I'm new here and would like some advice ..

Melaidy - posted on 11/22/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm new here and would really like some advice.
I've searched for multiple sites that I thought would be able to help me out and I got nowhere 😔 I'm a 22yr old Mom with a 2yr old and one on the way. My husband has recently been served with papers (child support) for a child he really had no idea about. He talked to the mother of this child which had been stalking and harassing me for the past 3yrs and we all decided to get along for the child's sake in case he is the father. Everything was good until last night when we received a message from another girl saying he could be the father of her child too. She said she didn't want to come after him for child support all she wants is communication with my husband. To get to the bottom of it, he called her. She refused to talk to him with me around but he told her he was alone even though I was standing there. She stated that she's not sure how her child could be his since he never had intercourse with her. Or there being any possibility because he did not cum. But now 3yrs later she is coming out saying he's the father. He talked to her a few years ago after she had her son and she never mentioned to him he could be the father. It all seems a little weird. Do I stick by him or do I leave him?

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Melaidy - posted on 11/22/2015

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Yes, both of these girls were involved with him a month or two before I met him. The first girl that has asked for child support he never denied having intercourse with. The second girl that just came out of nowhere saying he could be the father to her child too has said she's not sure how her son could be his but wants to clear out the possibilities. He told her he would take a DNA test but what's strange is she doesn't want the courts to be involved. She wants it to be done privately. This is 3yrs after her son was born. And all because my husband's sister told her the little boy looks just like him. This is coming from this girl. Not to mention my husband hasn't spoken to his sister for a few years and she happens to be friends with both girls. We contacted a lawyer and he seems to think they are all working together.

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2015

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Your husband needs to get a DNA test done before agreeing to pay any child support. For BOTH children. With regard to sticking by him or leaving him, this all happened before you knew him, right? If you love him, you can support him but if it is because you don't trust him, then that's something you need to work on.

Michelle - posted on 11/22/2015

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I would be getting DNA tests done to prove one way or the other.
Once you have those results then you can decide what to do. If he got the girls pregnant when he was with you then you need to decide if you can forgive him.
If the tests come back that he's not the Father then you also need to discuss why these girls think he could have been the Father.
If you weren't together when all that happened then why would you leave him? If you trust him then you can carry on with your lives.

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