I'm pregnant and he's freaked out.

Veronica - posted on 08/28/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 36 years old and just found out this week that I'm pregnant. This pregnancy was not planned however I am very excited. I have a great job, health benefits and wonderful family .....I have a ton of emotional support. However the one person who should be the most supportive is being the least supportive. My boyfriend didn't want kids and is in shock ....He knows that abortion isn't an option and loves me but he's upset and distant and ignoring phone calls. He even suggested that I got pregnant on purpose which is absolutely ridiculous. He says he needs time to absorb everything. Should I break up with him ? Or give him space ?

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Michelle - posted on 08/29/2014

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Well if you weren't on birth control yourself then how can he say you fell pregnant on purpose.
I'd say he's in shock and will probably come around. At least he's told his family, that's a big step towards accepting it.
Good luck with everything and he has some time to accept things so don't rush him. A lot of men say they don't want children but when they come along they wouldn't give them up for the world.

Gena - posted on 08/28/2014

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Thats great that he is going to be there for you and the baby! My advice would be to just give him some time. And btw congratulations :)

Veronica - posted on 08/28/2014

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Hi Gena - I was not on birth control and he new that. We were using condoms and spermicide. He said he thinks I did it on purpose because a few months ago I brought up moving in together and he said he wasn't ready yet which I completely understand. He said maybe I was trying to speed the process along....which is ridiculous....I would never get pregnant to keep a guy around. I've always been very independent and have take care of myself. He told his parents about the pregnancy tonight and told me he's terrified but he's gonna be there for me and the baby.

Gena - posted on 08/28/2014

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Where you on birthcontrol? I am just asking because you mentioned he said you got pregnant on purpose.How long have you been together? Maybe he just needs some time to handle the fact that he is going to be a father. I would give him some time.

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