/2009

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hiya just read you story she might be teething have you tryied teething gel please let me know

Savannah - posted on 07/07/2009

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It really sounds like she's in pain or something. My parents said that I screamed constantly for most of my 1st 18 months of life unless they held me. They went to the chiropracter and it turned out that my neck was out really bad and had been since I was born and the only time that it didn't hurt was when they were holding me. It took the pressure off, I guess. They just thought I was a really fussy baby but after that I was fine. It's a thought, anyway.

I'm sorry you are going through that. It is so frustrating when your baby is upset and you don't know what is wrong and doctors don't give it the attention it deserves.

Libby - posted on 07/07/2009

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Well sweetie, it is totally ok to vent here with us. We all understand to some point or another what you are going through. I'd rather have you vent here than get upset around the baby. That's not good for either of you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. My friend had a very fussy baby too, and as someone else said it was from acid reflux. Has Ava been checked for that? I know for my friend it was a hard year and a half or so for her. Hang in there, it will get better!

Peta - posted on 07/07/2009

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Was she screaming like this in hospital? What is different. My middle daughter wouldnt drink any type of milk, I mean any. We got around this with tea and food(vita brits, home made puree fruits and vegies at night). Wind pain is severe, if she has been constipated her tubes would at least be tender..I feel for you, but sounds like back to doctor. better safe than sorry.

Laura - posted on 07/07/2009

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I feel for you. My middle son was (now I've forgotten the word) always crying from 6-9 at night for only 2 months and it drove me crazy so I can't imagine what you are going through. It's also hard to ask someone to come in and relieve you when you know how difficult it is but maybe you can explain to someone your situation and get yourself a break. I have a friend who's son did that, cried from sun up to sun down and sometimes in the middle of the night, I remember her saying they thought he hated them. Right around the age of 2 he was diagnosed with high functioning autism. He's sensative to light, to the texture of some fabrics, her milk came to fast for him, can't stand to frush his teeth, too much noise bothers him. Luckily it was caught early, he started therapy, and at eight now he is doing well. He was integrated into regular classrooms but she is home schooling now. Alot of the maintenance of his condition is done through diet, she does all organic foods and there are alot of things he just can't have. But he is happy and thriving and the situation is in control. I of course am not a doctor and don't know you child but this is the one situation that sounds similar, keep it in mind because if it is what's going on it's best to find out early and get the help you need. Keep pushing the doctors. It's not right that a baby is that way.

Vicki - posted on 07/07/2009

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Sounds like something is upsetting her.

Keep taking her back to the Doctor until they take you seriously, and get a Paediatrician referral.

Look after yourself, surround yourself with good friends or family who can give you a break and try to get sleep when you can.

Take care!

Emma - posted on 07/07/2009

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bless you sounds like you've got it bad

try lots of different foods for your little one and try to remember what she likes my little girl has 3 milks and 3 meals a day i found it easiest to do a scedule of when and what to give her just so i didnt forget as she is my first

also take it in turns with you partner or some one you trust with her so that you both get a break away even if its just for hour or a drive round the block so so you have time to think clearly make time to play with noisy toys to try and destract her you probably do this already my little one wont drink water or juice so she gets constipated alot try putting extra water in her milk feeds it does help a bit and i get a baby food with prunes in it every now and then to help clear her out might sound bizzar but it works and she is a lot happier after i hope some of ths helps feel free to contact me any time x

Emma

Lisa - posted on 07/07/2009

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Does she have acid reflux? My son used scream awful screams all the time because he was in pain from acid reflux and once we put him on meds after a couple weeks he was much better.

Lisa - posted on 07/07/2009

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Does she have acid reflux? My son used scream awful screams all the time because he was in pain from acid reflux and once we put him on meds after a couple weeks he was much better.

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